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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA

are you against female dominance outside of being a servicing top for a male bottom?

the overall tone in all your post seems to subvert the authenticity in female domination and male submission.

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The very odd thing about this incredibly intense moment is that I can't go there unless I am with a bottom that I feel can really take care of me, because it's a very vulnerable place to be.  And when a submissive/bottom is in a position of total helplessness, exhaustion, fear, pain, surrender - it's an incredible burden to also be a protector.  So I have to get a sense from him that's not only capable of handling what he knows I need, but he's also capable of handling taking care of me if I am feeling really shook up about what ends up happening.  In my entire life, I can probably count on one hand the number of times I've gotten to this point - all incredible - all intense.  Do I want to go there again?  Absolutely.  But I can't make it happen, it just does.  The right combination of a lot of things.

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I guess the question I have for femdoms is this -- does this idea/desire resonate with you - a place so intense that you indeed feel totally vulnerable at the moment of being most in control (at the same time).  And for submissives - have you recognized this "place" with your partner, and do you go there?  And have you ever been in that caretaker role as a result - and does the clash of dominance and vulnerability - almost at the same time - mess with your submissive mindframe?

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I have had this kind of thing happen, but I never saw it as "vulnerability", I saw it as opening into a new kind of power, and a dropping of the veil, if you will. That sounds overblown, but it's the best description my memory can come up with. I suppose exaltation can lead to vulnerability, but I found the synergy enhancing. It's rare to have that kind of trust and connection with a playmate or partner, and it doesn't happen often.

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

<snippage>  <bolding mine>

That sort of feeling might happened down the road as I feel more dominant and the darker parts of myself start to come out -- what if he/she rejects that darker idea or aspect and then rejects me?

In the middle of scene I might instead feel an intense feeling of pride in my sub or bottom and be driven to hug then or cry but that's not me being vulnerable but being proud.

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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA

are you against female dominance outside of being a servicing top for a male bottom?

the overall tone in all your post seems to subvert the authenticity in female domination and male submission.

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thetammyjo:
That sort of feeling might happened down the road as I feel more dominant and the darker parts of myself start to come out -- what if he/she rejects that darker idea or aspect and then rejects me?  In the middle of scene I might instead feel an intense feeling of pride in my sub or bottom and be driven to hug then or cry but that's not me being vulnerable but being proud.

LadyHibiscus:
Exactly.

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

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thetammyjo:
That sort of feeling might happened down the road as I feel more dominant and the darker parts of myself start to come out -- what if he/she rejects that darker idea or aspect and then rejects me? In the middle of scene I might instead feel an intense feeling of pride in my sub or bottom and be driven to hug then or cry but that's not me being vulnerable but being proud.

LadyHibiscus:
Exactly.

From this boy's perspective, you're camouflaging the connection and intimacy in sharing a domina's tears. :-) Can't a domina cry or react emotionally without having to defend this and/or put a label on it? People react. Therefore I see no reason why a domina would be any different.

Elan.

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

I've experienced this phenomenon, aptly labled 'Femdom vulnerability' (bravo, that!), only twice in My life.

I believe the experience was triggered by a deep wave of love and emotion at the height of a scene (session in My vocabulary), on both occasions.

I thought about it for weeks and months afterwards, and upon examination decided it was prompted by a deep rooted fear of rejection that was tied directly to the deep emotional and spiritual love I felt for the submissive. 

I think it is an instinctive self preservation 'reality check' that triggers the psyche to tell us 'watch out! you're getting in waaaay too deep here!' that is usually the result of previous relationships gone awry.  I know that the depth of any truly inspiring session results in an ever deepening connection to the submissive on My part, and after pondering and wrestling with the dichotomy I decided that is what triggered it.

I'm no analyst, though, so My introspective groping through the catacombs of My own mind and heart may be less than thesis material.

Another Great post, I always love your insights, Aakasha.

TexasMaam

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I'm very confused by your reply to my post.  Where do I say this is about anyone other than me?  This was a post about me and me alone, not some imaginary sub with me.  When you cry for different reasons they are different reason.  Feeling pride is not feeling vulnerable at least not for me.  No where in my post do I see any of this so-called "camouflage"... where it is again?