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DomDolf -> RE: how to fine your perfect sub (7/18/2008 10:52:57 PM)
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ORIGINAL: devilmaster01
thank you for all ur reply's, yes my spelling is not up to much because i am dislexic, so i find it hard on how to spell and some times say stuff that i know is correct in my head but comes out crap and horrible, this is not my excusie for my bad spelling its a part of who i am..
im going to take all the good and the bads from these repleys and hopefully they will make me undersatnd about the dom / sub world more
as for online only no im not married but i live with my parents so a live in sub would be hard when i only get a few hrs to my self each day
thanks you
Let me give you a quick lesson on SOME of what a Dominant is to me.
A Dominant is responsible to himself before anyone else. As such, he feels the twinge of disappointment before anyone else when he makes mistakes and does not forget or dismiss his error. He takes absolute responsibility and welcomes his lesson. A Dominant does not make excuses but finds solutions. He does it with wisdom and knowledge and never acts while lacking either. Dominants are constantly learning and developing their understanding.
A Dominant is not a Dominant sometimes, it is a defining feature of his personality and he could not change it even if he wanted to. He would never want to. A Dominant does not play Dominant he just is. If it's not natural than it's not you.
A GOOD Dominant, one who has the capability of becoming a Master, naturally understands what it takes to be a Dominant.While he may make mistakes and will always admit to making them and he may even need assistance at times he will not need assistance in the BASICS of what it takes to control a naturally submissive person. The first step to controlling is understanding the submissive mind.
Now, all of what I said to some will seem like I am saying you are not a Dominant. I am not suggesting this at all. I do not know anything of you. YOU know YOU. You decide what you are. If you decide that you are a Dominant, educate yourself, there are plenty of resources available. Drop the text messaging format of posting and use a spell checker. Take pride in your posts, it represents you in the absence of knowing anything else about you.
Dolf
P.S. In my use of the word Master I am referring to skill level not simply an owner of a submissive. You can be someone's Master but not be a Master of the art of BDSM or Ds.
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