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rekindling - 7/29/2008 10:52:38 PM

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I have a question. My wife and i have been married for 9 years now. for the first 5 years of our marriage we were pretty much in a 24/7 role. then 4 years ago something changed and she no longer has any desire to even play any more.

a little back ground we were super active in Dallas at the sanctuary, even lived with one of the owners after her Dom left her. we had a house fire and a falling out between us and her. Ever since then we have only played maybe 3 or 4 times.

I have a special evening planned in a few weeks for us. manicure pedicure facial Swedish massage at a very nice spa here in Lubbock and a beautiful hotel room with Jacuzzi bath tub.

in a perfect world we will play that night,

but how how do i rekindle that Domme fire thats buried deep inside her?

any suggestions would be great..

thanks..

kitty

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RE: rekindling - 7/29/2008 11:07:39 PM

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Is there a question attached to the word?

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RE: rekindling - 7/29/2008 11:19:58 PM

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ha? I think this is the first time for a one word post, with the exception of the Poll board. Am i missing something?

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RE: rekindling - 7/29/2008 11:50:12 PM

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sorry about that folks, internet problems lol

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RE: rekindling - 7/30/2008 4:46:23 AM

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Have you tried talking to her about this? If she's no longer interested, then you can't start her back up. Although you might be able to negotiate occasional topping.

But if she tells you in words, as she has in actions, that she doesn't want to do this ever again, then what will be your reaction? Will you ask for a divorce or to go out and find someone else? Visit a prodomme? You need to think out options that will fulfill you and talk to her about that, not blame her for changing.

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RE: rekindling - 7/30/2008 4:53:12 AM

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I think communicating with her about the reasons why she has stopped play is essential. Presenting her with a romantic evening sounds wonderful but it could be quite confronting.

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RE: rekindling - 7/30/2008 6:24:17 AM

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my opinion would be to talk about the issue before the planned night out. i don't think it's a good idea to try to coerce her into play just cuz you've treated her nicely. Seems here, as in many instances, a nice face-to-face discussion is in order.

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RE: rekindling - 7/30/2008 7:07:04 AM

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Thanks.

More than anything this weekend away is to spend time together. Yes i would like the SnM attention, but i wont be heartbroken if it doesn't happen.

I dont think i would ever leave her, and if i did find a domme, she would have say in everything. And it would be a non-sexual service. We have talked about that. She knows about the hotel room weekend, but has no clue about the spa. i'm taking a few toys, not the who toy bag, a few canes, some rope, if we use them, AWESOME, if not, we will still make love together wich is also great.

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