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taziesubguy -> Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 10:04:06 AM)

Right from my school days I started loving Battle of the sexes and that is because, i think i started adoring female dominants  right from my school days,  we guys lost to the girls team in the usual boys vs girls sports tussles ..after the defeat the usual bragging by the girls continued and we guys were badly teased and humiliated every time we lost to the girls (at that certain age the girls are stronger then the guys and they tend to win quite a lots).. this had a lasting effect on me.. even till date i just love to watch wherever some kind of a battle of sexes is on, whether it is on a sports field or in a work place or in a reality tv show ..as a sub i don't mind when girls beat the guys rather i love it  .. My questions to the forum are-- (1) How do you dommes/doms react when someone of the opposite sex tries to dominate you in real life event .. (2) Have you ever watched one or been part of Battle of the sexes and do you like it . (3)How do the subs react , do they want the other sex to win and dominate or do they cheer for thier own sex(4)  Thanks.. Tazie .



LaTigresse -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 10:09:48 AM)

I don't really have any interest in this type of kink or power exchange. My thrill come from a complete submission regardless of the act, not a physical besting.



hardbodysub -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 10:33:14 AM)

I'm enthralled by such a contest, and I always root for the woman to wiin. It has to be a somewhat realistic struggle, though; too fake, and I lose interest.

I'm the exact opposite of LaTigresse. I'm totally uninterested in instant, complete, willing submission. That's devastatingly boring to me. Complete, willing submission resulting from a period of seduction, conditioning, training - that's a different story, and an exciting one. But it's the journey that I find exciting, not the destination.



LaTigresse -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 10:36:32 AM)

I don't believe I said anything about instant journeyless submission. Not at all.



taziesubguy -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 11:01:32 AM)

For ,if the domme is better then you any any field it gets very exciting and also it creates the true dominance of the person over the other . It could be any field whether its strength or any sports or work area.
If a woman bosses over me in my work area , i really like it and if she beats me over a project it gets really exciting for ,by no chance i let her win easily.If i have a women boss then that means she is better then me in some way or the other and that itself creates a dominance.
Similarly in a sports field if the girl beats me in any sports , say tennis again that proves her supremacy over me in that sport and it increases my submissive nature towards her and the gender as a whole.But it should not be fake otherwise it wont be true supremacy.
Even in normal D/s relationships the domme /dom has to have some kind of supremacy over the sub in natural traits like he/she could be more mentally strong or has more will power or something like that then the sub.



taziesubguy -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 11:02:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

I'm enthralled by such a contest, and I always root for the woman to wiin. It has to be a somewhat realistic struggle, though; too fake, and I lose interest.

I'm the exact opposite of LaTigresse. I'm totally uninterested in instant, complete, willing submission. That's devastatingly boring to me. Complete, willing submission resulting from a period of seduction, conditioning, training - that's a different story, and an exciting one. But it's the journey that I find exciting, not the destination.

Did you  come across any true life event where you were beaten in any field by the opposite sex.



MsStarlett -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 11:28:56 AM)

I started lifting weights and doing resistance training a little over a year ago.  Not a powerhouse body builder like 'China' on the WWF by any stretch of the imagination.  But I've gotten pretty good at what I do and move more weight around than many of the men at my gym.  One of my male friends joined my gym and asked me to show him my routines.  I happily obliged.  Now this guy is no athlete, but he IS an ex-Marine, ex-Firefighter/EMT and currently installs tires for a living - so he's used to picking up heavy things and moving them up and down ladders.  He's no light weight.

It tickled me pink to see him straining to move the weight that I do.  I still, technically have more upper body strength than he does because I can do the pull up type exercises based on my own weight and he can't.  He also whines like a scalded dog about the pain the day after our mutual workouts.  I find that amusing.



hardbodysub -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 11:39:57 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I don't believe I said anything about instant journeyless submission. Not at all.


I agree that you didn't say instant. I wasn't trying to imply that you did, only emphasizing that I dislike it.

However, your quote was "My thrill come from a complete submission regardless of the act". Note: "complete submission", not the process of achieving it. I'm not going to argue about what you meant, or what you value; only you know that. But by specifically stating that you are uninterested in a struggle, and that complete submission is what rings your chimes, while mentioning nothing about the journey to get there, I think you implied that the journey isn't such a thrill.

Again, I'm not saying that's what you meant. It's just the way it looked.



hardbodysub -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 11:44:39 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: taziesubguy

Did you  come across any true life event where you were beaten in any field by the opposite sex.


Of course. Any guy who says he has NEVER lost at ANYTHING to a female, at any age, is either lying, or has a really bad memory.



taziesubguy -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 12:12:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub


quote:

ORIGINAL: taziesubguy

Did you  come across any true life event where you were beaten in any field by the opposite sex.


Of course. Any guy who says he has NEVER lost at ANYTHING to a female, at any age, is either lying, or has a really bad memory.

Can we have the honor to listen to those "female supremacy/domination events"



taziesubguy -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 12:14:22 PM)

Wow that was a great real life event of female domination over a male and that too against a tough marine guy.. wow..how do you feel after winning this  event .. exciting..



hardbodysub -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 12:58:37 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: taziesubguy

Can we have the honor to listen to those "female supremacy/domination events"



No. You're trying to make wank fodder out of something that's not very remarkable at all.



Lockit -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 1:06:37 PM)

I was very good in sports, but in running... there were very few who could beat me.  At a young age, but an age where one starts having boyfriends or interest, I determined that a boy could not be my boyfriend unless he could race me and win, at least once.  That is how I determined he was better than the others. lol  Okay I have come a long way since then... but I still want one that can beat the other's in a sense and if he can win with me... all the better.  I am still boss! lol  But the challenges have moved from the physical to the mental... as my physical is done gone!  Now it is word games and there are marathons!

In anything... when someone tries to dominante me... I tend to laugh.  I make it socially acceptable if I can, but I do let them know that it won't get them far.  I do not feel threatened, thus the laugh.  As for submissive's feelings... my experience has been that some are afraid of the challenge for whatever reason or some seek it, with all due respect of course. lol  It's all fun... but those that like the challenge are typically the one's I like to play with.



Prinsexx -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 1:46:42 PM)

i'm a slave. i will serve  my Master whatever i am asked to. But i do not submit easily.
i have exhausted many who have tried to get my submission.
my weakest link is my emotional masochism but i have learned tolove the emotional breaking point because i know that my Master can heal me and bring me back from it. My weakest link was not forged by Him.
The only porn i like watching is sadistic realism and of seeing a slave bear pain without limits until her real tears are recognised. The only stories i write might seem like fiction but they are not. They are born from suffering.
i don't think it is a question for me of a battle of the SEXES as who is what gender doesn't really interest me. i just know for me that my Master is my 'opposite'.

































LaTigresse -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 6:08:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub


quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I don't believe I said anything about instant journeyless submission. Not at all.


I agree that you didn't say instant. I wasn't trying to imply that you did, only emphasizing that I dislike it.

However, your quote was "My thrill come from a complete submission regardless of the act". Note: "complete submission", not the process of achieving it. I'm not going to argue about what you meant, or what you value; only you know that. But by specifically stating that you are uninterested in a struggle, and that complete submission is what rings your chimes, while mentioning nothing about the journey to get there, I think you implied that the journey isn't such a thrill.

Again, I'm not saying that's what you meant. It's just the way it looked.


I shall explain. I am not a cave woman. I don't want to wrestle them to the ground and drag them off to the farm. I want a woman to WANT to submit to me. I want them to want it more than anything else.

Certainly it is rarely instant. I liken it to a dance. Some have compared it to a chess match. Some have likened it to a hunter and prey, others a spider with a web. Regardless, it can take time. It wouldn't be any fun if it was easy or instant.  

To ME, the initial post was about a physical overpowerment, the act, not specifically submission. While something of that sort make come up in our interactions over the course of time...it is certainly not a major part of my life or something I consider important. I don't look at my, or any, slave and think "I want to grab them and wrestle them for power." I feel I have power without that sort of thing. I don't need, or want to need, to physically overpower anyone to get them to submit to me. That would feel empty and more like a game than the deep submission I want.

If wrestling and body slamming, or whatever....is someone else's thrill, thats cool. It is just not my thing. To ME, that is not submission.



mbes -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 6:38:50 PM)

As an s-type, nah, I don't get off on gender politics. I don't belong to mine because he's male, but because he's my partner. I'll pull for the team/person I like, although I have been known to pick the hot guy, if it's a choice between two men. When I'm watching the Super Bowl, I couldn't care less about the teams, so I pick the one with the better-looking quarterback. [:D]
But then, I'm not one to expect my d-type to be better/faster/stronger/smarter. I quit looking for the 6 million dollar man long ago... sigh....



Lashra -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 9:05:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: taziesubguy

(1) How do you dommes/doms react when someone of the opposite sex tries to dominate you in real life event .. (2) Have you ever watched one or been part of Battle of the sexes and do you like it . (3)How do the subs react , do they want the other sex to win and dominate or do they cheer for thier own sex(4)  Thanks.. Tazie .

Answers: (1) I usually laugh at them and go my merry way. (2) Yes I have been and personally I find it to be something like you'd find in elementary school. (3)My sub always wants the women to win.

~Lashra



Leatherist -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/27/2008 9:06:44 PM)

Sure. I always got hard when Wonder Woman got tied up in the tv series.
 
[:D]



taziesubguy -> RE: Battle of the sexes (7/31/2008 11:37:45 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

I was very good in sports, but in running... there were very few who could beat me.  At a young age, but an age where one starts having boyfriends or interest, I determined that a boy could not be my boyfriend unless he could race me and win, at least once.  That is how I determined he was better than the others. lol  Okay I have come a long way since then... but I still want one that can beat the other's in a sense and if he can win with me... all the better.  I am still boss! lol  But the challenges have moved from the physical to the mental... as my physical is done gone!  Now it is word games and there are marathons!

In anything... when someone tries to dominante me... I tend to laugh.  I make it socially acceptable if I can, but I do let them know that it won't get them far.  I do not feel threatened, thus the laugh.  As for submissive's feelings... my experience has been that some are afraid of the challenge for whatever reason or some seek it, with all due respect of course. lol  It's all fun... but those that like the challenge are typically the one's I like to play with.


So you enjoy the resisitence from the sub..




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