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Sharing... outside the "lifestyle" - 7/27/2008 6:32:51 PM

concavia

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I am curious how many Masters consider "sharing" of subs outside of some kind of self-defined "community." In other words, if you do share your subs, is it only with other "lifestyle Dominants" that you know or have met through forums like CM, or do you consider/have you shared your subs with your reglr vanilla guy friends?

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RE: Sharing... outside the "lifestyle" - 7/27/2008 6:38:40 PM

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I'm not against it with My Pet, but its something you can't undo. It has powerful emotional and psychological impacts (which can be good or bad).

At current, My Pet knows its a possibility, but has been assured it won't happen without prior discussion. Some will take to it readily, others will suffer through it.

"How many would consider...?"

Count me as 1.

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RE: Sharing... outside the "lifestyle" - 7/27/2008 6:46:26 PM

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Coming from the other side, I've been shared; never in a bdsm context (yet). So yeah, I guess my owner has considered it.

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RE: Sharing... outside the "lifestyle" - 7/27/2008 6:47:44 PM

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If and When you open that can of worms..remember..You can never close it ..and its never the same afterwards

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RE: Sharing... outside the "lifestyle" - 7/27/2008 6:50:54 PM

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I don't share at all, so I guess the question doesn't apply to me.

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RE: Sharing... outside the "lifestyle" - 7/27/2008 6:57:49 PM

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This has come up in discussion here and there so it's clinically on the radar. It could happen but it would not be without a few caveats. It would be a bdsm only thing with another Dom/me. It would be a strictly no sex arrangement simply because we are clean, green and fluid bonded and intend to remain that way. That alone would rule out any vanilla participants as they would have no use for it. It might actually be fun to change partners with another Dom/sub couple at a play party and that notion has occurred to me a time or two. Most play party play that I have seen is benign enough not to get out of hand but with a little luck it could be a worthwhile proposition.

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RE: Sharing... outside the "lifestyle" - 7/27/2008 7:26:41 PM

concavia

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I've been shared with vanilla friends of Master's... and the idea has come up about sharing with more.

The friend I was shared with was not one I only knew in the context of being shared (he is from a different circle than that we share), and it was a quite delightful experience. Master was not there, and I was sent to be with him on my own. I did not feel any kind of shaky boundaries.

On the other hand, Master alluded to possibly sharing me with, or at least putting me on display for, mutual, vanilla friends. He asked me how I felt about it: I told him it felt strange because of the friendship factor, and that I have never been the type to have a lot of casual "fuckbuddy" sex and still be just friends with a person. I was worried about the boundaries. The fact that those friends are not focused on power exchange made it harder for me to feel safe that they would understand the "meaning" of the dynamic of being given away.

He stopped bringing it up - whether out of respect for me or the fact that he didn't want a meltdown, I am not sure.

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RE: Sharing... outside the "lifestyle" - 7/27/2008 7:28:27 PM

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Both- what matters is that I can provide what they want. Being Ds or not is irrelevant.

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