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BitaTruble -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 12:56:49 AM)

Well, the bottom line is that regardless of what other dominants may think or even what the dominant whom you are seeing thinks, this is an issue you'll have to resolve from an internal place. You are never required to violate your morals, hard limits or anything else. This whole thing is about having some fun so why do anything that makes you miserable?

If you want to try it for the experience or to, perhaps, help with your own personal growth, go for it. Maybe you'll discover you hate it and put it on your hard limits list. Maybe you'll discover it's not so bad. In any event, talk to your dominant and find out what the consequences are going to be for any decision which you make. If you have already decided against it, no harm, no foul. Don't do it. You're the only one who can decide though and how others may have processed issues like this doesn't mean that you will process in the same way. Get feedback if that's what you think you need .. but, you still have to take responsibility for your own actions and inactions and whether you do or you don't, you have the reins firmly in your own hands on the issue at this point.

Good luck.



WyldHrt -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 12:57:56 AM)

 Just as a reminder.....[sm=modxiiswatching.gif]






angelicbitch -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 12:59:43 AM)

Ummmm..... Tiny not to be disrespectful... but do you act like this with the Domme you have now ? I mean I understand you want feed back but calling people names and being rude isnt going to endear you to anyone. You want people to help you and give you advice but bullying them and biting back when they give you an opinion be it good or bad is only gonna get you kicked off the board. If you dont like what they say then ignore it. Everyone here has a different level of of expierence and there are not a perfect set of rules for every situation. You want feed back don't get upset when someone posts a point to you just because you don't like it.

Peace
Angelic



RedMagic1 -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 12:59:45 AM)

It is contrary to the terms of service of the web site to engage in personal attacks, like, say, "assfuck."

I don't enjoy it when men try to kick around women.  Let's just say there's a little backstory there.  I've gained some skills, and it doesn't happen much anymore to people I like.

Please continue to demonstrate your kind and gentle demeanor, so all the dominant women can see who you are when they get up in the morning and read this thread.



ModeratorEleven -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:00:58 AM)

Ok folks, it's time to chill out. 

XI



opposingtwilight -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:03:54 AM)

Mod XI ...

Never sleeps. :)



tinydick12 -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:06:24 AM)

Would you if in love though ever ask or expect someone to do something that you know they find unexectable?  I don't think so.  I just cannot see how anyone can.



tinydick12 -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:10:51 AM)

And with respect to you, scroll up.  Few of the dommes, with the exception of you and BitaTruble posted an intelligent response that was on topic: how can someone derive any pleasure in demanding an act from someone that they supposedly love that is counter to their nature?  Related to this, is there a common domme mindset that somehow being submissive is irrelevent a consideration, as more than one implied already?  I dismiss that and think any reasonable person would.  That sounds more of a doormat to me, no?



RedMagic1 -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:14:56 AM)

Treating other women like dirt will not solve that problem.  Only communicating your needs in a mature fashion to the domme in real life will do that.

In real life, there is no godlike Moderator to magically erase the cruel, nasty things you say.  You have a communication problem.  You are intelligent enough to say cutting things, but not wise enough to refrain from doing it.  Until you gain that wisdom, it is unlikely any dominant female would be satisfied with you as her sole source of pleasure.



BitaTruble -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:20:49 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tinydick12

Would you if in love though ever ask or expect someone to do something that you know they find unexectable?  I don't think so.  I just cannot see how anyone can.


Well, others can but that doesn't matter either. It's what makes you comfortable or uncomfortable which matters. It's what you and your partner decide that counts in the long run and it's the consequences with which the two of you must deal that is going to be a mitigating factor. You're conflicted because your dominant will be pleased by your compliance but unless you are in a long term, fairly stable relationship, does that outweigh the potential downsides that you may face with that compliance? You said this was a dominant that you are 'seeing'. That doesn't sound long term and stable to me so perhaps you're conflicted because you are afraid of losing the 'potential' of something really good rather than losing something which is already really good. I don't know. I'm not in your shoes.

You need to look inside and figure out what squicks you about the whole thing .. I mean, nutshell here.. it's just a piece of flesh and you're not really going to be in service to a cock.. you're (if you decide to do it ) still going to be in service to your dominant and doing what she requires. Would you be all squicked out if she told you to suck the guys toes?

Just something to think about.



HarryVanWinkle -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:23:15 AM)

(Fast Reply)
Responding to those who may doubt your sincerity or reality with scathing, insulting personal attacks is not only unavailing.  It is undignified.



angelicbitch -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:24:27 AM)

I have read what the others posted. But being hateful even if you think they are attacking you isnt the answer. This is a message board... you came here looking of opinions and that is what you are getting.... be them good or bad. Your getting input on your question. As far as your question ... everyone is different... maybe your Domme thinks you can handle it, maybe its a way to test you, maybe its a million other things. I can't answer that I am not her... and neither are the other Domme's on here that posted. I can understand how it feels to be asked to do something that you might not like, or that feels "doormatish" to you. But there are things everyone has to do that we may not really like doing, BUT we do them because they are part of everyday life ( like some hate to do dishes, or mow the lawn those types of things) ..... Then there are some of us that hve to do things that we may not like to do in this lifestyle... that we may find absolutly HORRIBLE... but there are some of us that do them out of LOVE for the Person we are with. No one said life was easy or fair.... if it was I think there would be a different word for it other than life.
My point to this is .... if it bothers you as much as it sounds like it does... sit your Domme down and talk to her.... Your the only one who can convey to her that you have issues with this. Tell your concerns and fears and communicate to her. We cant do it for you ... we can give advice and put our two cents in... but that is all we can do...
    I know after reading what i wrote it doenst make much sense .... sorry I am sure it wasnt much help... but I am tired and work was crazy tonight and I feel like death.....

   Just remember tiny.... everyone is allowed to speak their mind its a public board... and its not fair to jump on people when they gave their OPINIONS!!!! Even if you didnt like them... You asked for advice/help..... they were doing so :)

Peace

Angelic

p.s. sorry if this made no sense or was off topic



tinydick12 -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:26:47 AM)

Thanks Dr. Phill.  Isn't there an Oprah special now you need to prepare for: How to endear dommes and hopefully get laid in pretending to be a dom-in-shining-armor?  As Dr. Phill would say: "How's that working for ya?"



tinydick12 -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:29:47 AM)

Thanks Harry... I will refrain.  And (not being sarcastic here) but your pic tells me that in RL you are a bit of a mischeveous, playful soul and the prankster type.  How off am I on that?



RedMagic1 -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:31:07 AM)

Not everyone thinks BDSM is the same thing as getting laid.

For example, some people are in BDSM relationships, but get cuckolded, not laid.



tinydick12 -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:35:11 AM)

OK, so basically, what you are saying is that performing homosexual acts when you are straight is like doing something you hate ike doing the "dishes."  I suspect now that this might be a domme ploy to get me to do the dishes, for the equality of the comparison is, shall we say, just a bit off balanced. 




angelicbitch -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:40:23 AM)

When I said doing the dishes... it was not in reference to you blowing a dude okay... It was used as an example that we all things we don't to do.... I was not saying she was using you to do her dishes... it was simply used to make a point. I am sorry that you took it wrong ... I was saying that if you have an issue with what she is wanting you to do ... then only YOU can do something about it.. YOU have to sit her down, call her, send smoke signals to let her know that YOU are having issues.... That is the only way this is gonna get solved and you are either going to be comfy with it or not.... plain and simple...

sorry I confused you or said something wrong....

peace
ANGELIC



HarryVanWinkle -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:50:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tinydick12
Thanks Harry... I will refrain.  And (not being sarcastic here) but your pics tells me that in RL you are a bit of a mischeveous, playful soul and the prankster type.  How off am I on that?


I am simply me, a smart assed, dominant/submissive, heavily masosadistic, mostly bottom switch with a service fetish.

Sometimes people don't like me.  Sometimes people criticize me.  (Sometimes with great validity.)  Sometimes people insult me.  Insulting them for it cannot do harm to their dignity; it can only do harm to mine.

Some people do like me.  And we have fun.



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 1:55:24 AM)

What is your definition of submission?

My definition of submission is a person doing something another enjoys/wants/demands because it makes that person happy, not necessarily the person doing it.  It isn't about submitting to your own fetishes and kinks.

Obviously, if there are a lot of things that you 'dread' doing then you aren't compatible, but, in any relationship, vanilla or kink, you are going to find yourself occasionally doing something you don't enjoy. 

If this is something she must have and something you cannot do, then either find another solution (perhaps finding another 'fluffer') or find a dominant who will not ask this of you. 

Basically what most are suggesting is that you discuss with your dominant how important this is to her.  Find out if it is something she can live without.  Find out if she can be happy with an alternative.  Our opinions on the subject, unless you are open to changing your opinion, will not help you.  The only opinions that matter are the two of yours.



KitCoyote -> RE: She wants to make me a cuckold whore (7/6/2008 2:16:33 AM)

All I can really say is, lucky you. ;)



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