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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 11:50:48 PM

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I've seen a lot of women on here that want to give up all responsibility and be a kid to some sugar daddy again.

I't's cute in a ten year old-not very in anyone over 21.

Some men want to be a sugardaddy.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 11:55:48 PM

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Do you realize that I am ignoring you?

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 12:10:29 AM

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your ads gone so I cannot comment.

Be honest, patient and do it in person and not "on-line"

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 12:11:23 AM

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How? You seem to want to wrangle with me quite a bit for someone who's ignoring me.

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P.S. i don't intend a post I make quoting you to be read as a private email on the other side. Just sometimes a quote makes a reply easier to frame...yours or anyone else's.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 12:43:11 AM

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Angry bashing bitter Doms are so scawrey. I almost choked on my glass of water *LOL* *rolls eyes*

In general about the Daddy Dom thing, I think it's like pony play, nurse play, etc.. Just playing out one aspect of your personality.

Personally, I also think the Daddy Doms (especially the Sugar Daddies) are some of the more caring types of men they often tend to really respect and cherish the femininity of women, and does things in reverence to what they hold dear (which is women). Women aren't built to work, sometimes we do, sometimes we don't. When we don't, that's when we can just be women. :) Sure there's always that so and so is after money, and eventually the truth comes out, so no big deal. Just wait for the truth to reveal itself and don't rush things. Some men love to support a woman, others don't especially if it's all just about money.

I think the guys that want/require women to be equal paying partners, tend to be lazy and leechy, aren't real men, and don't appreciate women. What real man leeches off a woman? unless he paid his dues already for example as a war veteran for instance or spent so many years at work etc, and needs a good woman. But that's just my opinion.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 12:59:45 AM

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I think the guys that want/require women to be equal paying partners, tend to be lazy and leechy, aren't real men, and don't appreciate women. What real man leeches off a woman?

Please tell me that you aren't serious. How, exactly, is an equal partnership where both parties contribute to the household finances "leeching"?

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 1:09:38 AM

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Your profile makes you seem desperate and looking for someone to leech from.

In my opinion.

JillSpade, I'm not singling you out for criticism, just using your post as a handy example.

The Op asked why is it so hard to find a Daddy...she never asked anyone to perv her profile and comment on it.

Seems to me we should stick to the question and answer it 'generically' based on our own experience and opinions, not go looking for reasons why she might be facing barriers that are peculiar to her.

The fact is if you seek a Daddy Dom, you have already decided a percent of all Doms are not going to suit you -- not every Dom is interested in being a Daddy or engaging in age play.

Whether the Op is 19 or 99, this fact does not change. I think we would have better served her -- and each other -- if we answered in ways that are less likely to hurt or make the Op feel defensive, and which might be useful to other submissives who are searching for Daddy Doms.

JMO. Again, not directed at you, JillSpade.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 1:19:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: chickpea

Angry bashing bitter Doms are so scawrey. I almost choked on my glass of water *LOL* *rolls eyes*

In general about the Daddy Dom thing, I think it's like pony play, nurse play, etc.. Just playing out one aspect of your personality.

Personally, I also think the Daddy Doms (especially the Sugar Daddies) are some of the more caring types of men they often tend to really respect and cherish the femininity of women, and does things in reverence to what they hold dear (which is women). Women aren't built to work, sometimes we do, sometimes we don't. When we don't, that's when we can just be women. :) Sure there's always that so and so is after money, and eventually the truth comes out, so no big deal. Just wait for the truth to reveal itself and don't rush things. Some men love to support a woman, others don't especially if it's all just about money.

I think the guys that want/require women to be equal paying partners, tend to be lazy and leechy, aren't real men, and don't appreciate women. What real man leeches off a woman? unless he paid his dues already for example as a war veteran for instance or spent so many years at work etc, and needs a good woman. But that's just my opinion.

Holy cow, chickpea.

It never even occured to me to associate DaddyDoms with financial support -- I'm sure some offer it, while others don't, just like Doms generally.

The fact that you feel 'women aren't built for work' makes me wonder how well you'll do if ever you're in a position where self-sufficiency is necessary. Even if part of a D/s couple,most couples need both incomes to live as they wish. And while this may shock you -- not every woman aspires to life without employment, professional or not.

Work has benefits for anyone -- self-reliance, dignity, a sense of contributing to a community and a familial unit, setting a good example for the next generation, the chance to form friendships with coworkers, intellectual growth, emotional growth, etc.

These things can and are found by 'stay at homes' but not as easily as by workers.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 1:24:15 AM

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The Op asked why is it so hard to find a Daddy...she never asked anyone to perv her profile and comment on it.

Seems to me we should stick to the question and answer it 'generically' based on our own experience and opinions, not go looking for reasons why she might be facing barriers that are peculiar to her.

Ummm... in a question about relationships and seeking, with no info given, how should people have replied if not by looking at the OP's profile to understand what the difficulty might be?

You really can't give "generic" advice about relationships or difficulties finding one with ZERO information to go on, Pink. Last I checked, Daddys aren't any more cookie cutouts than any other type of Dom, and don't come with a "How to catch a Daddy" checklist.
I really don't get your post.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 1:46:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

"profile not found"

I've seen a lot of women on here that want to give up all responsibility and be a kid to some sugar daddy again.

I't's cute in a ten year old-not very in anyone over 21.

My own profile may look that way, but I'm actually willing to make concessions and take things as they come. Though of course I'll favor a Daddy/Daughter relationship over any other, I don't list many things in profile because of lack of experience though, not lack of interest. I expect my interest list covers some base the written text doesn't as far as what I might like.

I do receive much less emails since I modified my profile to its current form, but I'm not complaining too much, as those who contact me are usually interested in ageplay.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 2:56:34 AM

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Cause your pic makes you look like Siamese twins?

Son of a beaver! I went looking for the siamese twin picture and "no profile found"

girly (I must scan threads more regularly).

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 4:38:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

JillSpade, I'm not singling you out for criticism, just using your post as a handy example.

The Op asked why is it so hard to find a Daddy...she never asked anyone to perv her profile and comment on it.

Seems to me we should stick to the question and answer it 'generically' based on our own experience and opinions, not go looking for reasons why she might be facing barriers that are peculiar to her.

The fact is if you seek a Daddy Dom, you have already decided a percent of all Doms are not going to suit you -- not every Dom is interested in being a Daddy or engaging in age play.

Whether the Op is 19 or 99, this fact does not change. I think we would have better served her -- and each other -- if we answered in ways that are less likely to hurt or make the Op feel defensive, and which might be useful to other submissives who are searching for Daddy Doms.

JMO. Again, not directed at you, JillSpade.

candystripper

Without looking at her profile, how can we give reasonable, sound advice? Some people are serious in their request for help or questions and actually listen and read what people say. Without looking, all we are left with are generalized answers that do no one any good. Your experience may not work for someone else, what works for me might not work for her either. The best thing we can do, if we are truly here to try and help, is to answer as specifically as possible to address the issue. General questions call for general answers. Specific questions, specific answers.

And for the record, not every Daddy Dom relationship includes age play. There's all sorts of information on DD's on the forums, a simple search can pull up lots of it. Or look at this link for a small list of previous threads on Daddy Doms.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 5:07:53 AM

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"profile not found"

I've seen a lot of women on here that want to give up all responsibility and be a kid to some sugar daddy again.

I't's cute in a ten year old-not very in anyone over 21.

My own profile may look that way, but I'm actually willing to make concessions and take things as they come. Though of course I'll favor a Daddy/Daughter relationship over any other, I don't list many things in profile because of lack of experience though, not lack of interest. I expect my interest list covers some base the written text doesn't as far as what I might like.

I do receive much less emails since I modified my profile to its current form, but I'm not complaining too much, as those who contact me are usually interested in ageplay.

Sara.. your profile is well written, states what you'd like, gives an idea of what you can offer a Daddy, and doesn't scream "ITS ALL ABOUT ME!!!!" as the OPs profile did :)

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 5:26:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

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Your profile makes you seem desperate and looking for someone to leech from.

In my opinion.

JillSpade, I'm not singling you out for criticism, just using your post as a handy example.

The Op asked why is it so hard to find a Daddy...she never asked anyone to perv her profile and comment on it.

Seems to me we should stick to the question and answer it 'generically' based on our own experience and opinions, not go looking for reasons why she might be facing barriers that are peculiar to her.

The fact is if you seek a Daddy Dom, you have already decided a percent of all Doms are not going to suit you -- not every Dom is interested in being a Daddy or engaging in age play.

Whether the Op is 19 or 99, this fact does not change. I think we would have better served her -- and each other -- if we answered in ways that are less likely to hurt or make the Op feel defensive, and which might be useful to other submissives who are searching for Daddy Doms.

JMO. Again, not directed at you, JillSpade.

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Everyone else has already posted what I was going to say, but much better than I. So I'll just add: the mind boggles. I think it's appropriate.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 6:34:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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The Op asked why is it so hard to find a Daddy...she never asked anyone to perv her profile and comment on it.

Seems to me we should stick to the question and answer it 'generically' based on our own experience and opinions, not go looking for reasons why she might be facing barriers that are peculiar to her.

Ummm... in a question about relationships and seeking, with no info given, how should people have replied if not by looking at the OP's profile to understand what the difficulty might be?

You really can't give "generic" advice about relationships or difficulties finding one with ZERO information to go on, Pink. Last I checked, Daddys aren't any more cookie cutouts than any other type of Dom, and don't come with a "How to catch a Daddy" checklist.
I really don't get your post.

I think the Op (and here I'm assuming -- I haven't had any contact with her outside the boards) was soliciting our opinions as to why finding a Daddy Dom might be hard.

Your experience, the experience of your friends, anything you may have noticed about D/s dating sites, real life D/s groups, etc. would have served as a basis for a reply.

Telling her she cannot expect to attract a Dom with a deficient profile isn't realy responsive and doesn't help anyone else with a similar question.

I hardly ever perv a profile here; if I get a cue from a post as to the member's orientation, fine, but I only perv profiles if I have something to say I'd rather not say on the boards, e.g., a safety issue that will only be exacerbated by further public attention.

I just accept what's written at face value without the need to know the bio of the writer. Unless it's one of those 'what do you think of my profile' Ops. Those I mostly skip.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 6:42:32 AM

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i'm in a Daddydaughter D/s relationship and i would hate to burst your bubble but it's not about financial support between Him and me. it's more than about caring, cherishing and respecting (as you put it) the feminity of women. with my Daddy, it's also about guiding, nurturing and assisting me towards the goals i've set for myself.

and this "women aren't built for work" - i don't how you put food on your table but i have 2 other mouths to feed on my end. so if it takes reviewing 8 to 12 shows a month to do it, then i'll do it plus 3 CD reviews. i don't rely on men (Daddy included) to take care of me or pay my rent, bills etc. i wasn't "built" that way. i was taught self-suffiency and independence since i was tender age - growing up Army does that to a child.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 12:10:02 PM

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he Op asked why is it so hard to find a Daddy...she never asked anyone to perv her profile and comment on it.

She is saying she is having problems and wants to know why..the best way to give her an answer is to look at her profile it... her " I want" comments and her fetish for Female Supremacy are not going to appeal to most Daddy Dom's ..I have no idea what you fear about looking at other posters profiles...are you afraid you may be considered BI??? On forums it is common to perv different poster's profiles inorder to get some insight into the person asking the question inorder to give them the best possible advice to suit their needs...the who's viewing you list does not necessarily mean sexual interest... I had checked yours out due to a post because I wanted to know your age because you came across as sounding like a teenager rather than a mature woman ..had you been 19 my response to you would have been different.. I learn hear that making assumptions can cause one to make inappropriate responses that due not suit the situaltion... for example one poster was transgendered and I thought they were female because I did not check their profile before responding my advice ended up totally unfitting.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/2/2008 7:01:47 PM

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the profile is gone...

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