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FTopinMichigan -> RE: OK Mistress' My own backyard (11/28/2005 5:56:07 AM)
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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
I have never once, thus far, had any long distance exploration work out. This is not to say it can't. Just that it hasn't so far. And maybe it never will.
My experience with long distance relationships has not been favorable either. The concern was always on themselves, with little for me as a person, and only for me as their Domme.
The sort of no real strings attached was sometimes nice, and I knew when they were going home (versus working on my last nerve), but it always seemed to be about them and working as much into our brief times together that it was more exhausting than pleasure.
As an example, I had broken my back a few years ago and still made arrangements to top while laying down. [;)] Where there's a will...there's a way, right! Anyway, the time together was fun, but painful for me, as my back was only recovering less than a month. When this man...someone I knew for years, and had in my home whenever he could arrange to come into town on business, NEVER inquired to how I was feeling after....never asked how my back was....never asked how I was (even weeks after)....and, after this particular visit, I finally saw what we had...nothing. He's not the only one with such an attitude. I found I was more an "appointment" than really being his Top, and he was certainly not my friend. (This was also when I was first active, and chalk it up to a learning experience.)
My pessimism toward meeting someone from out of town was grown out of past experiences, and is why the backyard rule fits for me now. Yes, I shouldn't generalize about all men from out of town, or out of the area, but I find life's too short, and the backyard is pretty full anyway. Maybe I just need to move, and get my backyard into another neighborhood. [:D]
K
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