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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Merc, even with cell phones, sometimes the battery is dead and the car charger is in the other car, sometimes I'm in a no coverage area. Frequently he is, he'll be out of reach while at work all this week.

For something like that, I wouldn't accept punishment because the flat, and no way to call wouldn't be my fault. Plus the resulting panic attack wouldn't be out of disrespect for him or our relationship.

I think you're closer to the city than I am, you probably are always within coverage and/or walking distance to a store to ask them to call the police. But some of us aren't.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I didn't come up with it, just spreading the word, and I think it's exactly the term for this sort of dynamic.  I can enjoy "funishment" for brief periods when everyone knows it's just a big joke and tease and no one's really taking it seriously.  But it would be tiring and stressful for anything beyond that. 

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ORIGINAL: silkncarol

I don't understand those Dominants who feel they need to find a reason for BDSM play.......He's the Dominant....he doesn't really need a reason, other than he wants to or finds it amusing....

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

. Cell service, especially where we live, is VERY haphazard; however, in this case, I'd be sure to check my cell phone messages over a land line after beth was overdue by more than 5 minutes. Not only would I, but I have; situations and road conditions in LA tend to cause delays beyond the best intentions. When they occur I expect the respect of a phone call; not just so I'm not waiting, but because the first emotions experienced would be worry and concern. 

Responding to the conditions as given, if - after getting over the panic and expectation that the news I'd hear would be that she died - all those unlikely conditions you gave occurred at the same time; there would be no cause for 'punishment'. However, I hope you appreciate that your example is very far removed from the tone and intent of behavior and subsequent 'punishment' given as the subject of the OP.

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What has been referred as 'funishment' falls into what I would categorize as sadistic play. Being sadistic, I employ that technique commonly and it can be anything I happen to think of at the time; from holing a string between her teeth that if dropped would have weights pull nipples and other tender bits, not given permission to orgasm under direct stimulation, not using the indoor bathroom facilities...like I said, whatever warped idea happens to be going through my mind at any time during the day. Some may consider the result of that play as 'punishment'. I won't argue the semantics but there is a major difference beyond the actions.   

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  It could be said that I'm setting up beth for failure in my little created dynamics. If you can't see the distinction - it would be a waste of time to try and explain it.

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ORIGINAL: softness

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ORIGINAL: silkncarol

I don't understand those Dominants who feel they need to find a reason for BDSM play.......He's the Dominant....he doesn't really need a reason, other than he wants to or finds it amusing....

agree with this 100% ... it goes along with all behaviours and protocols that are designed to "prove a point" ... I don't need that point proving ... its proved ... so who exactly does need the point proving ... ?

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain
Why play games if you both want it? Why introduce some kind of guilt psychological BS into something you both enjoy? Hell, I want her to feel good about being whipped because I like doing it.

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ORIGINAL: Deliena

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain
Why play games if you both want it? Why introduce some kind of guilt psychological BS into something you both enjoy? Hell, I want her to feel good about being whipped because I like doing it.

That's a good point ExSteelAgain, but for some of us part of the attraction is the fact that there is the psychological BS (and believe me we know it's BS, that's it's not real punishment but the scenario works).  In common with people who crave emotionally distressing scenarios or other psychological scenarios part of the 'click' of the thing is the way it's played out.  Not to say those that don't want that element are wrong or those that do want it are wrong, it's just a different kinda kink - lot of that about. <shrug>  still don't think i've managed to work out why i find it hot though, no abusive childhood, no teacher i had a crush on that spanked me at school, it's all a bit of a mystery..... <wanders off to ponder it again>

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Think of it as a form of role-playing.  Some people like the idea of having an 'excuse' to inflict some kind of "punishment" but punishement is just their word for it.  Just like birthday spankings no one thinks the spanking is a punishment but it's difficult to find another word for it.  People are different.  The couple in question obviously were enjoying their role-play and more power to them.  As to why?  I can only guess that some like to play the brat and some like to play the breaker of brattiness.  I'm sure if Master and I were observed in a club or at a munch there could be horrible comments made about how our dynamic is undesireable, plain, boring, or whatever.  I really couldn't explain our dynamic other than to say, it works for us.