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Talking to doctor - 9/23/2008 2:12:08 PM   
panthersub


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Status: offline 		I am going into my doctor's office tomorrow for a breast exam, long story. Anyways, I may have to reveal to her my activities, breast play, flogging, binding, etc. and I am sort of embarassed to discuss these things with her. I don't think she's kink friendly, but I don't know. What's the best way to go about telling her? I'm trying to think of a way without totally embarassing myself, I embarass easily. Any suggestions?
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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/23/2008 2:13:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: panthersub

I am going into my doctor's office tomorrow for a breast exam, long story. Anyways, I may have to reveal to her my activities, breast play, flogging, binding, etc. and I am sort of embarassed to discuss these things with her. I don't think she's kink friendly, but I don't know. What's the best way to go about telling her? I'm trying to think of a way without totally embarassing myself, I embarass easily. Any suggestions?


"We play a little rough"

She's probably heard it all before. ^_^


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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/23/2008 2:16:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't assume anyone is kinky UNfriendly unless you know that about them.  I like to assume most people are accepting of others.
Just tell her the truth, if it comes up.  Hell, tell her even if it doesn't.  Your health could depend on it, after all.  Hiding things from medical professionals might give us more privacy, but it also might kill us.

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/24/2008 4:17:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		You don't have to go into detail - she won't want all the purient details - actually, i like Lynnx's suggestion - simple , plain and descriptive without being vivid.

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/24/2008 4:22:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz
"We play a little rough"



This is exactly what I have told my doctors.  The response is typically:  "Oh, OK."

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/24/2008 5:10:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		i went in today, after reading your responses, of which i thank you all for. One question she did ask me was if there was if i stretched it somehow or if i hurt it in anyway. i did use your response Lynnxz, thank you. And she just sort of shrugged. So i'm assuming it was ok with her.

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/24/2008 5:32:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		She really has seen it all and heard it all. Nothing will faze her. But she does need to know. If you had some kind of accident and were unconscious, marks on you could cause your partner to be in trouble for abuse. A medical record showing this is consensual would be very helpful.

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/24/2008 7:19:15 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Medical professionals should be non-judgmental and if they aren't, I'd urge finding a new one.  I got rid of my general practitioner a bit over a year ago because, when she knew I was in a relationship with 2 men and got the wild idea to try birth control pills again and it was working out just as poorly as the first time I'd tried them, I asked for suggestions and she very seriously told me I should consider abstainence.  I was not amused.  My GYN, onthe other hand, is super-awesome, fabulously cool, and I can, and do, tell her anything and everything and she knows that I research health matters like mad, so we talk with mutual respect and I swear I could tell her I was having sex with herds of goats (I'm not; I think pygmy goats are cool but not in that way, lol!) and she'd say that as long as everyone was consenting, that I should consider protection but to rock on.  There's nothing wrong with what we do in our lives, America is just FUBAR about matters sexual.  Oh, the glbt community tends to have very open minded practitioners working in centers and, the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom has a listing of Kink Friendly Professionals to which you may wish to avail yourself should you feel the need. 
Have a great night, all!  :> 
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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/25/2008 10:19:42 AM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		Honesty is the best policy.

But, you might want to remind her of "doctor/patient confidentiality"

You might also ask her, beforehand, if your state has laws which compel her to report anything that looks vaugely of spousal abuse.

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/25/2008 11:38:56 AM   
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Medical professionals should be non-judgmental and if they aren't, I'd urge finding a new one.


I'll say. I had a GYN tell me once that since I have manic-depression, I shouldn't have kids because I'd be a bad parent. He even had the gall to tell me I'd be unreliable, potentially abusive and condemn the kid with manic-depression. What, like my life wasn't worth living?

I was horrified. I got dressed, walked into his office, told him where to go, and left. Now I have a great doc who has never been anything but supportive of my wish to have kids.


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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/25/2008 2:48:41 PM   
tweedydaddy


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Status: offline 		Worrying about what a Doctor thinks about what you do with your body is like worrying about what a mechanic thinks about the way you drive.
It's  not a big deal for them, they just deal with the damage, judgement is for you.

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/25/2008 10:26:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		When i told my doc he said, yeah his g/f likes to be bound too.

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/26/2008 8:20:32 AM   
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< Message edited by RealSub58 -- 9/26/2008 8:21:13 AM >

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RE: Talking to doctor - 9/26/2008 2:39:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: panthersub

I am going into my doctor's office tomorrow for a breast exam, long story. Anyways, I may have to reveal to her my activities, breast play, flogging, binding, etc. and I am sort of embarassed to discuss these things with her. I don't think she's kink friendly, but I don't know. What's the best way to go about telling her? I'm trying to think of a way without totally embarassing myself, I embarass easily. Any suggestions?




Being honest is important to your health.The simple answer of "we play rough"
is all they need to know to start with.If you have health problems you may have to be more specific on what you do.Be prepared for some questions about
your personal safety,they do have an obligation to make sure that you are
of sound mind and are completely consenting.They do infact have to keep
the information confidential,but it doesnt hurt to state that what your
saying is confidential.

I'm on the other side of having to make sure I dont get sick because
I session/scene with several submissives.Being honest was a good thing.
The Doctor had Me get Hep B shots to protect My health,I'm grateful
that she wanted to make sure I was being safe.Thats what a Doctor is
suppossed to do.

If your Doctor doesnt have a positive reaction,it might be a good idea
to look for another one.Better safe than sorry as the saying goes.

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