Dominatrix versus Mistress (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress



Message

GentlemanBobIII -> Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/19/2008 11:17:17 PM)

What difference, if any is there between a mistress and a dominatrix? I've seen both terms in these forums and am unclear  if the terms are interchangeable or if they really are two seperate albeit similair people? I'm a newbie so I apologise if this question seems stupid. Thanks for your reply, Bob




















RumpusParable -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/19/2008 11:29:30 PM)

There is no set difference between any of the names for a dominant female... dom, domme, domina, dominatrix, miss, madam, ma'am, mistress, and so on.   While "dominatrix" is generaly used towards females who do domination and topping professionally (only or in addition to lifestyle/for-free of the same) it isn't set in stone.  You'll find that each person, male and female and other, tend to have their own personal take on the meaning and use of each referrent.



GentlemanBobIII -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/19/2008 11:47:25 PM)

 First of all thank you for answering my question. Secondly you are a very beautiful  lady esp your eyes. A man could lose himself in those eyes. Finally, I used to live in upstate NY in Cortland and Poughkeepsie. Again thank you maam, Bob



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/20/2008 1:23:44 AM)

Most have a personal preference about titles and a reason behind it. To me, a Dominatrix us much more likely to be a Pro while a Mistress is not. Hoever, I know in my head, that's really rubbish. People use what they want to use. If you ever run into a problem with knowing what to call someone, just ask what they prefer. Some don't like for you to use a title at all.

Master Fire



Racquelle -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/20/2008 1:34:53 AM)

On a personal level, I escew titles.  I am Racquelle, a dominant woman.   The lovely, gorgeous, ravishing HRH Empress Doctor MasterFireMa'am, Esq. is right when she suggests the best thing to do is ask a person how he or she wishes to be addressed.  But, as I learned from my old friend Holiday Kent, it's never wrong to put "lovely, gorgeous and ravishing" in front of any woman's title.  ;)

The term Dominatrix typically implies being professional.



MissMagnolia -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/20/2008 1:41:41 AM)

When talking to people not in the lifestyle, I've found the term Dominatrix conjours up visions of a leather clad Goddess (who dresses like that 24/7), who is forever barking out orders. These Goddesses never sleep, smile, have kids or get colds, menstruate or have bad hair days.

I use Miss, simply because I like to keep a slave at arms length and like the formality of having a "title", such as it is.



Politesub53 -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/20/2008 1:45:52 AM)

Ravishing Racquelle has quite a ring to it. 

( Am i learning ) < Insert mischievious smile >

Edits for spelling..... Oppsies



Politesub53 -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/20/2008 1:47:31 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

When talking to people not in the lifestyle, I've found the term Dominatrix conjours up visions of a leather clad Goddess (who dresses like that 24/7), who is forever barking out orders. These Goddesses never sleep, smile, have kids or get colds, menstruate or have bad hair days.

I use Miss, simply because I like to keep a slave at arms length and like the formality of having a "title", such as it is.



Very True Ma`am, but what would You do to me ?

Grins even more mischieviously



rubberpet -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/20/2008 4:15:12 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Ravishing Racquelle has quite a ring to it. 

( Am i learning ) < Insert mischievious smile >

Edits for spelling..... Oppsies


OK, down boy.  No, really...down, boy!  I bet she prefers a man on his knees when they suck-up to her and grovel....[;)]



Lynnxz -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/20/2008 4:20:35 AM)

Typically, I'll only use the term dominatrix with people unfamiliar with the lifestyle. No particular reason except that they are much more likely to have heard of the term "dominatrix" as opposed to any other term.



Reigna -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/20/2008 1:37:39 PM)

I am a female dominant. A domme. A dominatrix. I'm Mistress to my submissive. Chopping the grammatical logic: local usage (i.e., usage in my household) specifies that the first three terms are descriptive nouns, and the fourth term is an honorific.



AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/21/2008 8:52:22 PM)

Hi.

In our opinion a Dominatrix is a professional Mistress, and a Mistress could be either pro or non-pro. Mistress is a title and Dominatrix is a job description.

And Lifestyle Mistress could mean any Mistress (pro or nonpro) who lives the lifestyle 24-7.

Hope this helps. :)




DiurnalVampire -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/21/2008 8:58:24 PM)

Mistress, Dominatrix and any of the other handful or so popularized titles are fairly interchangable. Though, as others have said, Dominatrix is usualy a pro since it is one of the more recognizable terms for those of us females of Dominant ilk.
Personally, I dislike titles overall. Dominatrix and Mistress are the titles that have been made overly popular in media and among the vanilla crowd.

DV



DelilahDeb -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/22/2008 12:09:15 AM)

Most of the options have already been covered; to add my $2, I describe myself a domina, in part because it's good sound Latin instead of faux French, and in part because I hate how some folks try to pronounce the faux French (dom-may! gag me). If and when I establish a domina/sub relationship with someone, the honoric that I prefer he or she use is Lady Delilah Deb, or m'Lady. Mistress is a word fraught with baggage that I eschew.

Lady Delilah Deb




Untouched1282 -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/22/2008 12:45:14 AM)

This type of etymological issues has plagued my experience from the start.



MadameMarque -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/22/2008 5:40:32 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

There is no set difference between any of the names for a dominant female... dom, domme, domina, dominatrix, miss, madam, ma'am, mistress, and so on.   While "dominatrix" is generaly used towards females who do domination and topping professionally (only or in addition to lifestyle/for-free of the same) it isn't set in stone.  You'll find that each person, male and female and other, tend to have their own personal take on the meaning and use of each referrent.


This is precisely my understanding of "dominatrix," and about general use of these various terms; other than indicating someone dominant, the implications these words hold vary from person to person, from place to place, and preferences for one term or another are personal. 
 
The one thing I can tell you is universal, is that if you're going to use the word "domme," it is pronounced "dom."  As I understand it, "domme" is not actually a French word, it's a coined term, a feminization of "dom," using the French feminine.  ("Domme" is, however, a region in France.)  But if you're going to use the fake French word (I like to use it), it should be pronounced without the extra syllable (don't say, dom-may). 
 
"Dominatrix" is French.  Perhaps some native French speaker here could tell us whether its implications in French also vary, pro or non-pro.  I rather like the term and was sad when it took on more the implication of a professional.
 
 



NumberSix -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/22/2008 6:07:25 AM)

'trix' is Latin; I should think.
as in:

fellatrix (a woman)
fellator or fellatore (a man)

or as in:

Trixie Belden and the case of the lost blowjob.

6  



TexasMaam -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/22/2008 4:02:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Reigna

I am a female dominant. A domme. A dominatrix. I'm Mistress to my submissive. Chopping the grammatical logic: local usage (i.e., usage in my household) specifies that the first three terms are descriptive nouns, and the fourth term is an honorific.


En Fin! Sentience!

TM



TexasMaam -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/22/2008 4:09:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MadameMarque

"Dominatrix" is French.  Perhaps some native French speaker here could tell us whether its implications in French also vary, pro or non-pro.  I rather like the term and was sad when it took on more the implication of a professional.



Dominatrix and Dominatrice are used equally in France these days.  Use of the term grammatically indicates the individual's identity, they are descriptive nouns. "I heard she is a Dominatrix". "I am a Dominatrice." 

It can also be used as an honorific, as in 'May I introduce you to Dominatrice Suzanne', and there, as here, the title varies between individuals.

TM



Politesub53 -> RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress (6/22/2008 4:12:04 PM)

Why is it every time i read this title, i start to think " Mud Wrestling " ?

Am i a pervert  ?   [8D]




Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
0.03125