tornaway -> RE: Rant: Do people write letters anymore? (8/26/2008 4:48:53 PM)
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I agree with some previous posters , that someone wanting to move instantly to IM's is abit of a turn-off . To me , it does feel as though the one initiating doesn't really care about taking the time to know me as a person first , or they simply have little to say about themselves - or lack the writing skills to say much . None of which , I find particularly compelling . I find I am lured by, and most likely to respond to , well crafted introductory notes . And that once a dialog is established , I delight in the gradual personal disclosures contained in a regular exchange of words . One can learn much about someone by how they answer inquiries , or describle themselves and their lives , or what questions they choose to ask . Their moods , their general outlook , compassion , intelligence , confidence , sense of humor ( or lack therof ) , is all revealed over time . And no - I don't believe in writing exclusively for months on end - but if there is an easy flow between people for a couple weeks or so , it seems to lead naturally to a desire for more - IM , phone , and hopefully - eventual meeting . Good communication in general is so important - especially in the Bdsm arena - I feel if I can't communicate well with someone by simply writing here , it does not bode well for any sort of solid future . Writing can be seductive , informative , funny , erotic , reassuring - it rocks ! [:)]
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