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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/24/2008 3:37:06 PM   
goldentriangle


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Status: offline 		A well timed thread! I'm an unowned sub and have been chatting to a Dom for a year, on and off. I mentioned that I had a long time fantasy of being gang-banged and we have finally managed to agree a time and place (we're in different countries). He is going to organise the participants (!) and will be present, overseeing and ensuring my well-being but not involved. For me screwing 3 or 4 men isn't a particular turn on but the fact that it will be closely controlled by a very Dominant man who will punish me afterwards - regardless of whether I perform well or badly - is hugely erotic.

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/24/2008 3:44:27 PM   
Prinsexx


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Prinsexx, it doesn't necessarily have to be a gang-bang, just your dom(me) sharing you with others, either with your express consent, or just the assumed consent we bring to these relationships.

Then in one relationship sharing me with others was his major turn on. I have topped a woman for him, (as I am a bisexual and an alpha female slave this was a huge turn on for me.)
Being 'voyered' by him and another male was also a huge turn on for both males.
Being exchanged is also hot for me BUT I always insist that I am allowed to keep my limits. Thugh the other sub/slave that I am exchanged with might have different limits that would not be consodered a reciprocity deal. I love to be voyeured whilst performing with another man especuially if it is a D type who wants me to top him....I guess I just love to top.
I also like the attention from the enitr room.....being fisted, electro tormented, oral fucked all at the same time is kind of wow...all for me.....
there are certain rules for me: sdafe sex, no pissing in my mouth except from my D.
It's hot hot hot.
I have done MMF, MFM, and MFMF in what I call my 'swinger perod' but 3 one one just for the sake of it doesn't do it for me without the bdsm element. It is at its hottest if it is done as a service for my D. Although saying that there is a monogamous side to me emerging the older I get. enforced monogamy though goes against my essential nature. I think that if I had one owner and he had a 'hareem' then that would take care of my monogamous trait.
Cautions include the prevalence of STD's, the rise and fall of jealousy as an emotion (although as a masochist I perceive my own rise and fall of jealousy as a tturn on), the prevalence of STD's and heightened risk taking. There seems to me to be a kind of unbridled energy that exists in group sex (not necessarily in bdsm without sex) that makes it sort of tribal and there is a danger that physical harm to me could esily occur. An example of this is that it is easy to get DP'd 9double penetration) in the ehat of the moment especially when taken from behind.


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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/24/2008 7:20:31 PM   
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During the past several years, right now, and into the foreseeable future, I have not and will not be sharing my slave(s) with other men.  I'm simply not interested in it. 

However, if I ever was interested in it, softness (or whoever was/is my slave) would be expected to comply with grace, enthusiasm and lubriciousness.  Failing to do so would be failing to do her duty to me.  As a slave, she doesn't get to select her sex partners, nor does she get to select what sex acts she will engage in.  She's a slave... owned meat.  If I hand my dogs leash to another person, I expect the dog to heel as trained.  That's what it is to be owned.



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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/24/2008 7:23:47 PM   
GreedyTop


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ok,I think I just puddled.....


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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/24/2008 7:26:32 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		On another board there are two subs who have spoken about this. Both of them edge players, both very self aware people. Both found that it altered their relationships permanently causing the relationships to fail.

I know I'm not strong enough for this, so there is no way I would agree to do something that would be so destructive to me for someone when I also know that I would no longer be with, or care for, this someone afterwards.

I'm sure there are women who can keep a good and healthy relationship going after such an experience. But I've never heard of one.

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/24/2008 7:53:50 PM   
VioletAshes


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Status: offline 		I've only ever had a good experience in a gang bang when I was single. It is not something I would want to do in a relationship.

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/24/2008 10:13:39 PM   
BlkMgkCarpet


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Status: offline 		I've often been lent out to a group of four or five bachelors for a night or a weekend, as I mentioned in the 'gangbang' thread in the 'submissive' forum. I've always enjoyed it, my Master's have always enjoyed it, and the men I've been lent to have always savored it. 

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/24/2008 11:06:16 PM   
graceadieu


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Status: offline 		Interesting reading this thread. I've never done it, but being "lent" to others like a toy is a big fantasy of mine.

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/25/2008 7:53:04 AM   
SirDominic


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkVictory

She's a slave... owned meat. If I hand my dogs leash to another person, I expect the dog to heel as trained. That's what it is to be owned.


Wellllll, that's your opinion, and you are welcome to it. As for myself, my slave is not a piece of meat. She is a human being who has joined with me in a spiraling journey of intensity through Domination and submission. The operative word being "joined". We are equal in worth, but not equal in power, to coin a classic phrase. My promise to her from the beginning was that everything I did, I did to build her up, not tear her down. THAT is what it is to be owned.

As for gang-bangs. I am aware of many that have gone off with great success. In every case it was the submissives fantasy to have it happen, and the scene was staged in a controlled environment. If the sub enjoys gang-bang fantasies, I don't forsee any harm coming from the experience.

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/25/2008 8:29:24 AM   
born4serving


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Status: offline 		I think its a great idea. As a slave, being able to give yourself up to someone else of Your Dommes choice is really good espcially if you are not always attracted to them, but knowing that it will put a smile on Your Domme is all that matters to me.

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/25/2008 9:25:49 AM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirDominic
Wellllll, that's your opinion, and you are welcome to it. As for myself, my slave is not a piece of meat. She is a human being who has joined with me in a spiraling journey of intensity through Domination and submission. The operative word being "joined". We are equal in worth, but not equal in power, to coin a classic phrase. My promise to her from the beginning was that everything I did, I did to build her up, not tear her down. THAT is what it is to be owned.


Interesting exchange.  It is obvious, as we've seen on these boards so many times, that being owned means very different things to different people. 

But I wanted to comment on the sentence I bolded.  Maybe for some, being a piece of meat does build them up.  Sometimes for me, that is exactly what I need, and that is how my Master will look at me and treat me.  And I'm soaring when he does, never happier.  But I'm many things - like many, I am a complex being.  I am not only a piece of meat.  I am not only valuable goods.  I am not only a sweet little girl curled up at his feet.  I am all of that and more.  That's what builds me up - that he feeds my multiple personalities in the way he treats me. 

So for me, the thought of a gang bang means tossing this piece of meat to a room of wild dogs, to devour and use and enjoy.  And from experience in other potential horrifying, humiliating, debasing, and "extreme" circumstances, I know my focus remains intensely on my Master, and as long as it does, all is well.  THAT is what it is to be owned! 

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/25/2008 9:40:32 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		OG.. have I mentioned that you rock?? :) *hug*

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/25/2008 11:50:29 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Awww, thanks GT.  That made me smile after this long and very full day. 

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/26/2008 2:46:35 AM   
DarkVictory


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirDominic

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkVictory

She's a slave... owned meat. If I hand my dogs leash to another person, I expect the dog to heel as trained. That's what it is to be owned.


Wellllll, that's your opinion, and you are welcome to it. As for myself, my slave is not a piece of meat. (SNIP)

Took me a while to figure out what it was that bugged me about your reply.  Then I teased it out.

NO.  This is not my opinion, it IS how our relationship is.  You don't get a vote on how softness and I regard her role.  Her role is 'owned meat' - period.  I didn't tell you that your [redacted] slave is meat, did I?  No, I said mine was.  That's cause she is.

I hope that's a clear point.  If not, I can add diagrams.



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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/26/2008 4:55:45 AM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		would love to be in a gangbang with 4 or 5 ladys wearing strapons ..bet that would be fun indeed  then after they could all fist me and use me anyway they saw fit  sounds like a great birthday present ..have to talk to my mistress to see if something like that could ever be setup ..maybe throw in a real cock or 2 when i was blindfolded to see if i could tell the difference ,ahhh the possibilities ....... mal

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/26/2008 6:43:30 AM   
lovepuppy


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Being given to others isn't necessarily the same as a gang bang either.  Having your slave go to organize someone else's closet isn't the same as having them give you a blow job.


I don't know.  Anybody with lips can give a blowjob..but someone who could actually organize my closet and keep it that way, I might lock the girl away in a tower (full of closets of course)

I am just picturing the conversation:  "you were at home depot weren't you?"...."Did you fold his sweaters?!?" the rest of the picture sorta turns into a warner brothers cartoon so is not really fit to print. 

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/26/2008 6:54:07 AM   
SkinnyDip


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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie
Interesting exchange.  It is obvious, as we've seen on these boards so many times, that being owned means very different things to different people. 

But I wanted to comment on the sentence I bolded.  Maybe for some, being a piece of meat does build them up.  Sometimes for me, that is exactly what I need, and that is how my Master will look at me and treat me.  And I'm soaring when he does, never happier.  But I'm many things - like many, I am a complex being.  I am not only a piece of meat.  I am not only valuable goods.  I am not only a sweet little girl curled up at his feet.  I am all of that and more.  That's what builds me up - that he feeds my multiple personalities in the way he treats me. 

So for me, the thought of a gang bang means tossing this piece of meat to a room of wild dogs, to devour and use and enjoy.  And from experience in other potential horrifying, humiliating, debasing, and "extreme" circumstances, I know my focus remains intensely on my Master, and as long as it does, all is well.  THAT is what it is to be owned! 


I appreciate that you said this. I've always balked and put limits on even the idea of most types of as you put it "potential horrifying, humiliating, debasing, and "extreme" circumstances".

True, I haven't seen it for myself and after reading about some experiences some of you seem to be extremely happy. I'm still not sure it's for me, but I thank you for the inisght into a thought process and perhaps eventually an activity or way of pleasing my Dom that I may have been too afraid to experience before.

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/26/2008 7:01:13 AM   
christine1


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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

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Well...duh...


blushy, you are adorable!

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/26/2008 8:05:34 AM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: SkinnyDip

True, I haven't seen it for myself and after reading about some experiences some of you seem to be extremely happy. I'm still not sure it's for me, but I thank you for the inisght into a thought process and perhaps eventually an activity or way of pleasing my Dom that I may have been too afraid to experience before.


Thank you for your comments, and for being open to the idea that some of the things that might turn one person off might thrill someone else, and vice versa.

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RE: Giving your slave to, or being given to others - 6/26/2008 9:04:54 AM   
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I hear over and over again how it 'broke something' either inside of them, their partner, their relationship, or a combination.


Yep, been there done that, and yes it does.


Fact or opinion?
Bare in mind it broke nothing in me.


Presumably the 'fact' would be that she personally found it broke something in her relationship in her experience. That would also be her 'opinion' then.
I think she was only referring to her own experience not extrapolating it to mean it would be the same for everyone.

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