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Topping a Switch...advice needed please - 9/27/2008 11:06:07 AM   
sblady


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Status: offline 		Hello all...I need assistance and who better to ask than those who identify as a switch?

I have friend who is a switch and was previously my Dominant.  We had to end the relationship for many reasons but we're still really good friends.  He's a bit of a pain slut and his previous Domme, Mistress or insert the politically correct term is not currently available.

He's been a great friend, especially lately and I'd love to give him what he'd like:  PAIN!!!  When he was my Dominant I did try a few things with him but I didn't feel very comfortable and did it because a good submissive will do as they're told.

He's aware that I want to do this for him and that I've been practicing.  I'd like to cause enough pain to allow the endorphins to kick in, but I know I have to be careful when doing this as I don't want to cause "bad pain".  I'm pretty sure the areas to avoid but would appreciate any advice.

I'd also like to try a bit of a mindf*ck with him, sorta as payback for all the times I've experienced that at his expense.  

All of the things I've mentioned is being done with his blessing as I would never "try" him. 

Any ideas?  Thanks so much!!

< Message edited by sblady -- 9/27/2008 11:08:12 AM >

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RE: Topping a Switch...advice needed please - 9/27/2008 12:35:42 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		Find out what kind of pain he enjoys - there is such a wide range to choose from.  Say it's a flogger - you can have him count the strokes as they fall.  Then you can hear from his voice, along with watching his mannerisms, to see if he is getting near his limit. 

One fun sounding mind game (to me) is to leave a sharp knife laying within view, then pull it back.  Instead of using it take a butter knife and make a light line down his back.  The mind's assumption is that it is the sharp one.

Using a blindfold also allows for delicious mind games.  It will help to hide your expression if you start feeling slightly unsure and any hesitance can be put off to building up anticipation.

Surprising temperatures can provide a thrill, such as a dildo that has been refrigerated, very cold lotion or lube, or heated oil. 

It sounds like you two can have a really fun time. 


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RE: Topping a Switch...advice needed please - 9/28/2008 8:16:12 AM   
sblady


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Status: offline 		Oh wow!!  Those are wonderful ideas, thank you.   I'm sure I won't be able to execute them as well as he can, but I'm definitely going to have fun trying.

He loves the cane, however, I haven't yet been able to strike hard enough to get him "there".  I mentioned that I'll know I've arrived at his particular pain level once the feathers start flying from the pillows.

He does not like wooden paddles but at this point, it's not what he'd like but what I want to do.  I'll start with a gentle flogging and take it from there.

I'm almost giddy anticipating how the possibilities of that evening...heh heh



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RE: Topping a Switch...advice needed please - 10/5/2008 5:52:39 PM   
xXLithiumXx


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Status: offline 		Crops are great fun for me to use, and I find that I can go from light to heavy with them pretty easily...also, a ping pong paddle, you can use that in soooo many ways, both as a paddle, and then the texture to irritate already irritated skin, you can use the edge as you would a knife, tho it wont cut it is some what painful...and so on and so forth.
Another thing that is awesome is a parafin wax bath...you can get one for about 20$ at wal mart and its pretty warm, easy to clean up, and you can dip...ahem..things into it to make for an intresting feel. Its also good for the skin, and the oils that are in it are awesome to work into the skin for after care.

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RE: Topping a Switch...advice needed please - 10/9/2008 3:23:53 PM   
sblady


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Status: offline 		Wow!!  Thanks for adding to my shopping list.  I especially like the ping pong paddle.  I'm a bit inexperienced as far as wax goes (always the receiver, never the giver) so I wouldn't want to cause a burn, especially on His delicate skin .  


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RE: Topping a Switch...advice needed please - 10/14/2008 9:15:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		sblady u r a good friend!  

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RE: Topping a Switch...advice needed please - 10/14/2008 5:15:16 PM   
sblady


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Status: offline 		Awww, thank you.  

Unfortunately, our schedules have been pretty hectic and I've not yet executed my plans, but this weekend (or next week) is looking pretty good. 

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RE: Topping a Switch...advice needed please - 10/14/2008 9:52:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Please just be careful if you are going to break into caning as it is very easy to cause damage.  I would have him tied soundly to prevent as much movement as possible.  Be sure to avoid the small of the back and the abdomen especially.  There are other delicate and vulnerable areas too, but these are the big no no's.

Melted chocolate can be a lot of fun for all involved.  Just be sure to watch the temperature and try it on inside of your arm first before beginning.  There is not only all the fun reactions as he is drizzled all over, but the clean up is such a sweet delight as well.  Enjoy!

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