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Punishment suggestions? - 7/30/2004 6:54:23 PM

blueiii

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Sirs,

i recently did something (or rather didn't do something that i should have) that displeased my Master. He severed communication with me for a time as a long distance punishment. We see eachother 3-4 times a year, and i am trying to develop a punishment to offer Him when i see Him next.

Because of our circumstances, it cannot be a punishment that leaves marks for more than two or three days. i am struggling to think of something that He might enjoy, but that i will not enjoy at all. i have a high tolerance for pain, so something that is more in the humiliation or fear vein might work best.

i ask for Your counsel on possible punishment suggestions that i have not considered.

Thank You Sirs,
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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/30/2004 7:07:58 PM

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Showing up with another slave, chaining you to a wall, and using her in front of you the entire time would just about cover it, I think. Of course, if what you did was particularly heinous, he could add a little insult to injury by bringing you about > < that close to orgasm right before he leaves. I'm guessing that you'd be more or less on your best behavior until his next visit.

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/30/2004 7:39:13 PM

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i am struggling to think of something that He might enjoy, but that i will not enjoy at all.

I'll preface this by saying that punishment dynamics aren't a part of my relationship. That said, it's always been my understanding that "punishment" wasn't meant to be fun for either party. Dominant folks that I know generally don't want to have to punish their partners, because that means that s/he did something s/he wasn't supposed to do - broke a rule, didn't follow an order, etc. That's not a good thing, and not cause for reward on either side of the slash.

Unless, of course, you're talking about play punishment, which is another dynamic altogether. I didn't get that impression from your post, though.

Imnsho, punishment should "fit the crime" (logical consequences are more effective than illogical ones, imx) and the individuals in the relationship if it's going to be used at all. Someone outside of your relationship isn't going to be the best source for suggestions.

MY suggestion would be to forget the punishment and offer to make amends of some sort instead. Do something special for him, something that you wouldn't normally do, as a way of showing your remorse for not doing whatever it was that you were expected to do.

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 12:13:41 AM

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A good no marks punishment is not being allowed cum for a given period of time.

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 12:19:37 AM

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Here's a thread that might help bluiii:

spankings-punishment?

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 12:43:12 AM

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You said he severed communication as a punishment. Is there supposed to be more punishment? I am also confused by the search for a punishment that he would enjoy. I don't enjoy punishing my slave. It is something that must be done if she misbehaves.
I once had a slave dress up nice and go to a mall with stinky panties she had peed in. The looks she received as she walked around humiliated her completely.

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 3:39:50 AM

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A written report on why what you did was wrong, how you feel about that, what you can do to improve, etc etc can be a thought provoking process.

Or, tie you to a chair, lock you in a room alone and pipe in Celine Dion and/or Mariah Carey "music".

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 4:06:25 AM

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Or, tie you to a chair, lock you in a room alone and pipe in Celine Dion and/or Mariah Carey "music".

AAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 4:52:17 AM

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A written report on why what you did was wrong, how you feel about that, what you can do to improve, etc etc can be a thought provoking process.

*...paperwork fetish...kicking in...must stay calm...think about baseball...*

*wink*

I am with Estring on this one, I don't think I would ever enjoy a real punishment that my slave didn't enjoy. Punishments like that are to serve a purpose, correcting inappropriate behavior.

In my mind, it is probably too late to punish you when you next meet, except in a symbolic way. I suggest doing something now, but not as "punishment." Rather you want to show your Master that you have learned and grown from your mistake. Do something positive that you will both enjoy, and dedicate it to him.

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 7:57:51 AM

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blueii:

This is the way I explain my attitude and thoughts on punishment.

For me there are, essentially, three reasons to discipline:

1. To play (insert your nomenclature here...this also includes 'because I want to.') This is done for enjoyment (for at least one of us)
2. To correct - Correction is when we've laid out goals, steps to achieving those goals, and you may need reinforcement to assist you in maintaining those steps. Correction is a form of discipline and enjoyment in the act has nothing to do with it. It's a very serious thing; and,
3. Punishment. Punishment is meted out because of a flagrant disregard for the rules. Having to punish someone just pisses me off and leaves me wondering "why am I bothering?" If you aren't on board in a committed way then there is really no reason for us to be involved. I do not enjoy punishment at all and I am quite firm in my belief that when I punish it should be in such a way as to make it abundantly clear that you NEVER want me to punish you again.

So, did you simply have a lapse that requires correction or were you being defiant of the rules? If it's the former then I'd say, as has been said here, that the correction should match the issue and be something you dislike. If it's the latter then the first order of business is understanding why you were defiant and determining if it's a tell-tale sign of something amiss in the relationship.

I don't think I know any dominants who enjoy serious punishment, as most of us tend to take it as if we've missed a step some where.

Are you role-playing? Or is there something deeper happening? (only your hair dresser knows for sure).

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 9:15:42 AM

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*...paperwork fetish...kicking in...must stay calm...think about baseball...*

"Baseball is 10 men scratching their balls and spitting while one of them does calisthenics on a dirt heap in the middle." D.

Talk about baseball makes Mr. Tiny flee in horror.

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RE: Punishment suggestions? - 7/31/2004 1:11:28 PM

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