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Kidnapping fantasies - 9/21/2008 5:16:38 AM   
zach7


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I know I'm not the only one who has fantasized about being kidnapped. I would love to hear your experiences. How you planned it, how it went and if you would do it again. Kidnapper or kidnapee it doesn't matter I would like to hear from both.
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RE: Kidnapping fantasies - 9/21/2008 5:47:50 AM   
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The reality of this type of fantasy can be much less than the fantasy itself. Much depends on how well you know your partner, trust them, and how well he/she is able to assume a role without losing sight of themselves, how long the event lasts, remembering that regardless of what's done, it is not carte blanche excuse to violate limits or push anyone too far just because. Obviously it is a place where limits can be approached and perhaps adjusted but not broken. I've had people ask me to do this when I barely knew them. While it might have been fun, exciting, whatever, barely knowing someone translates into the potential for things going wrong and going wrong badly.  It takes time, planning and a nod to the fact that the degree of success will depend in some part on being able to induce a sense of reality to it. That means you don't just whisk your submissive off to a new location and do the same things you've been doing with her or him.

I'd give you some details but, grin, my submissive reads these boards too and she may be feeling this particular thing before too much time passes. Either way, there's a huge responsibility on the party controlling it to remember that it is essentially a scene and it will end. Once it does, you want them lying in bed with you in the same way they did before it, maybe more thoughtful, maybe ready to explore different things, maybe laughing and talking about different points. Translated it means, you gauge her/his response as you always do and ride it, control it, direct it even though the context is different.

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RE: Kidnapping fantasies - 9/21/2008 6:19:51 AM   
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Thanks for all the info. I understand saftey, respecting limits and all that. I'm assuming that if people are going to do something like this, they're doing it safe. The question was geared more twords experiences that people have had doing this.

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RE: Kidnapping fantasies - 9/21/2008 7:17:26 AM   
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Haven't done it, and won't do it if it seems real as I know I won't be able to handle that. More importantly, he knows I can't. We've talked about doing a scripted one, since role play feels real for me.

What I have read is that aftercare can require months before the person is back to normal. Are you available to give reassurance for six months if that's what she needs? Can you do without any heavy play for those six months if she can't handle it?

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