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Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Strippers. How do subs feel about them? Are they objectified - or in control? (8/22/2008 9:01:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
Any former strippers or current strippers willing to share if the headspace was decidedly dominant or submissive?
Former stripper and burlesque performer here.
My headspace was always decidedly dominant. If they didn't want me at first glance, by the end of my set I MADE them want me. Trust me, straddle a guy's lap while you're half-naked and say "You, back room, now" and watch how quickly they get out of that chair and into the VIP booth.
My floorwork, pole work, and lapdances were always about teasing and seduction. I always maintained control and left them wanting so much more. I felt like some kind of sex demon, knowing the hold I had over them -- and really, to make a guy shell out $30 for a five-minute lapdance, you've got to be pretty damn assertive. I was never outright a fetish queen type of "character" but my wardrobe was decidedly shiny and corset-filled.
And of course I got to tie the bachelor party boys to a chair we'd bring onstage and "torture" him for an entire song. Now THAT was fun.
In my opinion a submissive nature wouldn't work as a solo act, unless you'd do what my best stripper friend Portia and I did and pull a dominatrix/naughty schoolgirl routine. Going out there alone and showing off a submissive streak would get you treated like shit or taken advantage of by the guys unless there was a large fetish scene wherever you were, and even then you have to be careful.
Burlesque of course is different, since there's really no intimate interaction (you're onstage, not on the guy's lap), so it presents more of a challenge to maintain that control without being able to touch the guy. Solo submission probably wouldn't do so well, but for a different reason -- it's all about stage presence and confidence to keep them interested. The closest I ever got to a submissive burlesque performance was some self-bondage-with-ribbons choreography I was working on shortly before I left the business, and even then, the headspace was decidedly dominant.
Sigh. I've got a million and a half stories about that time in my life, from teaching English in the dressing rooms to lap-dancing a Kennedy when I was 19. This thread makes me miss all of it just thinking about what to post -- not so much the stripping as the burlesque notoriety. [:(]
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