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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 9:34:09 AM

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Goal in m/s - weird ..

As a M/s practitioner and owner, I wonder what makes you say that?

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 10:00:25 AM

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Goal in m/s - weird ..

As a M/s practitioner and owner, I wonder what makes you say that?

Aramis Duval

Taken in the context that the goal of D/s and M/s is exactly the same for me .. to have fun. It probably stems from the fact that when I first jumped into the leather vats, there was no difference because I'd never heard of D/s relationships only Top/bottom and Master/slave. D/s was something I found out about when I got online several years later and discovered there were a whole lot of folks who didn't identify with Master/slave but weren't into SM either so D/s was coined. I understand that there are plenty of people who don't like the term slave because of the historical implications, but I'm not one of them so don't differentiate between the two. I use D/s and M/s as interchangeable and only separate out BDSM as activities and D/s or M/s as relationship oriented.

For the record, BDSM for me is all about having fun and M/s (or D/s) is about having fun in my relationships with my partner/s which may or may not include BDSM as part of the package.

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 10:02:47 AM

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well said, Celeste...

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 10:05:28 AM

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Celeste is always well said

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 10:08:45 AM

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agreed...

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 11:07:33 AM

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Simply put-

Happiness.

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 11:09:00 AM

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GreedyTop,

Holy Crap Batman - 11756 Posts in 430 plus days! That's an average of 27 posts per day. I thought I needed a life LOL.

Kudos!

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 11:12:42 AM

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Well I would agree with the others, very well said, although from a Master's prospective I am not sure if I would call it fun all the time LOL.

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 11:46:16 AM

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GreedyTop,

Holy Crap Batman - 11756 Posts in 430 plus days! That's an average of 27 posts per day. I thought I needed a life LOL.

Kudos!

Aramis Duval

yeah, I know :) but I have the (questionable) advantage that I can play on CM while I am at work....

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 12:27:51 PM

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Relationships have goals? Damn! I didn't get the memo on that.

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 12:34:09 PM

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I actually think the fallacy is in the language of the OP's question.

What makes you think that being M/s, or D/s is a "goal" oriented behavior? It just is. This approach of yours is about as wrong as thinking that the whole point to sex in general is nothing more than to give yourself and your partner multiple orgasms. (Nice when it happens, but it certainly shouldn't be the standard of measure to your relationship.)

I practice this sort of thing because it's what I need in order to feel happy, and satisfied. My partner(s) over the years, I hope, have felt pretty much the same way. We relate to each other as Dom and sub, because we both find it enjoyable. It gets us off.

What more do you really need?

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 12:40:43 PM

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Well I would agree with the others, very well said, although from a Master's prospective I am not sure if I would call it fun all the time LOL.

Aramis Duval

Oh, I agree and I actually addressed that in my first post. There is always going to be tears and blood .. oh wait.. that's the fun part. N/m

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 1:15:49 PM

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*perk* blood?

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 1:23:44 PM

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I can understand that LOL. I have a pretty good job where I can do that too. Seeing as you are the resident "Insane" person here, as I haven't seen that before, I may have try to catch up. What would that mean like 57 posts a day http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m19.gif

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 1:30:59 PM

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grr.. nothing opened on that link, for me.

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 1:42:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterAramis

I can understand that LOL. I have a pretty good job where I can do that too. Seeing as you are the resident "Insane" person here, as I haven't seen that before, I may have try to catch up. What would that mean like 57 posts a day http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m19.gif

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You can always go to the polls and random stupidity section, Ive seen people get 100 posts in one day with some of the threads
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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 1:49:06 PM

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send me a reading list, would ya? I'm bored

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 2:26:39 PM

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You can always go to the polls and random stupidity section, Ive seen people get 100 posts in one day with some of the threads
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Thanks you!! I wish I would have known that before lol. That stupid vanilla ice cream cone was driving me nuts! The story of my life, I always have to do it the hard way! Who thought of adding a vanilla cone to a BDSM site anyway? Must be a twisted bastard lol.

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 2:54:21 PM

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Who thought of adding a vanilla cone to a BDSM site anyway? Must be a twisted bastard lol.

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on a site populated by sadists?? whoda thunk??
*gasp*

*wink*

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RE: What is the goal of M/s vs. D/s? - 8/9/2008 9:17:06 PM

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I actually think the fallacy is in the language of the OP's question.

What makes you think that being M/s, or D/s is a "goal" oriented behavior? It just is. This approach of yours is about as wrong as thinking that the whole point to sex in general is nothing more than to give yourself and your partner multiple orgasms. (Nice when it happens, but it certainly shouldn't be the standard of measure to your relationship.)

I practice this sort of thing because it's what I need in order to feel happy, and satisfied. My partner(s) over the years, I hope, have felt pretty much the same way. We relate to each other as Dom and sub, because we both find it enjoyable. It gets us off.

What more do you really need?

It is obvious my friend you have not been in a M/s relationship. There are goals, regiment, rules, it isn't just about feeding you or yours sado/maso desires and pleasures and play. It involves work and its about learning, training, growing with the result a dedicated slave who earns a collar at the end of a needle and ink and/or hot iron.

Gregory
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