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Asking for Humiliation - 11/21/2005 5:36:15 PM

mayor600

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I have asked my online Mistress to destroy my ego. She is unsure I can take her pointed words. Once she did and it hurt me bad. Now I still crave her to use that power against me.

I dont know why I crave it.

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 11/21/2005 5:48:11 PM

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I see nothing wrong with your Mistress putting you in your place by using verbal humiliation, but when you say "it hurt me bad," what do you mean? We all know there's "good" pain and "bad" pain. You need to discuss with Her what is to be considered healthy and unhealthy.

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 11/21/2005 6:10:18 PM

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dear mayo
greetings
oh my gaud mayor
give me an example

pls.

please

OK? PLEASE.

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 11/23/2005 5:18:49 PM

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You wanted to know how I was hurt. It was not her fault. I felt attached to her and cared deeply for her. For 3 months we chatted online everyday, she got into my head. I told her all my secrets and now she can push my erotic buttons and control me.

I got scared. My caring turned into love and the pain of going on hurt. I figured someday we would break away, so i wanted to break now. I took control. I told her what I planned. She was gentle at first wanting to understand. Then she attacked me verbally, telling me i was no good, an idiot, a wuss. She told me that it was no wonder my wife did not even want me. She went on and on. Finally, she told me how much she had loved me and that I hurt her deeply. I was upset with myself. I tried to run. She owns me and I tried to escape.

She told me how all the caring and things i did for her meant nothing. I felt bad, real bad.
She told me about all the work she did with me to make me a man, and now i was just a worm. Useless jerkoff.

It went on for a few days. I cried secretly. I really care for her. Then she told me it was over. The pain increased and a hole was in my heart. It hurt worse than anything i had ever felt. I begged for forgiveness. After days of begging, she took me back.

I almost lost everything.

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 11/23/2005 5:39:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mayor600

You wanted to know how I was hurt. It was not her fault. I felt attached to her and cared deeply for her. For 3 months we chatted online everyday, she got into my head. I told her all my secrets and now she can push my erotic buttons and control me.

I got scared. My caring turned into love and the pain of going on hurt. I figured someday we would break away, so i wanted to break now. I took control. I told her what I planned. She was gentle at first wanting to understand. Then she attacked me verbally, telling me i was no good, an idiot, a wuss. She told me that it was no wonder my wife did not even want me. She went on and on. Finally, she told me how much she had loved me and that I hurt her deeply. I was upset with myself. I tried to run. She owns me and I tried to escape.

She told me how all the caring and things i did for her meant nothing. I felt bad, real bad.
She told me about all the work she did with me to make me a man, and now i was just a worm. Useless jerkoff.

It went on for a few days. I cried secretly. I really care for her. Then she told me it was over. The pain increased and a hole was in my heart. It hurt worse than anything i had ever felt. I begged for forgiveness. After days of begging, she took me back.

I almost lost everything.

What you describe here is beyond humiliation play, in my opinion. It sounds like you became deeply involved in an online relationship that went bad. It's probably a good idea to step back a bit and examine what you really need in your life and focus on your current real life relationship. It's easy to get emotionally involved with an online situation, but if it's hurting this badly emotionally, you might want to really get to the heart of the matter of what drew you to online.

I wish you luck,
Julie

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/7/2006 5:28:56 PM

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On the contrary, although I agree this is not humiliation, it is control.
She is in total control over you, you gave yourself to Her.
This is the kind of control that is so exciting for the Dom/Domme

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/7/2006 7:10:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: mayor600

I dont know why I crave it.

And I don't know why you posted this.

Then again, I'm an idiot.

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/7/2006 7:12:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

What you describe here is beyond humiliation play, in my opinion. It sounds like you became deeply involved in an online relationship that went bad. It's probably a good idea to step back a bit and examine what you really need in your life and focus on your current real life relationship. It's easy to get emotionally involved with an online situation, but if it's hurting this badly emotionally, you might want to really get to the heart of the matter of what drew you to online.

I wish you luck,
Julie

Julie,

Yes. And no. Read the OP again. "I asked my Mistress to destroy my ego." (Yes, I omitted 'online', but I admit I did so intentionally.)

Whether the title of the thread is improper, the spirit of the OP is that he wished severe degredation. And he got what he asked for. And now he wishes that again.

I cannot address the 'why you wish that again', because I cannot personally relate to your reaction.

If I put myself into the role of a submissive (which intellectually I can), I cannot see where name-calling would be effective with 'me'. Where I can see that your submissive viewpoint would be for you to be pleasing and the content of the words make it seem as if you are not so, the words themselves would not change my viewpoint of myself.

That your headspace had turned to love might be the deciding factor why I cannot relate. Now, you have a woman rejecting you, and then I can see where that would hurt.

But I still don't understand it hurting in just this way. Again, from my viewpoint. As I see it, although I might love another, I feel secure in myself that I love myself first. So the old 'sticks and stones' adage would hold true, at least for me.

You might have more insecurities. This might be why your reaction occurred.

I'm trying to help, but I'm not certain it's working. Good luck.

Jeff

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/7/2006 9:16:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mayor600

I have asked my online Mistress to destroy my ego. She is unsure I can take her pointed words. Once she did and it hurt me bad. Now I still crave her to use that power against me.

I dont know why I crave it.

I dont think anyone can tell you why you crave it.

I can think of a couple reasons why someone might 1. It made you feel submissive. 2. It made you feel controlled. 3. It made you feel complete 4.you like feeling powerless 5.Any attention is better than none 6. It's true,whatever pointed words She used,and you realized something about yourself.

Okay that was more than a couple...

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/7/2006 9:48:23 PM

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My sub loves humilation but since he is new to the sub role I go slowly. I got into it once and called his penis some not so very nice names and it really wounded him. Even though he liked the way it felt the words still hurt, worse then any flogger I own. We talked about it and straightened it out. He is progressingly nicely and realises when we are scening that what I say isn't necessarily what I mean. I love his cock

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/8/2006 12:11:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mayor600

I have asked my online Mistress to destroy my ego. She is unsure I can take her pointed words. Once she did and it hurt me bad. Now I still crave her to use that power against me.

I dont know why I crave it.

The last time I tried to point my words, I wound up with a dangling participle. It wasn't pretty.

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/8/2006 12:14:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mayor600

You wanted to know how I was hurt. It was not her fault. I felt attached to her and cared deeply for her. For 3 months we chatted online everyday, she got into my head. I told her all my secrets and now she can push my erotic buttons and control me.

I got scared. My caring turned into love and the pain of going on hurt. I figured someday we would break away, so i wanted to break now. I took control. I told her what I planned. She was gentle at first wanting to understand. Then she attacked me verbally, telling me i was no good, an idiot, a wuss. She told me that it was no wonder my wife did not even want me. She went on and on. Finally, she told me how much she had loved me and that I hurt her deeply. I was upset with myself. I tried to run. She owns me and I tried to escape.

She told me how all the caring and things i did for her meant nothing. I felt bad, real bad.
She told me about all the work she did with me to make me a man, and now i was just a worm. Useless jerkoff.

It went on for a few days. I cried secretly. I really care for her. Then she told me it was over. The pain increased and a hole was in my heart. It hurt worse than anything i had ever felt. I begged for forgiveness. After days of begging, she took me back.

I almost lost everything.

I'm not sure that what you've gone through is humiliation for the purpose of humilation, but an interpersonal emotional turmoil where one of the combatants (fairly or unfairly) engaged in the use of your kink to get at you. I can't say that's good for the nature of a relationship with someone you care for, but that's just a personal viewpoint, and obviously not everyone's shared theory.

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/8/2006 8:36:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: mayor600

You wanted to know how I was hurt. It was not her fault. I felt attached to her and cared deeply for her. For 3 months we chatted online everyday, she got into my head. I told her all my secrets and now she can push my erotic buttons and control me.

I got scared. My caring turned into love and the pain of going on hurt. I figured someday we would break away, so i wanted to break now. I took control. I told her what I planned. She was gentle at first wanting to understand. Then she attacked me verbally, telling me i was no good, an idiot, a wuss. She told me that it was no wonder my wife did not even want me. She went on and on. Finally, she told me how much she had loved me and that I hurt her deeply. I was upset with myself. I tried to run. She owns me and I tried to escape.

She told me how all the caring and things i did for her meant nothing. I felt bad, real bad.
She told me about all the work she did with me to make me a man, and now i was just a worm. Useless jerkoff.

It went on for a few days. I cried secretly. I really care for her. Then she told me it was over. The pain increased and a hole was in my heart. It hurt worse than anything i had ever felt. I begged for forgiveness. After days of begging, she took me back.

I almost lost everything.

Bold emphasis Mine.
Well, now!
I sounds to me like you thoroughly enjoyed this internet relationship. In fact, I guess you are still enjoying it!
You told her your secrets and gave her the power to push your erotic buttons.
You decided to break it off, since it was probably going to end at some point anyway. You even state you took control.
Now, if I am reading this right, she then turned the tables on you. She used these secrets to push your buttons and humiliated you and made you cry. And this cyber humilation session lasted for a few days! You weren't in heaven? This was what you wanted anyway, but....
Then she broke it off.
Apparently she really didn't because you were able to beg for a few days and get her back.
You almost lost everything? Sounds to Me like you still had the wife you come home to every day. You just weren't going to have your *Mistress* when you turned on your computer. For a little while anyway.
What's wrong with this picture?
Maybe nothing. I guess you're one of the lucky ones since you can have your cake and eat it too. I know lots of boys who would love to be in your position.
OK, OK...I will take My tongue out of My cheek now.

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 9/8/2006 8:44:22 AM >

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/11/2007 1:44:19 PM

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i will love to Humiliate you any day,i really enjoy humiliating worms like you,drop me a line to start receiving your humiliation

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RE: Asking for Humiliation - 9/11/2007 3:11:33 PM

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Well, you may be waiting a while as the OP hasn't been here for almost 2 years.

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