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Aswad -> RE: Who declared you a Master/Dom? (6/26/2008 1:25:23 AM)
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-FR to the OP-
It is a rare man that willingly wears the nick "PinkPlushToy," but he might be worth waiting for. [:D]
That said, I wonder how many realize that its use as an appelation is primarily that of an adult addressing a child of a certain age? It can be used of a craftsman, of course, but I have only seen that occur as an adjective in passing, apart from cases where it is either woefully inadequate or highly traditional. Generally, I would think people use it in the sense it has in BDSM parlance, which- like in all language- is defined by its accepted and common use; perhaps sadly, that use can be summarized as: "male that identifies as a dominant."
I would like to see the word applied with some consistency, and tied to the nature of the relationships sought, rather than to skill, but the notion that there is any distinction between D/s and M/s is in itself something that there is no consensus on in the communities. Either way, I've come to the conclusion that I don't really like the notion of tying it to skill, as we all start out somewhere, and our progress from that point is hardly a simple thing to quantify. Neither is it all that important; if you work well together, and he's responsible enough to study and progress at a pace that is commensurate with your joint definition of acceptable risk, there's not going to be a point where the appellation is truly inapplicable.
And, in the end, would you really want a universal standard for it?
Who would have the authority to say yea or nay?
"Buyer beware" holds doubly when shopping for doms, and "Master" is not the ISO-9001 of BDSM.
Health,
al-Aswad.
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