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stella41b -> RE: is "live in" employment? negotiating agreement (9/9/2008 6:08:15 AM)
I've actually done both and you know while it looks the same it isn't. A paid live in domestic job is simply that, and doesn't usually involve either sex or BDSM as most of these jobs involve looking after UMs. Is it service? Yes it is, I can be as submissive as I wish in such a position but it's unspoken, not arranged, and remains entirely in my own headspace. It doesn't matter as long as I do the work, and it is hard work, and meet the requirements and the standards of my employers. But you almost invariably need references from past employers. By contrast I wouldn't expect to be paid if I were a live in 'submissive', and to be honest if I lived in rent free with bills paid that would be a brilliant result. But 24/7 doesn't necessarily mean 24/7 right from the start - though I've jumped in a couple of times and live to tell the tale - but is something which is developed pretty much in the same way as any other relationship. Though I'm sure they exist I've never come across a position which combines all of the above and the bottom line appears to me to be that you have to make your choices and stick with them. But 24/7 is really the high stakes in such relationships with many risks on both sides. You're going into someone's home, the most private, intimate part of their lives and no matter whether it's D/s or paid employment people are very careful about who they choose to live in. By the same token you are placing your life in their hands. I would advise doing anything you can to shorten those odds before taking on such a commitment.

TSLivingDoll -> RE: is "live in" employment? negotiating agreement (9/11/2008 11:24:28 AM)
Ok, so. how tied to sex is all this "live in" about? Like I said. not trying to insult or make anyone think i'm shopping. I'm just trying to learn.. I just had another offer geeze.. I didn't solicit.. he wanted me to handle his daughter that's 17 and has the mind of 10yr old. and all the house stuff, shopping, relocate with family in 2 yrs, cook, laundry.. the list was huge! Dawn to the wee hours.. then he added, of course you would service them both because they are doms.and do sessions and live in fetish wear.. Ok.... right... when does said girl get to sleep? LOL I mean I know I'm not experianced in the lifestyle but do subs really want to do all this willingly in the guise of dominace or is because the sub loves and is loved in many cases? the word "nanny" came to mind with that offer. I'm like hesitant to ask anything now for fear of getting blasted again. please don't blast a newbie for asking, I wouldn't. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m27.gif[/image] I was getting tons of 24/7 requests because of my being "new" I just changed my profile so only masculine lesbians would understand it mostly... the mail has slowed considerably.

Bstardsbitch -> RE: is "live in" employment? negotiating agreement (9/11/2008 12:37:28 PM)
I would think many subs take on responsibilities for their Dom's children, whether they have problems or not. The rest is just life...shopping, laundry etc...all part of life in this house lol xx

eyesopened -> RE: is "live in" employment? negotiating agreement (9/11/2008 1:10:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TSLivingDoll Ok, so. how tied to sex is all this "live in" about? Like I said. not trying to insult or make anyone think i'm shopping. I'm just trying to learn.. I just had another offer geeze.. I didn't solicit.. he wanted me to handle his daughter that's 17 and has the mind of 10yr old. and all the house stuff, shopping, relocate with family in 2 yrs, cook, laundry.. the list was huge! Dawn to the wee hours.. then he added, of course you would service them both because they are doms.and do sessions and live in fetish wear.. Ok.... right... when does said girl get to sleep? LOL I mean I know I'm not experianced in the lifestyle but do subs really want to do all this willingly in the guise of dominace or is because the sub loves and is loved in many cases? the word "nanny" came to mind with that offer. I'm like hesitant to ask anything now for fear of getting blasted again. please don't blast a newbie for asking, I wouldn't. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m27.gif[/image] I was getting tons of 24/7 requests because of my being "new" I just changed my profile so only masculine lesbians would understand it mostly... the mail has slowed considerably. I've said it, a bunch of others have said it, IGNORE THE 24/7 CRAP UNTIL YOU GET SOME REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE. The guys you are chatting with are horney net geeks and don't really have dominant daughters, its an incest by proxy fantasy the guy is playing out. He has no intention of ever meeting you in person let alone all the long list of duties. Really, my dear, please understand that a lot of men use sites like this because with cell phones, called ID, and all the new technology, the old days of "obscene phone calls" is about dead and gone. It's been replaced with chat rooms and emails.

Twicehappy2x -> RE: is "live in" employment? negotiating agreement (9/12/2008 3:59:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TSLivingDoll Ok, so. how tied to sex is all this "live in" about? Like I said. not trying to insult or make anyone think i'm shopping. I'm just trying to learn.. I mean I know I'm not experianced in the lifestyle but do subs really want to do all this willingly in the guise of dominace or is because the sub loves and is loved in many cases? the word "nanny" came to mind with that offer. I'm like hesitant to ask anything now for fear of getting blasted again. please don't blast a newbie for asking, I wouldn't. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m27.gif[/image] I was getting tons of 24/7 requests because of my being "new" Sex being tied into 24/7 depends on the individual relationship. What subs do and whether or not it is tied into the love or the D/s dynamic, once again it depends on the relationship. Lol, yes, some on here are just looking for unpaid house help or a live in Nanny. For me a household with ums in it were always a hard limit, raised mine, not looking to raise anymore. My grandums are enough for me, they are fun and returnable.(ums = unmentionables) This particular offer you mention; i agree with eyesopened (waves at her and her good looking Master) it is some guy typing one handed. Do not be afraid to ask questions, some are going to blast you, get past it, this is the internet. And some are going to give you very sound advice here as well.

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