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am I or am i not? - 9/7/2008 3:16:55 PM

eddiesubstl

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Hello all,
Need some opinions, please. since i am new to this and still "finding myself", so to speak i would like to share and see what the comments are.
i am "adversised" as a sub, which i feel like. i have started training with a really nice Mistress (bless her heart) so there isn't a real question there. However, there are times (about 50/50) when i see a female submissive here that catches my eye and i have a real longing to contact her. There's a part of me that wants to lovingly Dominate her as so many Masters and Mistresses on here have done and commented on.
i see what seen to be real great relationships here, and other places between a Master and a female submissive and part of me seems to want that. That feeling of knowing that the Master has someone that has given herself over to Him and He in turn cares for her, protects her, watches out for her and loves her. Maybe that is just the males protective nature when it comes to a female, maybe not. Not sure.
On the other hand, there is most definately submissiveness in my nature. I have really known this for a while and have recently decided to act, hence my new Mistress.
Should i consider myself a switch? i am guessing that this is something i need to "work out" for myself but i thought the opinions or observations of more experienced persons would give me some insight. As i said, the idea of having my own submissive to care for and possess has a great deal of appeal, but i wouldn't want but one female submissive in my life. i fugure that since she gave herself over to me as her master, she would deserve my undivided attention.
Anyone have any thoughts?

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RE: am I or am i not? - 9/8/2008 6:18:40 PM

briannasabri

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My best suggestion is that instead of trying to limit yourself to a label, embrace your d/s as something that is all "you". We all have multiple sides to our personalities, and sometimes different people bring out different responses. Especially if you are somewhat new to all of this, take time to explore all the avenues.

Think of this time as "window shopping". Eventually you will find what fits you best. Then if you feel like slapping a label of "switch" "Dom" "submissive" "Rumplestilskin" on yourself...go for it.

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RE: am I or am i not? - 9/9/2008 10:45:32 AM

eddiesubstl

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OK, now!
Stop reading my thoughts!

That's pretty much what i was thinking, too. Good advice, THX.
i will be learning for a while so i suspect that one day, it will just come to me, however, i suspect that i will always have the submissive in me (no pun intended). my first taste of submission was real gratifying and Mistress says i did a good job for my first time. i guess we will see as time goes by. i have heard that there can be some prejudice against a switch, though. Sort of straddeling the fence view but i believe, what is inside of a person is just there. Like S/m lifestyle. It's either for you or not.
Thanks for the input, keep them cards and letters commin'
eddie

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RE: am I or am i not? - 10/21/2008 6:44:35 PM

DavanKael

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Hi, eddiesubstl----
I think that there is sometimes a negative connotation with the idea of a 'switch'just like some have negative ideas about the identifier of 'bi', ironically, oft times for the same reasons: I have heard it asserted time and again that people who identify as either are fence-straddling and refusing to commit.
Well, I identify as both. Does my definition of bi- and switch look like someone else's. Probably not; they're terms with broad applicability.
Terms are apoint from which to begin aconversation hopefully, not the be all, end all.
Be yourself,
Davan

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