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ORIGINAL: missturbation

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I do believe myself to be his property. I am not an object that could easily be replaced. "Property" in our world is a position of great honor. It means that I MEAN more to him than anything else in this world. It means that I am NOT disposable or replacable in his eyes.  "Property" in our world is a testament to commitment.

that's how it is between Daddy and i.

at first i had a hard time hearing Him say i'm His "property" because i didn't understand what He meant by "property" and viewed the word as a negative description of myself. however after discussing this more with Him, i was finally sold (excuse the pun) on the idea of being His "property" - meaning i'm His beloved and cherished daughter ...i will always come first in His life and He'll always be there for me. i'm Daddy's property for life. 

 
Just to clarify and help me understand a little better. If you are his daughter are you still his sub /slave? If not can you be property as a daughter? Especially considering you have said elsewhere you are not in a D/s relationship with your daddy.

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

so if someone else is a daughter to Daddy - they cannot be a submissive/slave too? wow i've learned something new today.

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just to clarify another thing, i have been in this relationship (long distance as it may be) for 2yrs with Him however we call it "togetherness". 

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it's totally amazing how words/titles can be so interchangeable these days and still mean the same thing exclusively to us - i'm His property, daughter, submissive, friend, rock star celeb, etc etc etc.

Very true and in my world i own a brewery

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perhaps you and others should take your meds too....


am i one or the other or both?

as i said titles are so interchangeable these days, does it really matter to you, her or anyone else if i consider myself His daughter more than property some days or a little of both on others?

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ORIGINAL: Alumbrado

And good luck trying to get her to explain how she and Abbie Hoffamn and Junior were able to hang out together at the 1996 convention...

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  I have seen many who view themselves as property here describe it in a way that places them on the same level as their Master's car...or favorite chair. As though they are little more than an object or thing. A thing that can easily be replaced or rejected.

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ORIGINAL: softness

This is something that recently became an overwhelming struggle for me,  

Its not secret that I adore being meat, being treated with the same status as my Owner's car or favourite chair. I still do, no question of that at all. I am one of those people that finds it a kink in and of itself. I was in a relationship where the status of meat was the central enduring theme. Living meat, to serve in any way asked. Great. Fantastic. Yay.

Problem began to emerge. I started to see that the needs and desires that were being satisfied by being treated like meat, could be satisfied in other ways, by other means. I also found that I was able to give service and not be meat and have open, loving, indulgent affectionate attention without having to earn it or grovel for it. Now I knew these relationships exist, but I never saw them existing for me. I never saw myself being comfortable and blooming in such relationships.

So then I see that in fact I can be happy without being meat ... (though still adoring that treatment, just not wanting to live off it) ... and I find myself increasingly hurt by the "meat treatment" rather than feeling contented by it.

I have come to see this about myself. I don't want to be 24/7/365 meat. I want to be an Owned and controlled woman who serves the person who owns her with love, affection and devotion. I want to be someone who is held in affection, and cherised, who is invested in emotionally. I also want to be pushed (on occassion) to that cold, remote place where I am meat and nothing more to prove for both of us the lengths I am willing to go for our relationship and *mutual* contentment.

I have had to step away from chattel, because it would have destroyed my happiness eventually. I just wish I hadn't had to step away from the relationship as well.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: softness

This is something that recently became an overwhelming struggle for me,  

Its not secret that I adore being meat, being treated with the same status as my Owner's car or favourite chair. I still do, no question of that at all. I am one of those people that finds it a kink in and of itself. I was in a relationship where the status of meat was the central enduring theme. Living meat, to serve in any way asked. Great. Fantastic. Yay.

Problem began to emerge. I started to see that the needs and desires that were being satisfied by being treated like meat, could be satisfied in other ways, by other means. I also found that I was able to give service and not be meat and have open, loving, indulgent affectionate attention without having to earn it or grovel for it. Now I knew these relationships exist, but I never saw them existing for me. I never saw myself being comfortable and blooming in such relationships.

So then I see that in fact I can be happy without being meat ... (though still adoring that treatment, just not wanting to live off it) ... and I find myself increasingly hurt by the "meat treatment" rather than feeling contented by it.

I have come to see this about myself. I don't want to be 24/7/365 meat. I want to be an Owned and controlled woman who serves the person who owns her with love, affection and devotion. I want to be someone who is held in affection, and cherised, who is invested in emotionally. I also want to be pushed (on occassion) to that cold, remote place where I am meat and nothing more to prove for both of us the lengths I am willing to go for our relationship and *mutual* contentment.

I have had to step away from chattel, because it would have destroyed my happiness eventually. I just wish I hadn't had to step away from the relationship as well.

I am quoting this because in so many ways I can relate to it.  The relationship I had with my former Master centered on the fact that I was his object - his property and chattel.  And yes, I believe the two do not necessarily go hand in hand.   Over time, I came to want (need?) to be loved in a way he could not provide, and being solely an object - where it used to really ignite my fire - began depressing me more than fueling me.  I used to feel I didn't need to be loved, but now I see how much love the world has to offer (yeah yeah, rainbows & unicorns) and I want a piece of that.  My Master freed me so I could go find it.

I won't mind being property again.  But being chattel - an object, unloved, dealt with toughly all the time - won't work for me anymore. 

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ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub
This question is not meant to offend, so if it does, that was not my intent. i have found myself having gone through the same type of transition from wanting, needing deep objectification to wanting for the most part more of a loving interaction with some deep objectification from time to time. i found that it occurred as i healed more internally from insecurities and lack of self worth. And i'm wondering if that is the case for others who have made the same transition. Is the move from being just an object to being more loved something that you tie to emotional healing or do you think it is just a "natural" progression?

heartfelt

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub
This question is not meant to offend, so if it does, that was not my intent. i have found myself having gone through the same type of transition from wanting, needing deep objectification to wanting for the most part more of a loving interaction with some deep objectification from time to time. i found that it occurred as i healed more internally from insecurities and lack of self worth. And i'm wondering if that is the case for others who have made the same transition. Is the move from being just an object to being more loved something that you tie to emotional healing or do you think it is just a "natural" progression?

heartfelt

No offense at all, heartfelt, and it's a fair question - one I have been asking myself lately, actually.  The thing is, I don't know.  I suspect I transitioned from an abusive environment to "safe abuse?" although I loathe to use that term or to portray my former Master in such a light.  I think I am just evolving as my own person.  There was a time when it was OK for me to not be loved because I didn't think I needed or deserved it.  Someone accepting my own love was enough.  But now I want a taste of that.  I know I can be loved, and I want to experience that in my life.  My former Master is a great man, but was not capable of giving me that.  The more I continued to go without, the more I felt something very critical was missing.  Make sense?  Perhaps both of your options are the case here - I healed some things and the next natural progression was to want more (or, different).