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rookey -> The relevance of honest confidence (8/5/2008 6:52:59 AM)
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Honest confidence can be defined as having been there, done that. Hence I know I can do it competently, things will be okay, so my confidence is justified. One can be honestly confident that they'll do whatever okay and so not get scared.
Experience brings confidence, confidence brings competence. Experience shows you that you can get the job done with no fuss or fanfare. Experience shows you that your diabilitating fears were groundless. Experience makes the diabilitating fantasy disappear. Assuming nothing bad happens of course.
People will go so far as their confidence lets them. Which perhaps explain why a lot of newbies go 'poof'. I've been reading old posts on collar chat about newbies who get so far down the line before asking Scotty to beam 'em up. You're just about to meet in real time and 'hello, where have they gone?' They haven't the experience and so the honest confidence to follow through.
So this brings us to the key question of how do you overcome the initial fear to get experience to get honest confidence? How do you resolve this catch 22?
Answer. Try walking another's footstep, if they can do it. Why not you?
Learn from the experience of others. What the pitfalls are and how to avoid them. Find out what the worse that can happen is and ask is it really as bad you think.
Well that's just my tuppence worth.
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