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The Healthy Submissive - 8/8/2008 4:20:35 AM   
Sunnyfey


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The healthy submissive is capable of, and thrives on, intense, intimate, emotionally open relationships. This is often evident in the number of nourishing, sustaining, and life affirming friendships she makes over the years.  

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The healthy submissive is a giver. She often needs help to ration herself because her impulses nearly always lead her to want to do good for others.  

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The healthy submissive is capable of intense joy, especially in the context of a sustaining relationship.  

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The healthy submissive finds significant relaxation when properly related. She is at ease in that place.  

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The healthy submissive has finely tuned interpersonal sensitivity. She is reactive to subtle shifts in the emotional tone of others.  

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The healthy submissive has a fluidity of self, a flexibility that enables her to adapt to changing circumstances.  

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The healthy submissive is playful.  

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The healthy submissive has no more than the usual cultural conflicts about her body, and its goodness and beauty.  

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The healthy submissive takes pride in her accomplishments.  

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The healthy submissive accepts herself as she is, knowing that while her culture values independence and self sufficiency, she has strong dependency needs and that there is no inherent "wrongness" about those needs.  

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The healthy submissive seeks nourishing relationships.  

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The healthy submissive, in accepting herself "as is" is tolerant of others. But neither will she allow anyone to tell her what her truth should be.  

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The healthy submissive has a reasonable self concept, aware of her difficulties as well as her strengths.  

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The healthy submissive hunger is to be the object of an intense and penetrating understanding. When her nature is understood and she is held in a loving and firm frame, her devotion is almost limitless. The healthy submissive has an enormous capacity for devotion, from which springs her service.

 
The Healthy Submissive by Yaldah Tovah, M.D.
 
 

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RE: The Healthy Submissive - 8/8/2008 10:00:51 AM   
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That was lovely and well-written, but how is it any different from the Healthy Person? 
 
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RE: The Healthy Submissive - 8/8/2008 5:36:58 PM   
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Regarding #2 - there is nothing healthy in being so "giving" that you need others to ration your selfsacrifice.  That is codependent behaviour and needs treatment.
   been there, did that , got the therapy - don't want to go back there.

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RE: The Healthy Submissive - 8/9/2008 3:39:46 AM   
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Oh my God!  That is the perfect description of a true and heartfelt submissive!  Wait a sec........most of those describe ME!  I may not be perfect,but, at least I know I'm healthy.  I'm saving this to share with my Daddy and Sir. 

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RE: The Healthy Submissive - 8/9/2008 7:48:49 AM   
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the healthy submissive doesn't rely on some list to validate that they are healthy

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RE: The Healthy Submissive - 8/9/2008 8:57:08 AM   
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Do I need affirmation to know myself?

No.

But sometimes its nice to get what I want.


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RE: The Healthy Submissive - 8/10/2008 1:26:58 PM   
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I don't need a list to tell me I'm a healthy sub, but, I always welcome any new information or information that confirms what I already knew.

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(continuing to discover new things all the time)

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