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RE: Ideal - 9/5/2008 3:41:20 PM

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Those of you in your ideal relationship...what makes it so?

I know this is a short answer, but it is the truth.
We do.

the.dark.

And it's an excellent answer at that! Thank you.

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RE: Ideal - 9/5/2008 3:49:33 PM

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stellab, so it's about how you interact with the person you are with, and not an image in your mind...excellent.

catize, looking for certain character traits that you know you want and need in a partner and not a complete description of that perfect partner, great!

persephonee, someone with a compatible sense of humor is still general enough to make that person easy to find.

TysGalilah, don't settle, ever.

lusciouslips I love this line "someone who doesn't think I'm perfect but perfect for him" Yay!!!

MidMichCowboy, I empathize with you, it's hard to have it and lose it, but doesn't having it once let you know the possibility is there for it to happen again?

PrincessJ77...what do you want in a spouse?

oceanwynds, great, you know what you want and there's plenty of room in your description to fit more than just one in it.

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RE: Ideal - 9/5/2008 3:54:12 PM

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my ideal...the relationship that evolves to the point that one day i realize, i'm living my ideal.
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RE: Ideal - 9/5/2008 4:34:41 PM

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My ideal relationship is to be kept as a live-in sex slave with domestic or other work duties. The Mistress would have a sadistic streak to match my masochist needs. I'd like to have established limits based on safety, then within those be hers to command. I'd like her to be especially perverse and intensely sexual, involving me to whatever degree and in whatever manner suits her. I like verbal abuse and cuckolding. She would keep me hooked, hopelessly in love with her, but never show me affection and she would torment me emotionally by having me witness her intimacy with others, that I crave but can never have. She would use me as a sexual object for her stimulation without regard to my own sexual gratification. She would loan me or rent me out to others for their use according to her whims. I would be an object for her to express darker impulses. When she tired of me she would send me away.

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RE: Ideal - 9/5/2008 5:58:21 PM

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Four years ago I had in mind what the ideal relationship would be for me. Monogamy and no children were the highlights.

What I have now... poly relationship and four rug-rats.

What I found out was that the key parts were the character of the people that I am involved with and that I am free to be who I am. I love our relationship; it flows so smoothly. There are stressful times, I fuck up and so do they at times, but even the fuck ups are easy to deal with. The relationship I have now is about as opposite of what I thought my ideal was and I am more at peace than I have ever been.

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RE: Ideal - 9/5/2008 11:41:26 PM

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So, I'm running through my life living in what should have been the ideal relationship, when along comes this man telling me that he was going to take me away. He was right.

I am allowed to be me. I am not only loved, but cherished, cared for, and regularly spoiled. I have someone to listen to me, talk to me, and look after. Our passion for one another seems to get stronger, and our respect for each other grows even more.

He is the person I most want to be with, and he feels the same toward me. We are happiest togethet.

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RE: Ideal - 9/6/2008 8:36:55 AM

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I fuck up and so do they at times, but even the fuck ups are easy to deal with.

yeah... I like it when they are on top at times... I fuck up and play with their boobies at the same time.

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RE: Ideal - 9/6/2008 11:13:14 AM

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I fuck up and so do they at times, but even the fuck ups are easy to deal with.

yeah... I like it when they are on top at times... I fuck up and play with their boobies at the same time.

she who laughs last---didn't get the joke! Took me awhile---some days I'm just a bit s-l-o-w!

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RE: Ideal - 9/6/2008 11:21:13 AM

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she who laughs last---didn't get the joke! Took me awhile---some days I'm just a bit s-l-o-w!

**sneaks in beside catize... plugs her one ear... blows into the other one and gives her a refill***.

there now you are as smart as me.

PST... that is why I have two girls... cause I have two ears.... one to blow into each

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RE: Ideal - 9/8/2008 4:17:10 PM

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Those of you in your ideal relationship...what makes it so?

Who we are feeds what we need and want! It has nothing to do with trying to be something to do something to feed those needs and wants

Sorry it took me so long to get back here..

KoM, what makes your relationship ideal for you? And no fair saying "just look at these beautiful ladies kneeling at my feet!"

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RE: Ideal - 9/8/2008 4:21:02 PM

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Those of you in your ideal relationship...what makes it so?

Each of us having total trust and confidence in the integrity of the other. If you have no integrity then I can understand why you can't grasp the concept of an 'ideal' relationship. Knowing yourself as a fake and a hypocrite makes it impossible to trust another enough to consider your life 'ideal'. That's why knowing yourself and being honest with yourself is the first step in finding a compatible partner.

'Ideal' isn't synonymous, and shouldn't be confused with perfect. Striving for perfection is a good ambitious goal, but only with the knowledge that obtaining perfection, outside a 300 bowling game score, is impossible. With that in mind it isn't frustrating, it is acceptance of reality. That mindset lets you laugh at failure and mistakes and learn from them instead of being defeated by them. Many disagree with even the attempt to achieve perfection; however my position is if you strive to achieve mediocrity the worst thing that can happen is that you succeed.

We are 'ideal' for each other. There hasn't been a day, or a minute that either of us has gotten on each other's nerves, or needed a 'time-out'. We like to think that a lot of planning and preparation went into that result. Maybe we exhausted all the frustration during the process when we were constructing our 'contract'; another touchy subject on these threads. But once in place and once we were comfortable living by it; we lived 'ideally' by it.

There is no way to know if we'll live forever 'ideally'. Only failure can be determined by life. It takes death for there to be a conclusive opinion. I hope we get to represent this thought on our memorial; "Damn - They really were 'ideal'!"

One last thought...

As illogical and impossible and counter intuitive as it is; there is a 'one' - but you shouldn't believe in 'one' until you find him/her.

Merc, thank you for your response. I really like the part that I bolded.

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RE: Ideal - 9/8/2008 4:23:05 PM

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Aileen, thank you for your response. Yes, it makes sense to me, and accepting what you have now while knowing that you are waiting for what you dream of is not a bad thing, as long as you are active in the search.

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RE: Ideal - 9/8/2008 4:24:23 PM

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my ideal...the relationship that evolves to the point that one day i realize, i'm living my ideal.
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I love this answer.

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RE: Ideal - 9/8/2008 4:26:09 PM

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Four years ago I had in mind what the ideal relationship would be for me. Monogamy and no children were the highlights.

What I have now... poly relationship and four rug-rats.

What I found out was that the key parts were the character of the people that I am involved with and that I am free to be who I am. I love our relationship; it flows so smoothly. There are stressful times, I fuck up and so do they at times, but even the fuck ups are easy to deal with. The relationship I have now is about as opposite of what I thought my ideal was and I am more at peace than I have ever been.

Knight's Kyra

YES! I'm so happy you found them and they you.

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RE: Ideal - 9/8/2008 4:27:52 PM

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So, I'm running through my life living in what should have been the ideal relationship, when along comes this man telling me that he was going to take me away. He was right.

I am allowed to be me. I am not only loved, but cherished, cared for, and regularly spoiled. I have someone to listen to me, talk to me, and look after. Our passion for one another seems to get stronger, and our respect for each other grows even more.

He is the person I most want to be with, and he feels the same toward me. We are happiest togethet.