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c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 11:15:39 AM

beltainefaerie

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Just curious about other people's advice and opinions. I had a c-section a week ago (after hours of trying for a natural delivery, so my muscles are strained tht way too). Of course I'll ask my doctor next week at my check-up, but for anyone who has had a c-section or whose partner has, about how long was it before you could resume sex or BDSM play?

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 11:20:01 AM

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I pushed my husband down onto the bed, told him to shut up and lay there, hmmm, ten days after c-section. I'm a ho, what can I say?

Most doctors want you to wait six weeks.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 11:30:32 AM

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With a vaginal delivery, it's recommended to wait 4-6 weeks for sex -- until the lochia and bleeding has stopped, you can touch yourself without pain or tenderness, and you want to have sex. Vaginal pain may not be as much of an issue for you, but still use the bleeding as a guide. An increase in bleeding means you are exerting yourself too much.

Regarding the c-section, I'm less informed. I know that there can be soreness and pain for a few weeks, and it's fine to have things done for you while you are recovering. (I stress this because many of us think that we should be strong and self-sufficient. This is a great time to rest and be taken care of.) I know when a friend of mine had a tummy tuck done, he wasn't supposed to go back to the gym or exert himself strenuously for several weeks -- that was just cutting through the skin, rather than through muscle for you. Recommendations around BDSM would depend on what activities you wanted to do.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 11:32:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: beltainefaerie

Just curious about other people's advice and opinions. I had a c-section a week ago (after hours of trying for a natural delivery, so my muscles are strained tht way too). Of course I'll ask my doctor next week at my check-up, but for anyone who has had a c-section or whose partner has, about how long was it before you could resume sex or BDSM play?

As far as BDSM play it would really depend on what type of play you mean. I would definitely discuss it in detail with my doctor.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 11:35:29 AM

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I never understood fully why one had to wait if they felt okay to move forward. But... a doctor finally explained it to me. If they say wait in this... you better! It could be a life or death situation from what he told me. I was told that the veins are thinner I believe because they are fuller and they break easier. He told me that you can do what you want, but you can hit one of those veins and if it breaks, you may have time to get to the hospital or you could bleed to death before you get there. He had two patients that broke a vein. One made it and the other didn't. I never cheated on that rule again!

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 11:40:19 AM

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And bleeding can be no indicator at all. If you have psycho-nurses who mash on you like crazy (yes, even with a c-section), your bleeding may stop within a couple of days of leaving the hospital. Trust me.

My husband was afraid of hurting me (part of why I told him to shut up and lay there). You should be in control, because you can stop the instant it starts to feel uncomfortable, or slow down then, or whatever. If he is in control, then he won't know to stop until AFTER it hurts and you ask him to stop. Oh, and I would recommend a condom to avoid introducing foreign substances (semen, bacteria, whatever) into your body.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 11:45:22 AM

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for me i had a natural birth.....and didn't have any sex or play until after my 6-week check-up(partly not my fault....wanted it before hand but you know)......so as for c-section i don't really know....my 2 sister-in-laws had c-sections.....one waited the time.....other started with a** play like 2weeks after....

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 11:48:47 AM

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I said nothing about the absence of bleeding. I said to watch it. When bleeding gets heavier after tailing off, it's a problem. I happen to be midwife, so I've seen this a time or three.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 12:36:04 PM

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two imps, one natural, one c-section. i waited 5 weeks after having my girl, 4 after having my son (he who had to be cut out!).

if you arent having any pain any longer, if your bleeding has pretty much stopped, if you have enough energy to want to have sex...you're probably safe for some more-on-the-gentle-side intercourse. anything more extreme, if it were me i would wait to discuss with the gyno at the 6 weeks checkup.

i was told that if i felt up to having sex after 4 weeks, i could proceed with caution. then again, i recovered *very* fast in the hospital and the doctors were pleased with my progress. (teaching hospital...one of the doctors announced "and this is what a fast healer looks like!" when entering my room. since then, though, i dont heal fast.)

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/17/2008 3:35:45 PM

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quote:

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And bleeding can be no indicator at all. If you have psycho-nurses who mash on you like crazy (yes, even with a c-section), your bleeding may stop within a couple of days of leaving the hospital. Trust me.

My husband was afraid of hurting me (part of why I told him to shut up and lay there). You should be in control, because you can stop the instant it starts to feel uncomfortable, or slow down then, or whatever. If he is in control, then he won't know to stop until AFTER it hurts and you ask him to stop. Oh, and I would recommend a condom to avoid introducing foreign substances (semen, bacteria, whatever) into your body.

Cali

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That "mashing on you" is really important, especially if you've had a long labor followed by a section. The reason they mash on you is to stimulate your uterus to contract. It should be a small, tight lump right underneath your navel at 48 hrs after the birth -- but if you've had surgery -and- a long labor, sometimes the uterus doesn't want to contract the way it should, and you end up with a slow hemorrhage.

Don't hate them -- they're trying to help. (Oh, and the bleeding may only be noticeable when you get up and move around -- otherwise it can collect in the vaginal vault and in the uterus-- which is one reason that the uterus can get "boggy").

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/18/2008 9:02:41 AM

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Thanks for the advice. I will be checking with my doctor. Nice to hear from midwives and former midwives. I was with a midwife through most of my pregnancy, but a combination of the birthing center attached to the hospital getting shut down along with their maternity facilities and the fact that my blood pressure spiked and I was under intense observation for preclampsia caused me to need to be transfered to doctors.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/18/2008 3:32:52 PM

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greetings to all,

Forgive me for slightly de-railing the thread.

I am due to have a (medically necessary) c-section in August and this thread has been very helpful (so far). It will be my first experience of a c-section (my first baby) and I'm a little edgy about it. I've had lots of other surgeries over the years, but this one scares the life out of me (I think it has to do with being semi conscious throughout, when in the past, i've always been under general anaesthetic). Has anyone got any tips on how to handle the actual surgery as it's going on? deep breathing, meditation, anything like that?. The women I've spoken with who have had it done say it's "nothing" and that I'll be fine, but I can't get myself over the fact that this is a huge thing, that will take days of painful recovery.

anyway, thank you!

well wishes,

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/18/2008 3:44:52 PM

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I've had two c-sections, the first one an unplanned emergency c-section and my second one was scheduled. It can certainly be a little nerve wracking when you've never gone through it before, but it's honestly not as bad as it's made out to be. I was terrified of ever having one and wasn't at all prepared mentally or emotionally to have my first one. But then I found out I was worried about pretty much nothing. It was all over so fast and you're so focused on meeting your baby, that's it's over before you know it. It certainly helps having someone in there with you to talk to and focus on (and scratch your nose or whatever when it itches).

In response to the OP, I agree with others on waiting the full 6 weeks. There is a lot of healing that needs to go on down there, not just your outside incision. For sex, well, both times I could only wait 2 1/2 weeks before I attacked hubby.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/18/2008 4:48:28 PM

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I had an emergency c-section after a day of labor, when the baby went into distress. I had not slept in more than a day, so I actually fell asleep on the operating table. I kept waking up, and they said that my own snoring was waking me up.

The oddest sensation was that they gave me a bit too much medication in the epidural, back in my room before they decided to do the c-section, and I went completely numb from the neck down. The position I last felt my legs in (knees bent), was the position I thought they were in. It was as though I could feel them in that position, even though I could feel nothing.

At one point during the operation, I asked something like, "don't my legs have to be down?" and when they told me that they were down, I argued with them and said I could feel them up. LOL.

The best advice I have for you is walk as much as you can, and if you have a nice hospital, stay as long as you can. I couldn't get up as soon as they wanted me to, but once I did, I took walks every couple of hours, pushing the baby basinett around the floor (there's a reason I think alot of newer postpartum wings are in a circle! LOL!). I stayed the maximum time, and I really think the combo of walking and having someone else take care of everything made a huge difference in my fast recovery. If I had gone home early, I would have tried to vacuum or cook or something, instead of resting.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/18/2008 7:26:13 PM

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greetings to all,

Thank you so much! You've made me start to feel so much better.

well wishes,

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/18/2008 7:39:40 PM

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I would echo the above statements...the operation itself isn't bad at all...you might feel a bit odd because you are numb, but you can still feel pulling and tugging sensations. meditation in general would probably be helpful because it is still in a hospital, after all, and you want to be able to enjoy your new baby as much as possible.

(both of mine were c-sections...the first after 17 hrs labor and the second, went into labor one day before the scheduled c-section, tyvm!)

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/18/2008 10:52:07 PM

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I did nearly the same thing! LOL! However 6 weeks seems to be the magic number to docters. Word of warning and advice, having sex early did cause me to do a tad bit of damage and resulted in a major infection.

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/18/2008 11:01:48 PM

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First off, do not, i repeat do not, focus on the machine that moniters your vital signs, I did that and my heart rate and blood pressure went very very low. It is supposed to do that, but I didnt know and I was scared to death! Second, afterwards keep and extra pillow handy, hold it firmly against your belly whenever you cough/laugh/sneeze or whatever it helps a LOT! Blessings on you and the baby im sure you will be fine!

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RE: c-section recovery - 7/19/2008 4:11:39 PM

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trust me, you are so excited and worried and all emotional at the time you're being delivered you barely remember the surgery itself, you're focused on that baby. i remember waiting for that first cry and that was all that mattered. they could have hung my innards from the lights and i wouldn't have cared! i was a mom and i had a son! best of luck and come back and tell us all about it.
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RE: c-section recovery - 7/19/2008 4:49:55 PM

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i have had 2 children, one of each. The later was the c-section because of his position... he was a single footling breech.
To me, the vaginal was the easier of the two...much less discomfort after the delivery, and i was back to my every day stuff much faster.
What really bothered me in prep for the c-section was the loss of feeling in my legs.. it was so bizarre. I could not move or feel them once the spinal anesthesia was given... the spinal was reason enough for me to freak... i hate someone touching along my spine. I also remember feeling like my body had been cut in two the first time i tried to get out of bed... i literally curled my toes to move my foot/leg.. but i am a complete wimp when it comes to pain.The
recovery from the section was slower then the vaginal delivery.
Birth is an awesome experience, as is pregnancy, no matter how you deliver that lil one!
Best wishes for a healthy baby and wonderful birth experience.

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