StrangerThan
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The reality of this type of fantasy can be much less than the fantasy itself. Much depends on how well you know your partner, trust them, and how well he/she is able to assume a role without losing sight of themselves, how long the event lasts, remembering that regardless of what's done, it is not carte blanche excuse to violate limits or push anyone too far just because. Obviously it is a place where limits can be approached and perhaps adjusted but not broken. I've had people ask me to do this when I barely knew them. While it might have been fun, exciting, whatever, barely knowing someone translates into the potential for things going wrong and going wrong badly. It takes time, planning and a nod to the fact that the degree of success will depend in some part on being able to induce a sense of reality to it. That means you don't just whisk your submissive off to a new location and do the same things you've been doing with her or him. I'd give you some details but, grin, my submissive reads these boards too and she may be feeling this particular thing before too much time passes. Either way, there's a huge responsibility on the party controlling it to remember that it is essentially a scene and it will end. Once it does, you want them lying in bed with you in the same way they did before it, maybe more thoughtful, maybe ready to explore different things, maybe laughing and talking about different points. Translated it means, you gauge her/his response as you always do and ride it, control it, direct it even though the context is different.
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