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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

LadyPact,

I am the S...;  feel the S... flowing through me;  come with me and we'll rule the galaxy together!

Oh.  Darn.  That slipped out.  Blame Pixel.  Lord Pixel *obviously* gave me tainted popcorn!

LOL!  I think it was more likely those sneaky border guards putting something in it Elan!

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(Please excuse my rather blunt language - possibly a remnant of Pixel's popcorn :-).

Hey own your own behavior!  I can't help it if you drank too many Molsons with the popcorn!

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When you're in a relationship, you don't stop noticing others who are attractive to you in addition to your partner.

Really?  I do!  I become oblivious to anyone else once I become involved with a woman.  Quite often that woman will have to point other women out to me that they want me to notice for some reason as I'm typically focusing my attention on them instead of whomever else might be around; with perhaps the exception of another woman who is making a spectacle of herself and can't be ignored, in which cas we'll both likely be looking at her and discussing the situation.  LOL! 

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For myself, I've always chosen not to act because I value my partner, the relationship I have with my partner, and my sense of honesty and loyalty in far greater proportion to flings (which I don't value at all).  In other words, no matter how hard they tried, someone couldn't "poach" me.

is essential to a D/s dynamic in a relationship.  That's something a woman would doubtless have with me if I were hers and I'd no doubt feel I had it with her in order to be able to give her my complete submission.  Could I be "poached"?  I can't imagine how that would be possible. 

I could see me leaving a relationship that wasn't working, which I've done, then eventually winding up with someone else that perhaps I already knew or met while things weren't breaking apart, but I wouldn't consider that poaching.  That would be a choice I was making.

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It's my opinion that the energy used to build containment walls is misguided and wasted, and is perhaps far better used deciding to accept the straying partner as-is or to end the relationship and find a more compatible partner.

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ORIGINAL:LadyPact
There's another thread bouncing around here somewhere that asks a similar question of, can a person become sexually attractive to you (the Dom or sub in your life as applies) over time.  However, as it's discussed there, the idea is debated on the premise that the two people involved are of the opposite gender.  I think this is different than the improbable, if not impossible, sexual attraction of a bisexual female to a straight Domme.

While I know of some who serve without sexual relationships with their Masters or Dommes, or who may identify sexually with them in an incompatible manner, I just don't see it happening when casually approached.  It's been my observation that the relationships where those kinds of things do happen, are formed over time, and not situations where someone happy in an existing relationship could likely be influenced in such a manner as you describe in your OP.