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tucsongirlie -> Experience? (7/12/2008 1:21:29 PM)
How important is experience in a dom? Particularly for a new sub?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 1:23:20 PM)
Zero to completely. Experience in what? I don't really care that he doesn't know how to drive a gondola.

DarkSteven -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 1:23:37 PM)
Depends. If he's going to spank you and make you bow to him, not that much. If he's going to do breath play and use a single-tail, experience matters a lot.

tucsongirlie -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 1:30:58 PM)
Well, since this is a BDSM site, I assumed it was natural to conclude I meant experience in BDSM. Sorry for not being more specific. And I don't mean just for scenes- what about in a more 24/7 relationship? Is that possible to do without great difficulty with two people who have no experience in it?

Twicehappy2x -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 1:35:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tucsongirlie And I don't mean just for scenes- what about in a more 24/7 relationship? Is that possible to do without great difficulty with two people who have no experience in it? Is it possible for two people who have never been married and have no experience at being married to get married and be good at it? A relationship is a relationship; either you are both going to put effort into making it work or you are not.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 1:44:28 PM)
Ability to learn -- including ability to learn about you -- is more important than experience before meeting you.

Quivver -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 1:45:18 PM)
It seems your looking for a rule book that doesnt exist. Forget it ... every relationship is different and will evolve on it' own. If you find your submission to him priceless while he finds being dominant fufilling it will all work itself out.

KatyLied -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 1:48:42 PM)
quote: How important is experience in a dom? Particularly for a new sub? What's more important to you? That he calls himself a dom with x years of experience? Or That he is a caring, responsible person with whom you'd like to build a relationship? Everyone has to have their first "experience" somewhere.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 3:50:33 PM)
If you want to learn more about the real time BDSM community, you might want to check out Desert Dominion here in Tucson. A link to our website is below my signature.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 3:51:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied quote: How important is experience in a dom? Particularly for a new sub? What's more important to you? That he calls himself a dom with x years of experience? Or That he is a caring, responsible person with whom you'd like to build a relationship? Everyone has to have their first "experience" somewhere. Wow Katy, that's an awesome post- best fuzzy of the day so far.

DesFIP -> RE: Experience? (7/12/2008 6:57:09 PM)
He had a lot of experience as a bondage top, but I'm his first sub. As long as he wasn't going to cause damage by not knowing what he was doing ropewise, that's all that mattered to me. However I would have been fine if he had no experience but had done the research. Erotic Bondage, Two Knotty Boys, workshops at TES etc. All that matters to me is that he knows what he's doing so I'll be safe. How he learned it is less important. D/s experience? I've liked us both being novices. It means I don't get told that I'm not a true sub like his ex of six years while he conveniently forgets that she didn't know what she was doing in the beginning either. He likes that I'm a novice for the same reason, he got real tired of meeting women who would say "That's not how my ex master did things". We've learned together, we've talked things out, we ask for feedback and get it as to whether something is working for us or not.

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