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LadyBeckett -> RE: Worthless (7/29/2004 7:59:03 PM)
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It is entirely possible that they can describe the door to freedom, point to it, walk up to it, and even open it, but they may not be able to get their mind around the idea that they could actually walk through it.
If they get out alive, and sometimes they don't, it literally takes years to progress past the experience. One of the reasons, is because they were actually conditioned, for years, before entering the experience, which (depending on the age of the abused) was probably one of many such experiences (abusive relationships). And "talking about it", lol, they don't say even half of what they could, and should, to progress toward actually healing. And then, even after the groups, the therapy, and intercession, some of them go back to the abuser, or find another one. Why? That is where the "hopeless" comes in. They are damaged, and they still have within them all that they couldn't "talk" about, so they hide within what they know, and tell themselves that maybe it will get better.
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Not my place to argue, I listen, I sometimes ask questions, I do my part to teach the class, and their path diverges from mine.
You teach a self-defense class. Is that correct? If so, that does a lot toward the possibility of saving a percentage of the participants lives. However, consider this: MAYBE 1 out of every 50 will use the skill they learn in that class when attacked by their abuser. Abused women protect their abusers. They have a language, and to reach them, one must speak, and understand it, fluently.
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