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Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 10:50:19 AM   
BBBTBW


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Status: offline 		Around the time I tuned 40, something odd started happening.  When I have intercourse, be it with a man or using toys, I cry.  It is not painful, I am not sad or overly joyful, but it seems as soon as that phallus enters my body, a big ball of tears travels up from my loins to my tear ducts and explodes like a tidle wave.

My question is:

Has or does anyone have this or a similar issue?  What was your diagnosis?  What is the prognosis?  I have spoken to my doctor about it and all he does is tell me that it is not unusual and it will play itself out...well 3 years later, its still playing.  Can this be a psychological issue?  Can it be purely medical?

I am hoping there are others here that can offer some opinion/help/shed some light on this for me.  If not, I am going to begin looking for another doctor.  I can't keep going like this.



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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 12:11:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		not sure if this is similar....
when i was in my vanila marriage, on the 'occasion' i would shed a few tears during sex, i think it was just a pleasant release.....but the first time i was with my Master, after O/our play i bawled.  tears just poured. it wasn't really an intense session or so i think....but i just crawled into His arms and cried, which made Him ask me 'when i had been sexual abused?' i hadn't been...He said my reaction was strong....i have no clue why i cried, i suspect it was just bottled up emotions, who knows from what...but they surfaced at that time.  if You're not having pain as You said then i doubt it's medcial (but i'm not a dr.)...maybe just extremely intuned to Your bodys pleasure?

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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 12:17:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		i have done so on occasion for no real reason i can think of. I just blow it off to strong emotions...

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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 12:28:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have been known to burst into tears after an orgasm... it seems to be just one of those cathartic reactions.

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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 2:08:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		If it bothers you then perhaps it might be good to explore this with a therapist... .

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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 2:42:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do not cry, but I will say that tears do escape past the corners of my eyes when I feel that cock pushing into me.  I love that feeling.
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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 4:33:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've had this in the past, it wasn't really a problem though. I chalked it up to overactive hormones and the joy of sex!

Sometimes, those hormones just get going and can wreak havoc upstairs with your moods - even if you're not feeling upset or tearful or something, BOOM! Tears are flowing and Lord knows why.

And Kyst...I have that tomorrow night. I'm getting all teary eyed with glee.


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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 4:42:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ah the joys of approaching menopause. Approaching meaning anytime in the next 15 years.

Orgasm is a very strong feeling and it isn't uncommon for physical feelings as well as emotional ones to be let out in tears.

As long as you warn your partner(s) about it, there shouldn't be any problem. Just keep tissues nearby to blow your nose. I find a runny nose ruins arousal.

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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 6:42:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		An orgasm and passion gets me all emotional, "I love you " is a feeling for some even if you dont know there name.. Tears go along with the same sentiment.

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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 9/30/2008 8:14:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VivaciousSub
And Kyst...I have that tomorrow night. I'm getting all teary eyed with glee.


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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 10/1/2008 4:48:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have to agree that if it is upsetting you to this extent, then talking with a competent therapist may be in order.  Even if there is no underlying issue, the therapy can focus on helping you accept your body's responses and deal with them in a positive manner.  Best wishes!

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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 10/1/2008 10:15:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

I have to agree that if it is upsetting you to this extent, then talking with a competent therapist may be in order.  Even if there is no underlying issue, the therapy can focus on helping you accept your body's responses and deal with them in a positive manner.  Best wishes!

lovingpet



Excellent advice, lovingpet!!

And Kyst....sure enough, my mascara looks like hell. It was a great evening. A good time was had by all!


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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 10/2/2008 9:25:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Let me take a minute to thank everyone for the advise on such a sensitive matter.  I have suspected that it is due to impending menopause, I just  don't want to face that either....I will consider a therapist once I have exhausted my medical options.  Everyone thought puberty was hard....it ain't go nothing on growing older.


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RE: Intercourse and Crying - 10/21/2008 6:57:31 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Hi, BBBTW----
When your doctor told you it would play itself out, did he or she explain further?  Perhaps querying the doctor would be a good place to start. 
There have been times of more emotional outlet during sexual situations; seems to be relatively normal. 
My initial thought was early menopause.  Are you around the age womenin your family generally start menopause?  Regardless, as some others have said, if it's bothersome to you (The crying and/or the idea of menopause), talking to/with a professional may help. 
Best wishes,
  Davan

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