AAkasha
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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW And for a woman, it has to be wonderful knowing that the man you love, when he knows you're out with another man, in another bed savoring every fruit and sexual frenzy you want out of life, indeed because of it, you always know at all times, your man is where he belongs, at home...alone....waiting for you, with a smile, head over heels in love, thankful that when you walk in that door, flushed and spent, you're coming home to the one you love and he loves you all the more. Strange huh? In fact, he loves you even more than every one of your girlfreinds husbands love their mates...and you know it...to your toes. The funny thing is, every day you go out with your girlfriends, you're dying to tell them your secret because you know you've got the best gig on the planet and the fact that makes it all the more hilarious and so perfect is....every morning he wakes up and whispers quietly as he stares at you...as he wipes the last bit of sleep from his eyes...THANK you God!!!" Because in his mind, you're the sexiest creature that ever walked the face of the Earth. (Yeah...it's a good thing :) I think this is an example of a sub male fantasy that is desired to an "extreme" level, thus making it more unattainable (especially if you want an otherwise mutually loving, affectionate, traditional relationship/marriage) or almost impossible. Why does the cuckold sub desire it to the extreme, and why is a compromise or "just a taste of it" not enough? Where the traditional relationship mix in this cuckold fantasy runs awry is with the issue of sexual relations, sexual intimacy, monogamy, and emotional impact -- most importantly, the risk of total disaster at any given turn when you have three people's sexual energy PLUS emotional connections all intertwined. I don't think many women -- vanilla included -- don't enjoy a very tame, very subtle hint of cuckold-type flavor in their history of sexual or romantic adventures. Go to a college bar and see the sorority girl making out with a jock's best friend, just to show him that she can, and meanwhile in her head she's still emotionally tied to only one of them. Look at the ladies who dress really hot at bars with their husbands, knowing all the other guys will be checking them out and the husband can witness this and think, "Damn, the hottest woman in this bar is the one with me, and she could leave with any of those guys in a heartbeat..." Women throughout history play a sadistic game with men: It's called "Let's make him jealous." This comes in varying degrees of non consensual headgames to complete mindfucks and often goes all the way to cheating -- just because she can. What's the common thread? Dysfunction, lack of trust, hurt feelings, and damaged love. Is it worth it for the thrill when two adults are now together? It's one thing in high school or college -- but as adults, are we to risk throwing a hand grenade into a perfectly fine relationship because what started as a fantasy went bad? What happens with the guy on the side starts to move in on her emotionally? What happens when the woman does decide another guy is better in bed -- and, actually, more fun at the movies, at the park, and at the beach -- and the husband is not only alone and horny -- but, simply, *alone*? To me, the cuckolding quest is similar to a masochist who will never settle for some spanking and occassional intense pain play, but sets his sights on a full-on sadist who wants to beat him bloody 4 - 5 times a week. Or a submissive who does not want to even consider entering a relationship where he may have the opportunity to serve; instead, he is "holding out" for a woman who will cage him 24/7 and keep him serving constantly. A vanilla (??) couple I know has an odd dynamic that even my non kinky siblings have observed. She wears outrageously hot outfits -- practically illegal -- to dinner parties and functions. Fuck me heels, major cleavage, skin tight, too short, you name it. Her husband dresses normal and watches her flirt with all the guys around, and she comes just short of propositioning the guys (these are husbands of the ladies, all of them are friends, so it's a "joke" mostly); the husband is also the butt of her silly jokes about it, or she hangs on men while smiling at him and he asks the other men what they think of her. It's amusing to everyone. I imagine they probably go home and have mindblowing sex after each of these nights on the town; she doesn't sleep around, she never actually beds any of these guys (the entire dynamics of multiple friendships would be ruined), but you can bed she's fucking with her man's head and he's loving it. It might even be his idea. But you change this "easy going, fun and flirty" dynamic into full blown sexual intercourse with friends (thus damaging relationships if it goes sour) or strangers (entering risks for disease, abuse, you name it) and it's all of a sudden a level of outrageousness that puts it well out of range of most openminded ladies. Unless, ironically, her real kink is cuckolding, and she's able to fully remove herself emotionally from sexual encounters, does not mind the risk, and her motivation is not for money, but is out of love. Good luck finding her! Akasha
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