pinnipedster -> RE: How WRONG is it of me to dishonestly.... (8/22/2008 9:43:37 PM)
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OK AAkasha, let's ask this...what if I did the same thing, but with straight men and claiming to be a female Domme? Would that change the ethics? I used to do the "pretend to be female" thing in chat rooms, for two reasons: one is because I am somewhat transgendered, and I wanted to explore the female viewpoint...but another is just because it's much easier to find partners for cyber if you pretend to be female (particularly as a submissive). I eventually grew the habit of telling people up front that "This is just an online fantasy for me, there will be no other contact, no photos, and don't assume anything I tell you is necessarily true in R/L." Some guys were OK with that, some weren't. One time, though, I did, after a few rather nice chat sessions, reveal to a guy that I was really female. He was taken aback at first (he was fairly young and new to the 'net), but then he decided it didn't really matter: "A lot of men write erotica from a female point of view...you're just interactive!" However, the last several times I tried doing any cybering, I found it almost immediately dull, so I don't do that any more. Personally, I feel that if you say up front that you're only in it for online, there will be no other contact, and you don't use someone else's picture, then it's not really that objectionable; anyone you interact with who has any brains at all would, I think, realize there might be something odd at work, and if he's willing anyhow, and you end up providing him with fantasy pleasure, then I don't really think it's all that wrong. If you strung him along, letting him think that you might later be open to phone or personal meeting when you had no such intention, that I would frown upon. YMMV.
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