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How to approach a "vanilla" sub?? - 11/7/2005 12:58:31 PM   
tonypad


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Status: offline 		I know of a girl that, to the best of my knowledge, is very vanilla. Although she does appear to have sub-like tendencies from what I can tell. Things like always wanting to please others, always thinking she is at fault, etc. (by the way - I realize all subs aren't like this).

Anyway, how do I approach her with suggesting some "bdsm play"? I mean, let's face it. If she is vanilla then I'll come off as a weirdo/perv!

I have tried to make subtle suggestions such as saying things like "if you don't do that I'll have to smack your ass!". One time she answered "ooo - hard or soft?". I told her "hard". After that it never came up again.
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RE: How to approach a "vanilla" sub?? - 11/7/2005 1:08:15 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: tonypad
Anyway, how do I approach her with suggesting some "bdsm play"? I mean, let's face it. If she is vanilla then I'll come off as a weirdo/perv!

And what's wrong with that? Is she a co-worker? A friend of a friend? What exactly will her opinion of you have impact on in your life?
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I have tried to make subtle suggestions such as saying things like "if you don't do that I'll have to smack your ass!". One time she answered "ooo - hard or soft?". I told her "hard". After that it never came up again.

That's a good start. Ask her on a date. When you get to the "what do you like to do for fun?" section of things, bring up some kinky stuff and how you like to tie a woman down so you can just focus totally on her pleasure. Make it sound great for her.

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RE: How to approach a "vanilla" sub?? - 11/7/2005 1:22:09 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		well if it is someone that you are involved w/ Sir, perhaps some playful soft slaps on the ass doggie style ,see how she responds.
maybe playfully tug on her hair during a deep kiss...........if you get some 'throaty' sounds back.............break her in slowly.

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RE: How to approach a "vanilla" sub?? - 11/7/2005 11:44:50 PM   
michaelMI


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Status: offline 		hmmmmmmmmm, how to approach a "vanilla" sub....maybe try chocolate syrup...always makes vanilla taste better, at least to me.

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RE: How to approach a "vanilla" sub?? - 11/8/2005 11:41:38 AM   
Kasia


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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

well if it is someone that you are involved w/ Sir, perhaps some playful soft slaps on the ass doggie style ,see how she responds.


I find that kind of approach quite common one - and good one too. I had it tried on me..... when I tell the man "do that once again and you will be the one on all fours but for different reason - gathering your teeth on the floor" he pretty much knows where he stands

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