AAkasha
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Over on another thread about dating we're talking about the bdsm dynamic. In thinking about all this, I realized that I don't really have much control over my desires, really. When I am attracted to someone, I want to dominate them. It's not a matter of just picking an appropriate time and then deciding to engage in bdsm because it's the right time -- I am consciously dealing with a variety of bdsm "urges" depending on how into someone I am. Sometimes, these are inappropriate urges because the person is not available to me. In fact, I can pretty much say I don't have many "Oh I would LOVE to kiss him," urges with men I find "hot," but instead, I have "Oh, I would love to GAG him," urges. The kissing, sex, fondling, foreplay, and orgasm related desires are there too, but they are actually lower on the list. My primal drive to see a man submit is stronger than my drive to have sex or achieve orgasm. But, of course, once I get physically close and start being intimate, all the other desires kick right in.. Do kinky people generally have these kinds of urges - whether you want to have them or not? When you find someone attractive, is your first desire something related to kink? How does lust affect your kinky desires? Do you have to be emotionally attracted to someone before the desire to do BDSM kicks in? If you meet someone and have great chemistry right out of the gate, do you want to do kinky things with them? What about vanilla things (kissing, fondling, foreplay?) -- whether or not you actually DO them....do you have the desires? Akasha
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