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MsMillgrove -> RE: How to Give a Pedicure... (9/21/2008 11:47:37 AM)
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I sure hope someone's still reading .. because I just caught this super post .. and I want to piggyback on it with some comments.
Don't have many areas of expertise, but this is one of them. lol No, not as a nail tech but as an online mistress. Many of the boys I've trained or consulted with are married--that's why they're online.
It's often been my goal to help those boys gently help their wives or gf become more dominant. There have been long threads with advice on how to help the wife understand the husband's feelings and how to edge into an exploration of d/s or kink.
I never contributed to those threads because my own experience is that most of the boys who start a talk on that topic end up scaring their wives--freaking them out. That's my experience.
The pedicure is a trade secret--it does not require any "talk". Learning to care for the feet of mistress or wife is one of the easiest, most fulfilling ways to please your woman. It is like magic.
I take a lot of time to explain to the boys--just why this works so well. It's obviously behavior mod and empowering. Once you begin to think of a woman as your Queen and Treat her as one--she starts to feel like one, too. Even if she has zero interest in kink. Everyone single time she looks at those beautiful feet, she is reminded of your care.
Here's a few add-ons to the poster's perfect explanation on "how to". Girls who like nail polish learn early on--they practice as pre-teens. Polish is sticky, messy. It's my opinion that the only way a male will achieve this with grace is to Practice. On himself. over and over again, until he can apply polish.
This practice is also a test of the male who claims he wants to experience life as a sub, yet he hides behind the wive's skirts and ventures only online at most. If he really does wish to be subby, if he truly loves the wife or gf, he will buy the polish and remover, the spreaders..and practice. (the nail polish practice always unnerves the the males as they say--oh that's gay. It helps them get over these ghastly stereotypes they have. My reply--get over it please. It's no different from pounding a nail with a hammer, you need to practice.)
I also suggest that for firstimers, the cuticle pushing and any cutting or filing.. should be not be done until much later in the process--until lots of trust has been established between the two. (and not even then in some cases--that is the part which is intrusive and where the woman maybe will object--to the rest--she probably will not object at all)
The key to success is to practice the basic polishing, to have the tools organized and ready--those toe spreaders are Not optional, they make is much easier to work.
It's also important to do the pedicure on the same day and time every week. (a favorite tv show works well as a way to set the time and let the lady relax and concentrate on something other than watching the nervous new subby). By doing it every single week, the lady comes to look forward to the time, to expect the service. It also becomes a ritual between the two.
Oh the joy I have felt, when a boy tells me he finally did this. (they usually resist and i have to pound them to make them get going on it)...and he describes the look on his wife's face as she sees her toes for the first time. This is usually the first time the boy himself.. feels like he is becoming his wife's subby becuase he is literally at her feet, worshipping and giving service. For the wife, it's zero effort, no commitment to any kink--she's simply looking at her beautiful feet, looking Down at her adoring husband. Well, think about it.
Oh, some boys ask.. what do I say--she's going to think it's very weird of me.
Tell them to say this: I wanted to give you a gift that would really surprise you. I saw an article on the internet--10 ways to please a woman.. and so I learned to do this for you.
As a journalist, this was one of the topics I never approached because i don't want the women to understand what's going on--as that's one of the most powerful points behind this process--that they don't have to "think" or "hear" their husband discussing kink--it upsets many vanilla women. But if they feel the adoration, if they experience the d/s relationship in small ways, they begin to feel and act like queens, they slowly come to understand their own power. It's gentle NLP or behavior mod.
Those ladies are my sisters and I want them to hang onto their husbands. By the time their children are grown, they're going to be living very happy lives as the mistresses to their own husbands. The pedicure is the first step along that path.
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