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RE: Bondage - 9/5/2008 6:28:21 PM

ExKat

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I like bondage. Note the lack of love. That's not to say that it isn't incredibly hot and sexy and exciting, but for me, when I'm really in the groove, I tend to forget about it. Two messages come through my brain-pain and pleasure- and something so complicated as feeling exposed, restrained, unable to escape, unable to change position is too much to really compute. I find that sometimes having to hold a position on my own is sexier, because then I'm thinking that I can leave at any time-but I never want to.
I like shibari, though. It's kind of like knitting...something about twisting all those ropes around for aesthetic appeal appeals to my inner yarnwhore.

~Katie978, obviously. Exquemelin is not, and has never been, a yarnwhore.

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RE: Bondage - 9/5/2008 6:42:07 PM

mbes

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Not a fan, but it's not a trust issue. Just a touch of claustrophobia. That, and reading [King's] Gerald's Game. ~~shiver~~
Besides, tying up isn't the only way to control me. I find mental control much deeper than physical control. "Be still" rocks my world more than any rope could. A knot I know I could undo, and knowing that I don't want to, ties me closer than any binding.
And bad things happen. I wouldn't want him having to untie my happy behind instead of getting the um's out of the house, if it caught fire. I trust him, but I don't have a lot of faith in the good will of the Fates. THOSE are some sadistic bitches.
Even with all that said, I wouldn't stop him. I'm just grateful that he doesn't want to spend a great deal of time on it.
It is enlightening how many see it primarily through the lens of trust, though. That makes me wonder how so many do it without deep trust in a partner.

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RE: Bondage - 9/5/2008 10:12:20 PM

aravain

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I have a love-hate relationship with bondage.

I really like the feeling of being bound... just not in a sexual nature. I like it more for a... well, I don't really know why.

But BDSM play, for me, does not necessarily include bondage OR, at the very most, will just include bondage where I'm not *heavily* restricted (i.e. A spreader bar for my legs and that's it, or my arms tied behind my back). I don't like being tied like a dog to a tree, so I will usually say 'no' if asked to be bound. Having my motion restricted, however, by the dominant forcibly, is something that I do enjoy.

Binding, however... oh MY how wonderful it is. It's a real shame I can't tie knots appropriately. It forces me to be more of a 'bondage voyeur' than anything else. I do get a little bit of sexual gratification out of tying a man up, but it's more the inner sadist being fed than a true flair to dominate them. I like the thought of a man being bound, unable to move or chastise me... but still giving me orders... I have a feeling in a situation like that I'D end up being the one begging to untie him!

Note: My actual experience with bondage is limited, however these opinions *ARE* a reflection of that experience.

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