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Bendforyou -> Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 5:20:18 PM)

If ordered to do something 'out of my comfort level' yet still with in my limits, does my Dom expect to see the reticence on my face (although I follow the order immediately) or should I undertake the action (no matter how uncomfortable it makes me) with joy?

Thanks!



littlewonder -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 5:26:28 PM)

Only your Dom would know the answer to that. Personally I am myself. If I am uncomfortable with something I make it known but then I resign myself to doing it willingly and with as much joy as I can because it pleases him. I'm not always successful but I am always honest about how I'm feeling or thinking and that shows in my gestures.



DomDolf -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 5:37:52 PM)

littlewonder is correct in saying that your dominant is the only one that can answer that. My opinion on the matter is that I do not want anyone to pretend to like something they don't but I also don't want whining, pouting or disrespectful behavior of any type to come out either. Your eyes will tell the story. Stomping feet, bitching and complaining will not be met well by someone like me.

Dolf



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 5:40:58 PM)

That depends completely on your Dom. What he might want to see and what any of us might want have really nothing to do with one another. What I used to want to see from my Angel when I had him was different from what I would want from my Fox now. Same activities and Id expect or desire different responses... so you cant tell what he wants unless you ask him.

DV



OsideGirl -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 6:51:39 PM)

Master would prefer honesty. If something's not easy for me he'd prefer to know that, vs me putting a false face on the situation.



slaveluci -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 6:55:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Master would prefer honesty. If something's not easy for me he'd prefer to know that, vs me putting a false face on the situation.

Same here.  He doesn't want faked reactions and a false smile.  If He sees hesitation or some other sign that I am troubled, He'll deal with it as He so chooses.  How can He deal with my genuine reactions/ feelings if I lie and put forth ones I assume He'd rather see?  No, no, no ..... no assuming what He wants.  He'll take the true reactions and go from there.  No lying or faking allowed................luci



DesFIP -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 7:16:54 PM)

He wants to know the problem upfront. Because frequently if we discuss it, there's only one small part that is causing me major difficulties so if he leaves that bit out, I can do it easier.

What he doesn't want is me to lie to him about everything being hunky dory while storing up resentment that poisons the relationship.



theq -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 10:13:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Bendforyou

If ordered to do something 'out of my comfort level' yet still with in my limits, does my Dom expect to see the reticence on my face (although I follow the order immediately) or should I undertake the action (no matter how uncomfortable it makes me) with joy?

quote:

reticence


With my girl she is always free to ask: "May I respectfully decline, Sir?" I'll often ask why and try to better understand the situation. At the end of hearing her explanation, I may say, "No, it's alright." I might also say, "Do it anyways." In the latter case, I expect that she's told me all the relevant reasoning prior and I expect she'll do as she's told with no further whining or disagreeable attitudes.

Disclaimer: That's just me. Mileage may vary, your situation may be different, please discuss your relational situation with your Masterly advisor who will help you take your individual circumstances into consideration.



leadership527 -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/2/2008 11:52:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

He wants to know the problem upfront. Because frequently if we discuss it, there's only one small part that is causing me major difficulties so if he leaves that bit out, I can do it easier.

What he doesn't want is me to lie to him about everything being hunky dory while storing up resentment that poisons the relationship.


*sighs*  Sheez DesFIP.  You're beating me to the punch with all the practical advice *laughs*.  I'm just going to resign myself to being your fan club tonight.



Focus50 -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/3/2008 3:26:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Bendforyou

If ordered to do something 'out of my comfort level' yet still with in my limits, does my Dom expect to see the reticence on my face (although I follow the order immediately) or should I undertake the action (no matter how uncomfortable it makes me) with joy?

I'm not particularly attracted to a sub who's passionless and wooden so I don't mind if she occasionally shows some attitude or emotion at something I've told her to do.  As with all things, as long as it's in moderation I'll mostly let it pass - or have a chuckle.... 
 
Hmmm, that said, sometimes I'll give her something to do precisely to see the look on her face - I still like to play with my food.... ;-)
 
Focus. 



sirsholly -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/3/2008 3:42:33 AM)

My reaction would be along the lines of "You want me to do WHAT???!!!???"

Sorta lets him know my feelings.....





SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/3/2008 5:41:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bendforyou

If ordered to do something 'out of my comfort level' yet still with in my limits, does my Dom expect to see the reticence on my face (although I follow the order immediately) or should I undertake the action (no matter how uncomfortable it makes me) with joy?

Thanks!


Here's where -- say it with me, class -- communication is paramount. I expect my submissive lady to tell me if I'm doing something outside her "comfort zone." If it's something important to me, I'll refrain during that particular scene and then we'll discuss it afterward.
 
Ultimately, I would expect her to accede to my wishes unless it's something truly physically or psychologically harmful to her.
 
My .02 zlotys.
 
Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)



silkncarol -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/3/2008 6:41:54 PM)

I wouldn't try to hide my feelings from my Dominant.....He'd know if i was truly uncomfortable or unable to follow one of his orders either from my facial expression or body language...or if something was truly beyond me, i'd say "with all due respect Sir, i can not do what you've asked" and then explain why.... what he then does with the information is his decision....but i also know each order isn't open to negotiation and debate...there is a time and place for the discussion....



simpleplan2 -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/3/2008 6:44:31 PM)

I never have understood this.  If it's not in my comfort level, the joy factor is pretty much zero.  That doesn't mean I won't do it nor does it mean I'm necessarily going to bitch about it, but he's sure as hell not going to see any joy.



ODadEO -> RE: Which would a Dom prefer...? (9/4/2008 9:30:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DomDolf

littlewonder is correct in saying that your dominant is the only one that can answer that. My opinion on the matter is that I do not want anyone to pretend to like something they don't but I also don't want whining, pouting or disrespectful behavior of any type to come out either. Your eyes will tell the story. Stomping feet, bitching and complaining will not be met well by someone like me.

Dolf


yeah, what he said



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