ElanSubdued -> RE: Submissives who lie to impress you or be compatible with you... (8/18/2008 2:55:34 PM)
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Akasha, Lying, in any form, is generally a huge turn-off for me. However, I've had a few people tell me some hum-dinger lies that I later found out the truth about. Did I forgive them? In some cases yes and in others no. For me, it depends on the reasoning behind the lie, the effect the lie had on me, my investment in the person who lied to me, and the person's mental state when they told the lie. In the context of play activities, I'd certainly raise an eye if someone lied to me about these in a manipulative way. I can't one hundred percent say this would cause me to abandon such a person as a potential partner, but it would certainly set off a large warning flag. I'm a big fan of communication so provided I thought the person simply felt pressured to like what I did, on the first offense, I'd probably just say "please don't lie to me... I'd rather hear the truth about the BDSM activities you like, even if this isn't in sync with my own preferences". If, after I communicated this, a second offense occurred, it's not likely they'd get a chance to make a third offense. Elan.
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