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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 3:06:56 PM

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Oldest of 2 females switch. Dominant with females and people younger Sub with males and older. Haven't come across a interesting older female yet don't know what would happen.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 3:10:50 PM

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Oldest of 2, and Dominant.
Fox is (as he said) oldest, of 3 in his case though 2 of the 3 are minutes apart. He is submissive.
Angel is the middle child and only boy in his family of 3, and he is submissive to me, switch elsewhere or sohe thinks at the moment. That tends to change.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 3:13:33 PM

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I'm a singleton, only child.

Empirical studies have shown time and again that birth order has nothing to do with anything. It's a provocative topic because people want to know why they are like they are, it gives people a sense of control. There's nothing wrong with that except as it pertains to people hawking merchandise upon which other people spend a good deal of money and start believing the "science" of nothingness.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 3:17:39 PM

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i'm firstborn (and only girl out of 5) - so i'm used to being spoiled and having my way. yep, a military brat and princess rolled up in one.

in some ways, i'm controlling, aggressive and stubborn because i like things done on time and perfect. then there are times when it's nice giving up that control.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 3:32:12 PM

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oldest of six. definitely dominant. also first grandchild on both sides of the family. spoiled rotten for the first 3 yrs or so til the first boy, my younger brother, was born.
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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 3:33:55 PM

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Youngest of four. Submissive. (I think one of my older sisters would be too, if she had an inkling of the lifestyle).

I think there may be certain traits that are associated with birth order (nurture over nature), but those do not include sexual/BDSM orientation.

Master and I are both the youngest, and we both share the need/ability to perform and enjoy being on stage (typical youngest center-of-attention thing). But I sing with an a cappella jazz ensemble and He fronts a rock/metal band- that might reflect our respective roles better than birth order.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 3:42:55 PM

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Youngest of 4. Switchy.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 3:59:49 PM

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Good topic, I've wondered this myself. I'm the youngest of 3...and I think my brother (who is the middle) is somewhat dominant...not that I'd ask him....

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 4:00:48 PM

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only..switch-ish

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 5:55:53 PM

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I'm an only....and submissive in the bedroom but not so much outside of it.

Interestingly enough, I recently read a book on birth order and relationships, and it indicated that an only child who is female is most likely to be well parterned with an older, more dominant, father-figure type male.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 6:00:20 PM

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Oldest of 2, definitely submissive.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 6:11:53 PM

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Middle of 3 ... submissive.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 6:17:02 PM

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Eldest of 4, now unfortunately 3. I think it has more to do with growing up a navy brat.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 9:02:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EponasChylde

I'm an only....and submissive in the bedroom but not so much outside of it.

Interestingly enough, I recently read a book on birth order and relationships, and it indicated that an only child who is female is most likely to be well parterned with an older, more dominant, father-figure type male.

Why do you think that is the case? Perhaps is it the same theory that certain individuals partner with someone who has the same characteristics as our folks of the opposite sex?

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 9:04:50 PM

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Spoiled princess. I’m the baby by 11 years and dom-switch.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 9:15:31 PM

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Why do you think that is the case? Perhaps is it the same theory that certain individuals partner with someone who has the same characteristics as our folks of the opposite sex?

According to the book (and my own experience mirrors this), only-female children are more likely to be spoiled and allowed to be both emotionally and financially dependant on their parents (even after they are "grown.") Statistically, they are not pushed to be as successful career wise, are less likely to be taught good money skills, are often allowed to live at home for a longer time than other demographics, are closer to their parents than other children, etc etc. Also the book says that only-females, due to the lack of siblings, often are not taught how to interact with people close to their own age, and hence find themselves attracted (both romantically and socially) to those who are either much younger or much older than they are.

Because of all this, they often seek a partner who can step into the role they are used to their parents filling.

I can't speak for anyone but me, but I know it's true for me. At 25yrs old, I still live in a house my mom bought for me and pays the bills on, I still am VERY emotionally and financially dependant on my parents, have lacked the personal will power and ambition necessary to manage my own life, have a powerhouse career, etc etc. I like men 15+yrs older than me who are successful and financially capable. I am very very attracted to people who can step into my parents shoes so to speak in their manner of dealing with me.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 9:25:16 PM

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Baby of the family and have always loved it! I'm the youngest of six. I'm a capable and take-charge person and happily a slave.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 9:32:32 PM

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With my experiences, my parents always told me to get a good education that would be beneficial for me to work and to be happy.

I am very close to my parents as well. Family is top priority with me. I take care of my mother because of being an only child and primarily for economic reasons. She supports me but to also further myself in any career endeavor so I don't have to depend on any man to take care of me. That is the reality of the situation because just as couples get together, they can also break up.

I also started out as a late bloomer, getting a degree at 42 years old. I don't want a powerhouse career but working in a field that I can be happy and accomplish these tasks by the end of the day.

I also like guys who are financially stable and who are successful, not just with a job but at what they do to have a connection with me. Whether they are older or younger than me is no relevance but of course, if they had half of the qualities of my father, I would be one lucky gal.

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 9:35:33 PM

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On the career thing, I have a "good" job but not a "great job." I make decent middle class money working for the government...I was valedictorian of my senior class but didn't finish college. Everyone thinks I'm weird because I'm happy staying at "grunt" level where I work...the way I see it, I make decent money, have great benefits, and my job is easy,plus I love my schedule. I have no ambition to "better" myself in that area. I just want to make it through the next 22yrs and retire!

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RE: Birth Order - 8/12/2008 10:50:17 PM

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I am the oldest for 9 girls, and I am very submissive in a relationship. It would be funny to think of my baby sister as a submissive. She is only 9 and already giving out orders of how things should be.

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