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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/16/2005 5:21:52 AM   
FTopinMichigan


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ORIGINAL: MasterRobert1

Lying does seem to be the norm here. It's something I have simply accepted. Wish it weren't true, but it is. Wish I give give you better advice than, be diligent and patient and ignore the bullshit. I know: easily said but hard to do.


So true!

I wonder if all the "lying" that seems so prevalent, is more that people just aren't sure of themselves, so they say what they think someone wants to hear.

I've had correspondence with quite a few people, and I've noticed the majority that "lie," either lack self esteem, are new and unsure of "everything," or are filled with such fear on venturing into real life relationships that they hide behind a false persona. (Many submen tend to say what they "think" I want to hear. To bad for them...I "want" to hear the truth...I can handle it, really. ) I don't know that they "all" do it deliberately, but many find it easier to communicate. They do get caught, if conversation heightens, or a real meeting takes place. It's just easier from some to hide behind the computer screen, and truth be told, they will probably remain there. Another good reason not to expect too much from online contacts, and to get out and enjoy folks in real life (if there's something in your own area).

I have met a few decent play partners from initial online communications, but far more via friends and group affiliations. I've chatted with many more that were full of it though. Not unlike any other real world contacts, as I see it.

K

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/16/2005 12:29:56 PM   
Webmaster60


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Getting known on the forums won't hinder your cause either.


::chuckles:: unless you're me...
I find my belief's aren't real popular :)

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/16/2005 12:38:22 PM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		Hehehe,neiter is mine, but you do okey.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/16/2005 12:47:04 PM   
firefey


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Status: offline 		i checked your profile, and i have to say (were i submissive) i probably wouldn't respond to you either, unless the letter were really good. your writting style is very abrupt, and that might be a turn off for some. i'm not saying you have to sugar coat your words, but when the first or second thing a person sees/hears from you is brisk and demanding...that might be more hinderance than help. also, your profile says a good deal about what you expect, and that's good in and of itself, but it says very little about who you are. you mention something about a learning curve and unique tastes. a prospective girl might be scared off by this looming uniquness. but that's just my two cents.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/16/2005 12:52:28 PM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		i thik your profile is okey, but i would have prefered if i was a searcing sub, to hear a bit more aboute you and your intrests instead of just what you are looking for in a slave, otherwise ok, if a bit abrupt, but that is ok.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/16/2005 1:15:24 PM   
yun


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ORIGINAL: Webmaster60

quote:

Getting known on the forums won't hinder your cause either.


::chuckles:: unless you're me...
I find my belief's aren't real popular :)





Now that isn't necessarily true Master, am sure that a lot of people know who you are moreso then someone who has popular beliefs. Your belief's make you stand out more..though it may be for negative reasons. It's that instance that someone finds your beliefs fit theirs that makes it all worth it!

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/16/2005 2:04:14 PM   
luvdragonx


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ORIGINAL: yun


quote:

ORIGINAL: Webmaster60

quote:

Getting known on the forums won't hinder your cause either.


::chuckles:: unless you're me...
I find my belief's aren't real popular :)





Now that isn't necessarily true Master, am sure that a lot of people know who you are moreso then someone who has popular beliefs. Your belief's make you stand out more..though it may be for negative reasons. It's that instance that someone finds your beliefs fit theirs that makes it all worth it!


I'll second that

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/22/2005 1:02:25 AM   
Dracironsgirl


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ORIGINAL: justlkn

I am just curious, I have been here for some time and have written a few dozen emails to prospective slaves. I have never gotten one response except for a fake that I caught through her lies. Is it just this site that people don't respond to emails? Even if they are not interested or feel there is a connection , at least a simple reply of "no thanks" is appropriate. I also do notexpect anything of them except for polite conversation. Maybe I should demand them to answer...I am so sure that will work...NOT...lol. What gives\?


for me personally Sir i alwatys reply to emails no matter what it is a show of respect on my part and i share Your words of wisdom on this Sir...thank You.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/22/2005 3:27:14 AM   
justlkn


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Status: offline 		I am beginning to see a pattern here. It is so simple...but I expected that too....those that are here and real will take the time to at least say "no thanks". I have had several now that just not what I am looking for....I drop them a thank you back and hold those in higher regard. dracironsgirl is the way I see it....

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/22/2005 5:44:00 AM   
justatoy2


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Status: offline 		i have a very dear friend of mine who decided to add a picture to her profile...in the span of 2 days time she has now recieved over 300 emails. There is no way possible she could respond to every single one. Heck she can't even get through them all to read them. Also a great deal of the emails she has recieved are those wonderful "so what do you like" one line emails. If you are interested in someone who is obviously physically attractive, like my friend who recently put up a pic, you can bet that yours is not the only email they are recieving....i did suggest to her to take her pic down and show it only upon request...300 emails..yikes.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/23/2005 4:34:25 PM   
Slaveless1


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Status: offline 		what can I really say here,you have to weed out all of the bad ones to find a really good one. There are many many many fake people on here nad they get a kick out of trickery. I know for a fact that once iI find out they are fake I go have a mental brain challange with them. I let them think they are in control but in fact I am. I "let" them lead till the right moment and then let them have what is comming to them. I have seveal actually delete theri profile when aI got done with them. It is sooooo easy to take the weak minded jerks here that thrive on lies.................

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/24/2005 7:58:02 AM   
SlayerZ


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with this.

I seldom ever get a reply.

I'm not pissy about it, I understand that all, or most, of the females here do get excess amounts of mails each day. It can't be easy wading through the pile, and be patient enough to get to the gem that is hidden within. I also get that it's an easy option just to say "screw it!" and just do a mass clear out of your inbox.

Perhaps there should be an option to restrict the amount of mails that you can send per day. If anything, It will reduce the mass spamming that some users unfortunately receive, thus meaning that it will be easier for the receiver of said mails to cut through the treacle and reply.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/24/2005 1:39:16 PM   
HoosierScorpio


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Justlkn I have had the same problem over the years. To me this action show a sign of being improperly trained or showing disrespect? I feel this is not the lifestyle and they show their lack of understanding it. I am never rude but I do not go into great detail what I am looking for because I want to take my time to get to know some one. I feel this is a problem for at least people should show some consideration in saying thanks but no thanks this is what I am looking for. Also how can some one feel a connection with one e mails or what you see in their profile? I am honest and up front I am not the best speller or my grammar is bad but when you are tire or you have just enough time to get on line then get off can make it hard to make since. To judge some one based on their writing abilities tells me you are too judgmental. Remember there are people with learning abilities which can make standard things hard for them. To have a learning disability does not mean you are stupid but the way their brain process information makes it hard for them to basics. If you close your mind off to possibilities then this lifestyle is not for you for it take people with an open mind. This is how I feel and I am expressing my viewpoint


< Message edited by HoosierScorpio -- 11/24/2005 1:42:05 PM >

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/24/2005 2:11:44 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		i dont get very many emails, due to the fact im owned and not looking i presume. When i do get one, i usually respond, even if its just a thankyou for a compliment.

p.s. one part of your topic made me question,.. "how do people tell if someone is lying?" ive got no clue if what people are saying is true or not, well unless it is something very blatent, example " my Master makes me jump off 4 story buildings cuz he enjoys seeing me in plaster casts and near death" *grin*

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/28/2005 10:07:41 AM   
B1gbear


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Status: offline 		I like most everyone here get very few responses to messages sent out. I think the real problem is far more to do with the pure volume of messages received by the typical available submissive on this site. Let's say she gets 100 messages in a day. Of those 100 messages she has the time to even look at 10 to 20 tops. Of 20 let's say she gets 5 from people who are playing the odds and just demand a reply in hopes of getting 1 of the 50 they wrote to comply out of some twisted unhealthy submissive tendency. 5 more clearly never read her profile and don't warrant a response. 5 others sent form letters, or were preceived as such. 3 sent one line reponses and didn't get an answer cause of their obvious lack of real interest....and 2 send real meaningful emails. Where is your message...probably 45 back in the list that haven't been opened yet or if it has interpeted as any but the last catagory.

Now add in the odds of running into someone rude or jaded over something that happened to them on this site as well as those who just didn't feel comfortable responding to you. Even if it is rude to not answer someone's messages, you can't force someone out of their comfort zone.

Summary: If they don't ever open your message, your didn't win the lottery this time. If they did and didn't respond, they saved you the trouble of finding out they were not a good match for you in one fashion or another anyway. If they aren't a bit cautious or cynical of you till you prove yourself, watch out....they are quite likely playing you or will soon be asking you for money. This site has a way of raising everyone's guard to one degree or another....as do all the personals sites anymore.

I personally take my time and only write those I think might just be serious and a good potiental match. That cuts it down to one in fifty. Of those I typically only ever hear back from one in twenty at best. Many of those I misjudged. That's just the way it is.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/29/2005 10:15:35 AM   
amayos


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Status: offline 		I have to step in here and agree with the overall gripe this post addresses. While I seldom (if ever) randomly message submissives in this community, I have found a certain...lack of decorum regarding social etiquette and communication skills from them when I write back to their queries.

Please, my dear "submissives", when you message a Master and/or Mistress, and he/she takes the time to write back, follow up, even if it is to politely say "no thanks". It's annoying to take the time to send a response into the void and never hear from you again.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/29/2005 10:33:17 AM   
FTopinMichigan


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ORIGINAL: amayos
Please, my dear "submissives", when you message a Master and/or Mistress, and he/she takes the time to write back, follow up, even if it is to politely say "no thanks". It's annoying to take the time to send a response into the void and never hear from you again.


And please, to the dear rejectees, once you've received the "thanks, but no thanks note," don't continue to e-mail incessantly. I have had to block those that don't accept "no, thanks" for a response. Sometimes the reason for ceasing correspondence has already clearly been given, but ignored, or the writer hopes to change the person's mind. Happens quite often, in my experience.

Some people just don't accept rejection well, as evidence by the increasing threads here that reflect the complaints.

K

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/29/2005 11:17:14 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		I find the no reply unacceptable especially since one can hit auto respond--

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/29/2005 2:35:20 PM   
nelbot


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Status: offline 		It can be a fine line to walk, sadly. I generally reply with a polite but succinct "thank you for taking hte time to write, however I must respectfully decline your invitation to (fill in the blank)". I feel it is the only polite thing to do, acknowledge that their message was recieved but for what ever unspecified reason I am not open to communicating with them, unfortunately this often leads to a barage of emails as some people view any response as a foot in the door and if they are only persistent enough they will eventually break through all the valid reasons why I am not interested, i.e. they live in Manitoba and want me to move there, though it says quite learly in my profile that I can't relocate... then there are the retorical emails that I don't think need a reply: such as a one word hello, or nothing but an emoticon as the message, I figure those folks are just looking for an opening, an invitation to conversate and unless I wanted to there is no sense in responding to that. But so long as some responds with a polite how do you do they will in the very least get back a well, thank you, best wishes... my $.02

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/30/2005 6:04:21 PM   
amayos


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ORIGINAL: FTopinMichigan


quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos
Please, my dear "submissives", when you message a Master and/or Mistress, and he/she takes the time to write back, follow up, even if it is to politely say "no thanks". It's annoying to take the time to send a response into the void and never hear from you again.


And please, to the dear rejectees, once you've received the "thanks, but no thanks note," don't continue to e-mail incessantly. I have had to block those that don't accept "no, thanks" for a response. Sometimes the reason for ceasing correspondence has already clearly been given, but ignored, or the writer hopes to change the person's mind. Happens quite often, in my experience.

Some people just don't accept rejection well, as evidence by the increasing threads here that reflect the complaints.

K



Goodness, I haven't experienced THAT as of yet. Such things to look forward to. ;)

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