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boundinside -> Is she real? (7/9/2008 6:08:02 PM)

Recently a female switch contacted me by sending me a message on CM asking me for my name.  So I responded politely and gave her my name and asked for hers as well as gave her a little information about myself.  So anyways we are messaging back and forth for a while and she asks to see a few private pictures of mine, so I agree and send her pictures that she requests.  She tells me two things.   One being that I need to shave my thighs, pubic region (which I most of the time do), and arm pits (shaved or trimmed, I shaved them to please her).  So orignally she told me that she wanted that done the next morning but a lot of unexpected things came up and I didn't have a chance until about two days later.  I sent the pictures she asked for as proof that I was not faking or lying and she has yet to respond.  Now the second thing she told me was that I was not to masturbate without given permission by her, which I haven't to this point.  But I am seriously wondering as to whether or not I should be taking this communication, or lack there of, between the two of us serious or not.  You see I haven't spoken to her for almost three days now and she has yet to see the message I sent her.  So this is where my concern comes into play.  I am wondering as to, one; whether or not she is a phony or serious, and two; whether even though I have now communicated with her in the last 2-3 days whether or not I should continue going without masturbation in the chance that she just became busy and couldn't get online or am I just wasting my time.  Any thoughts?




LotusSong -> RE: Is she real? (7/9/2008 8:02:06 PM)

She could be a switch and will get back to you as soon as she has taken care of her master?




TMIk -> RE: Is she real? (7/9/2008 10:29:45 PM)

Online play is very difficult, There is so much uncertainty. days without hearing from the person, wondering if they've found someone else someone better. you just have to be patient, maybe she's testing you. 




AAkasha -> RE: Is she real? (7/9/2008 11:12:41 PM)


Does it bother you at all that it might be some big hairy dude jerking off to your pics?
Why the rush to submit to someone so randomly?






lockmeupplease -> RE: Is she real? (7/10/2008 5:09:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


Does it bother you at all that it might be some big hairy dude jerking off to your pics?
Why the rush to submit to someone so randomly?





boundinside--this hairy dude wants to thank you for shaving your pubes and sending me the pictures.  I have posted them along with your name on MySpace and gotten a lot of extra hits. 
 
Just because your a sub doesn't mean that you can't ALSO request verification.  I have had some online fun with women on this site, but I have gotten to know them a bit first and verified they were indeed female via cam or voice.




Celeres -> RE: Is she real? (7/10/2008 5:10:25 PM)

Take the following with a grain of salt--just as you were preoccupied for 48 hours, it seems a bit unreasonable to have a change of heart in half that time. With that said however, do you know if said "person" has logged online at all? Even if they have... and perhaps seen your photos, it could just be a matter of time. (As we all know, reading messages is much easier and quicker than replying).

I say, if it makes you happy, then wait. Doesn't seem like you really mind. Online play is difficult, as someone has replied earlier. Real-life often takes precedence over online-play. Also, do you know where/what state she resides in? I'm in California and I know that wild-fires have caused many blackouts across the state. If that's the case, maybe she's been one of the evacuees and is now in a place where CM is the last thing on their mind?

In summation, there are many possibilities... if you can manage to "hang on" I would do so. As many would agree, a "real" (Dom/me, sub/slave) is pretty hard to find. Like a diamond in the rough. And along the same lines as AAkasha has mentioned: "what's the rush?"




Isabelah -> RE: Is she real? (7/10/2008 7:17:15 PM)

Patience if always virture. Then again are you sure you even know this person well enough to do any of these things?

Isabelah




HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Is she real? (7/10/2008 9:34:47 PM)

My first question would be.  How far away from you does she live?





EdBury -> RE: Is she real? (8/26/2008 3:47:13 PM)

My question would be "What does your head say?" Often times the heart can rule the head and that can cause confusion. To echo HarryVanWinkle - Is there any chance of actually meeting her? :)




E2Sweet -> RE: Is she real? (8/26/2008 4:04:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: boundinside

...I am wondering as to, one; whether or not she is a phony or serious, and two; whether even though I have now communicated with her in the last 2-3 days whether or not I should continue going without masturbation in the chance that she just became busy and couldn't get online or am I just wasting my time.  Any thoughts?


Well, going back to my days of searching out submissive women, I personally did feel like I was wasting my time whenever I realized I was not making at least small, progressive steps toward meeting the one I was talking with online. I always did my best to stay on course in terms of that goal. Getting into any online play and such simply did not happen, because to me, that was always just a distraction. I didn't play that particular game in those days and I don't play it now.

Its really up to you if you want to continue doing what you're doing. I'd imagine that none of us here know who this switch is you're playing with, so how could we really give you solid advise on the matter?

Good luck!




Domnslv4Pleasure -> RE: Is she real? (8/27/2008 7:34:53 PM)

She could be busy. When I play on-line, I usually meet with each sub once a month. On my schedule and when I say. However, I also don't ask them to be exclusive, because I don't always know when my schedule will free me up for a session. I want to take a few hours to thoroughly play with them. These guys did not know me at all. When I play in person, it's very different. I recomend you play in your area, but I see nothing wrong with sending her an email and asking for clarification on where you stand. The worst that can happen is she will punish u--and how bad is that? ;) Good luck!
Kelly




SassyBird -> RE: Is she real? (9/20/2008 5:06:51 PM)

If you see in the send page that she has not read your email there is not much you can do.
Either she is too busy to go online, or it wasn't of that great importance to her in the first place.

It is online. Nothing that transpires here ever means as much/the same thing to person A as to person B.

As for the actual advice/thoughts you asked for.. I think it doesn't hurt for you to wait.
I'd advice you to wait until she at least has read your message. It's likely she will respond soon after.
If nothing else, when you finally do masturbate it will be all the sweeter for the wait.

Good luck,
SB




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