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AAkasha -> Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/8/2008 9:03:50 PM)


Good bottoms are clearly under-rated.

So maybe I am really predictable about my personal bondage hot buttons, but damn, there's something about the "blink-wince" thats makes me SO wet. Who can do this? Well, actors are incredibly good at it, because they, well, they act.  Good bottoms do it, either because they honestly are having a "blink-wince" moment - or, they know it makes their femdom extremely wet.  I am not sure how many other femdoms - if any - get so charged by  -- err - "physical signs of vulnerability" - but they absolutely melt me. 

A talented bottom walks a great line between harnessing his inner vulnerability and showing it; or, knowing how to act it without appearing campy, melodramatic or insincere. At the end of the day, if I can't tell the difference, it doesn't matter in a lot of cases. A good bottom conveys his helplessness in physical ways that make me wet.

What on earth is the "blink-wince"?  Elijah Wood in "Lord of the Rings" has it mastered.  But an honorable mention goes to the cute one (the other cute one)  in SUPERNATURAL at about six seconds in (it's so subtle you might miss it...which is why it's SO perfect..)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XZ5PmqURFEg

Femdoms, what's your "blink-wince" button?

Akasha





MzMinx -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/8/2008 10:25:41 PM)

hmmm for me its all about the change in breathing .... or the small little grunts and moans.....

and the squirm factor ... the way their bodies react.... some bodies are just made to squirm and flex



BiteGirl -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 12:30:22 AM)

Hey! I've done the blink wince while subbing before! I've never really thought about it though.

And Elijah Wood is adorable! =)

But anyways... in the few situations where I have been the dealer of the pain I loved when breathing would change, become heaver or stop for a moment. It does so much for me, odd thing, but it's true.



MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 7:28:22 AM)

The sigh of surrender.  Just closed eyes, exhaled breath and a fall of the shoulders that says it all.



Sylverdawn -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 7:45:26 AM)

I think for me its when the skin flushes.. perhaps thats why I favor fair skinned blonde types... shrugs... I just know that is a completely invountary reaction that they have no control over and now it means I do have it.. love love love that.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 2:24:18 PM)

quote:

Extremely hot bottoms.  It's all about the blink-wince!


(begin HNG)

I read the first part of this thread's title and thought a delicious discussion vis-a-vis spanking was about to unfold.

*pouts a bit*

(/end HNG)

Elan.



LadyPact -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 2:32:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

quote:

Extremely hot bottoms.  It's all about the blink-wince!


(begin HNG)

I read the first part of this thread's title and thought a delicious discussion vis-a-vis spanking was about to unfold.

*pouts a bit*

(/end HNG)

Elan.


Such the tease.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 2:34:45 PM)

Akasha,

About what you call "blink-wince" and I call "the look".  For me, it occurs in different ways for different people.  It's in the eyes.  It's in the skin.  It's in body language.  It's in the tone of a person's voice and in their breathing.  It's in the way a person's fragrance changes.  Too many things for me to list in adequate number here.  Yep.  We submisives also have reverse blink-wince buttons (although many won't admit this).  I adore a domina who knows how to initiate and reciprocate seduction, and often, the more involuntary this is, the better.  For me, it's not about control, but rather about enjoying reaction - the active / cognizant kind and the involuntary kind.

Elan.



Tantriqu -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 2:36:59 PM)

I love love LOVE the sexual flush cascading down a ripply gasping torso, but not every man has that response.
So for me, it's the manly catch in the breath, and the way they try to arch their back & raise their ass to the next blow . . . or the strapon . . .

'Scuse me, I have to -- you know.  They don't have a G-spot icon, so this will have to do: [sm=anger.gif]



ElanSubdued -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 2:38:11 PM)

LadyPact,

quote:

Such the tease.


To borrow a cute quote from the Ask A Master forum and from the vernacular in general...

Pot... meet kettle.

Actually, better yet, Hand meet bum. :-)

Elan.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 2:41:38 PM)

Tantriqu,

quote:

I love love LOVE the sexual flush cascading down a ripply gasping torso...


I probably wouldn't describe a domina as having a "ripply, gasping torso", but the "sexual flush" cascading a woman's face, chest, and rest of her body is very sexy indeed.

Elan.



LadyPact -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 2:43:03 PM)

<Looks at hand>

<Looks around the immediate distance where hand could potentially connect with said bum>

<Notices lack of physical evidence>

Tease.



MamaDomme1 -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 3:42:39 PM)

I love it when he (or she) hits that submissive point to where their eyes tend to glaze, they exhale long, quick inhale and brace up.  Makes me wet instantly!

*and if they are a masochist, bonus points are awarded!



hardbodysub -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 7:10:24 PM)

It helps if the domina actually does something to elicit the "blink-wince". I hate to fake it. Makes the whole situation seem phony and unexciting.



AAkasha -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 7:13:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

It helps if the domina actually does something to elicit the "blink-wince". I hate to fake it. Makes the whole situation seem phony and unexciting.


Of course.  Hair pulling?  Biting?  Having a finger shoved up your ass, being kneed in the crotch?
There are many physical things I do to a man to get a reaction. The simple fact is that some men are more animated than others.

Akasha



TexasMaam -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/9/2008 9:35:30 PM)

What a great post!
TM



hardbodysub -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/10/2008 6:51:04 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

It helps if the domina actually does something to elicit the "blink-wince". I hate to fake it. Makes the whole situation seem phony and unexciting.


Of course.  Hair pulling?  Biting?  Having a finger shoved up your ass, being kneed in the crotch?
There are many physical things I do to a man to get a reaction. The simple fact is that some men are more animated than others.

Akasha



Of course. I can certainly see how you wouldn't enjoy it much if the sub was completely unresponsive. Based on your writings, I didn't doubt for a second that you would create a reason for a man to wince.

On the other hand, I've seen subs screaming and writhing over the mildest of stimuli (such as VERY gentle contact with an extremely soft flogger), and it's so fake that it becomes a major turnoff.



Tantriqu -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/10/2008 9:39:54 AM)

I always think of one man in particular:  a cop who did martial arts, who taught me the subtlest signs can be the most arousing.  he was so silent, and so fit his heart- and breathing rates didn't change, so for the first couple of times I did unspeakable things to him, I thought except for his cock that he was completely unresponsive, bored, or comatose. 
Then I learned to look for his 'tells';  slightly deeper respirations, eyes rolling back behind his lids, and when he finally did gasp, arch, or say my name, I'd almost come.

A gasper over a screamer every time!



TermsConditions -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/10/2008 6:04:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Good bottoms are clearly under-rated.



I could not agree more [;)]

To develop my "blink-wince" I'm studying the work of this fellow:

[sm=crop.gif]

Akasha, thanks for the great post!



LadySunn -> RE: Extremely hot bottoms. It's all about the blink-wince! (8/10/2008 9:09:01 PM)

a gasper of my name.... when his skin is hot, flushed and welted - (from my whip and paddle of course). then his shoulders drop with the exhaled breath. Oh my goodness** 



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