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Maxwell67 -> RE: Our threads and their subtleties..... (8/8/2008 4:36:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
I am a believer that people are affected by words, even from those they do not know. People are touched, angered, amused, you name it. This is why we buy books, and enjoy poetry, and even return here day after day, to see what people we respect and people we don't respect have to say. To say we are all just pixels on a page is, I believe, incorrect, because as thinking, breathing, rationalizing human beings (most of us, anyway!), we know there is a person behind those pixels, and not only are we affected by them to some degree, we affect others to some degree as well.
Sometimes it's really hard to be called on our crap. We might get really angry and defensive, because we just don't believe (or we don't want to). Sometimes we get angry because the one doing the calling actually IS incredibly wrong, and maybe it's someone who really actually DO want to see the truth about us.
Human dynamics isn't black and white. Some care a lot, some don't care at all, and others fall anywhere in between. But I believe if people really didn't care at all, they wouldn't be here, nor would they be bothered to reply to the posts they do.
I try not to get involved in the drama. Sometimes I still do, but I do try to stay away from it. Drama tends to feed off response, whether negative or positive. No reply at all is what I believe is the best reply. I am neither into coddling/hand holding nor am I into busting someone's chops in a "tough love" style. If anything, I try to state my mind in a gentle way, whether I agree with someone or not. But that's just my personality type. We can only be who we are. I might not enjoy seeing the "tough love / bust yer chops" personality types displayed here, which I occasionally post about, but then again, others might not enjoy mine.
I guess it's the diversity that makes the world go 'round.
My two cents, for what it's worth.
Oh yes. Nicely said! I agree. I have been known to stray a bit one way or the other, but I am good natured about it most of the time. It has been my experience people, (yes, even dominants), tend to enjoy having the respect of thier peers, and find that it is worth working toward. You gotta get their attention before you can get respect, though, and there are thems that waits quietly for their actions to grab your attention, and thems that don't. People who post on forums like this are among thems that don't wait quietly. That is just the way it is, you might as well accept it. If you did not want anyone to listen to you, you would not be posting. Period. (exception to this rule being those poor subbies forced by their cruel masters to post yummy little targets dripping with drama for ust to frenzy over like pirhanas)
The CM forums is at least in its most basic form a place for discussing WIITWD and hopefully to learn. So we often post questions to that end. In addition to that, we have a choice of one of two other motives for making a post. A) trying to be helpful and earn the respect of our peers OR B) simply to get attention. Not both. However much you might want to argue it that is how it works. Now all of A is still getting attention, dont get me wrong, but there is a great deal more to B. That includes everything from drama to snark to downright meanness. I make my share of posts that sit squarely in column B, but I strive to insure that in my case column B is considerably shorter than column A.
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