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LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How do I deal with something that was said to me but was innapropriate? (9/23/2008 2:14:41 PM)
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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
Much like feminism, it was brought up to me that a significant portion of the s-type population has spent a great deal of time explaining that they don't submit to just anyone, and that submissive does not equal weak, that when the s-types show up who -would- submit to anyone who knew what to do with it, and who do -need- that kind of direct management and the protective exoskeleton of a d-type (even in the vanilla world) to be able to manage, it seems like its thrown off at least a decade of 'progress'.
The issues with that as I see it are
1) The people who tend to need to shout about how strong they are and how they won't submit easily are either the ones who really ARE insecure and scared to surrender, or the ones who really ARE weak and feel that talking about how strong they are will fool them all
2) The fact is that plenty of people in the scene encourage and approve of treating all subs like less than competent adults in tons of ways all the time.
I think we all understand there's a level of reasonability here- we're human, we've got strengths and weaknesses and it's about being compatible. There is "some point" at which weakness becomes untenable and "some point" at which strength becomes weakness. But it is indeed about knowing yourself, and being true to that with the people you bring into your life. As long as it's informed, then you're good.
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