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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 11:03:32 AM

silkncarol

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I think if we've been around the scene awhile, if we're honest we've all had first time meet play.....

I talked online to a Dominant in Atlanta for ages...like 3 years as friends.....our talks became more serious and he flew me to Atlanta for a long weekend. We had mutual real time friends who vouched for him and his reputation in the community there so i felt safe going. It was fantastic! We did the back and forth thing for a few months and then the decision was made he would move down to be with me. We lived together 2 years..only apart 3 days in that time until he passed. His was the only collar i've ever worn and the short time we had together will always be some of my fondest memories. If i hadn't taken the chance on that first meeting i would have missed some incredible life experiences!

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 11:04:08 AM

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Yup. All the relationships I have from bdsm have been non horror stories, and all but 2 play dates with people have been non horror stories.

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ORIGINAL: hejira92

Do you have a non-horror story?

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 1:03:16 PM

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There have been some good non-horror times.
Once I had decided to explore submission, it took quite some time to get up the guts to step outside my comfort zone, that being with people I knew and doing scenes and overnights that were, looking back now, mostly pretend subbing.
I had been in touch for awhile with a pre-op TS and his (her?) dom in SF, and when the invite came for a visit it was finally time to take a deep breath and dive in.
The first two nights I didn't stay with them, had a great room for cheap at the Marine Club, and they played tour guide and showed me all over; typical tourist trip and I still haven't found another place that can make tiger-eye sushi. Although I have a good number of gay friends, I had no idea that a straight (mostly) woman could have such a blast at gay bars, or that the patrons of same would accept her presence. First major part of being comfortable.
They are both totally gay, not bisexual at all, and that was the second major part of being comfortable: I wasn't seen at all as something sexual by either of them but rather as an object to be used and abused and controlled, and that was what made it so easy to finally slip into the submissive role that was the purpose of the trip. It was all about service and submitting, and not at all about sex. Only real regret was wasting the first two days and nights before staying at their place.

On the other hand, there have been crappy times too, one especially that I dearly wish I could forget, but that's ancient history now.

S.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 5:27:13 PM

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i met my mentor through this site, wasn't too sure it was going to work out since he is much older than i am. But 1.5 years later, he's still having me explore my side of it and we still continue being great friends.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 8:33:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: hejira92

We've all heard the horror stories of meeting to play for the first time. But what about the times when it turns out great?

When I met my owner for coffee this was quite a while ago when having pictures online was less common so he didn't have a picture (I actually walked past him twice before he recognized me) and when we met and talked I was attracted to him and got in his car (I was in college and had walked to where we met for coffee) and then he put a hood and cuffs on me. About an hour later he came back to my dorm room with me and we played. And that was about ten and a half years ago.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 9:16:46 PM

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seems the fact of the matter is more of us have come out alive than damaged or dead from intimate encounters with strangers. i have only had 1 experience that i wish had not happened. not bad odds considering that i have played and or had sex on first meets at least 10 times. intuition and common sense are necessary in the world of online meeting.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 9:27:59 PM

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Great thread idea, hejira!

Dom #1 - We talked online/on phone for about a week, and planned to meet up at a Starbucks. He runs his own office and got held up there. Called to see if I'd just meet him at the office. I did. We talked. I sat on his lap and we kissed. We laughed. We continued to see each other for a few months but he was not the right dom for me.

My Master - We talked online/on phone for 2 months at very intense levels. I Googled him, learned about him, and trusted him. We met at night, in a hotel room. I was naked and kneeling when he arrived. This was my very first experience with BDSM activites and an amazing night. I slept about an hour, and we went to breakfast in the morning. That was 4 years ago.

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We need a whining section - 7/4/2008 9:33:56 PM

roughleather

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Horror stories are only part of the problem. We need a section for all the whining, to get it out of the rest of the board.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 9:43:47 PM

ownedgirlie

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We get enough whining around here, lol. I'm not allowed to whine.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 9:57:11 PM

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yup, I've done play on the first date, and it wasn't the first time and it won't be the last.

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ORIGINAL: silkncarol

I think if we've been around the scene awhile, if we're honest we've all had first time meet play.....

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 10:32:19 PM

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I had one of the most awsome sensualist times I've EVER had with a stranger at a play party whom I'd never met before and never saw afterwards. He spanked me and he flogged me and touched my skin and just let me enjoy the moment, an then later after he and I were done I got spanked REALLY hard on an already red and BURNING ass, and my ass glowed red an hot like a furnace for an hour, you could even feel it through the cotton of my panties and my dress.

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ORIGINAL: silkncarol

I think if we've been around the scene awhile, if we're honest we've all had first time meet play.....

If i hadn't taken the chance on that first meeting i would have missed some incredible life experiences!

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/4/2008 11:37:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: fungasm

I looked very closely at your photo to make certain that I wasn't the one who answered the ad- because that is what I did.
I explored everything- and a lot of it I found through Craigslist.

I agree with Alison. Craigslist casual encounters are wonderful. I've a female friend who isn't into BDSM but I posted an ad with her for her and I was amazed that she received over 300 responses! Whew! In just a few days. The half life of these things is about a week though, so, she only met with 2 or 3 guys out of that 300 (what odds for us guys huh!) but she's marrying one of them believe it or not. They had their trials and tribulations, but they're together now and that's what matters.

I should caution you though that there are a ton of fakes in CL so, you still have to weed out the chaff but I've had a dozen great sessions over the years and none turned out badly for anyone!

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/5/2008 6:08:16 AM

Lumus

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Well, y'see, there was this girl...

We chatted, and then we talked on the phone, and on webcam; then she moved up here; and as of yesterday she's wearing My collar...and an engagement ring.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/5/2008 6:14:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lumus

Well, y'see, there was this girl...

We chatted, and then we talked on the phone, and on webcam; then she moved up here; and as of yesterday she's wearing My collar...and an engagement ring.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/5/2008 6:15:19 AM

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Thanks, Gwyn.

Signing off for a bit to let Rain use the computer.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/5/2008 6:59:18 AM

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Congrats Lumus and Rain

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/5/2008 7:02:09 AM

LadyRainfire

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Thanks, Stu. It was a long day yesterday but a very happy one..... So no horror story here about Lumus and I.

(And I'm still in a bit of shock as I wasn't expecting yesterday at all..... I have new reasons for celebrating the 4th now!)

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/5/2008 7:29:45 AM

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This thread is scaring the crap out of me. I really hope that newbies don't read this thread and throw caution to the wind because of all these lovely stories of bad decisions not gone wrong. Honestly regardless of how many good experiences anyone has had, to meet and play with a stranger on a first meet is asking for trouble of the worst kind. This is not just being a little daring, this is Russian Roulette. If you play enough the odds are you will end up with the bullet. Be safe people.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/5/2008 7:42:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968
I absolutely loved to meet and play. Most of my first meets were in hotel rooms and I certainly didn't wind up dead. In fact, I had some of the most tense, fantastic times. I think for it to be successful though, you have to be able to listen, really listen, to your gut instincts about people.

I second that. In my version, most meets have been right here at my place in The Paris Of The Southwest. Several girls have been here and made it out relatively unscathed.

Bob

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/5/2008 7:47:17 AM

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The first time I met my Daddy in person, after about four weeks of online and telephone communication, I showed up alone with a three day suitcase.
I guess it's possible he could still be plotting to murder me and bury me in the crawlspace, especially since we are married (and insured), but somehow I doubt it.

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