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Slaves - 12/3/2005 8:17:54 PM

aFreak

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I am new to this whole thing. I am trying to become a master.

My questiong to you is what do you want in your master. Do you (slaves) also have a side likes to be Tied, cuffed and whipped?

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RE: Slaves - 12/3/2005 9:42:16 PM

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You're asking for generalizations where none exist.

People on my end of the whip are as varied as are people on your end.

Some of us are masochists, some hate pain. Some are service oriented, some prefer to be treated as domestic pets.

It's impossible to get one answer that will serve -everyone- because such a thing doesn't exist.

I would say that the one underlying factor that I've found between s-types is a desire to surrender some personal control over to another individual. However, that surrender takes a huge variety of forms, and falls into a huge variety of relationship structures.

Speaking from my POV, my wants aren't always what turns out to be the best thing for me. For example, three years ago, I'd have told you that it was most important for my partner to be a sadist with a desire for ritualistic slavery/servitude. As of today, I'd tell you that it's -most- important to me to love my owner with my whole soul, and to have that love returned, and to -know- that I belong to that owner with ever bit of that soul.

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RE: Slaves - 12/3/2005 10:45:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: aFreak

I am new to this whole thing. I am trying to become a master.

My questiong to you is what do you want in your master. Do you (slaves) also have a side likes to be Tied, cuffed and whipped?

I totally agree with perverseangelic...
I will add to that it totally depends on your slave/sub and you!!!

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RE: Slaves - 12/4/2005 6:40:54 AM

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each relationship is as different as the people involved. the dynamic is a changing concept as we grow and learn.

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RE: Slaves - 12/4/2005 6:59:36 AM

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I might suggest that you asks a more experienced Master to become your Mentor, while you are.....ummm, learning the ropes.

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RE: Slaves - 12/4/2005 12:45:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

I might suggest that you asks a more experienced Master to become your Mentor, while you are.....ummm, learning the ropes.

i wholeheartedly agree. rather than ask "do you like this" or "does this really set you off" find out what's behind it all. for that, you need to do more than ask about a laundry list of things. you need to know about dynamics. read a ton, go to lessons, and find someone who can teach you a thing or fifty.

i wish you well.

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RE: Slaves - 12/4/2005 1:24:44 PM

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thank you all, you have givin me much need information that will help me along my learning path into what i will become later down the road.

I have thought about having someone be mentor to me and teach me some that they have learned theirself. I just need to find that mentor.

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RE: Slaves - 12/4/2005 1:26:18 PM

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What do i want from a Master?...hmmmm....a heavy spanking hand...the ability to know when to spank first and ask questions later..or to ask questions first and spank later...

Actually, what i want from a Master is for Him to be able to controll Himself before He attempts to controll me, there is nothing sexier that speeks to my softest places then a man who is in complete controll, even when He seems out of controll, after all when it comes to being submissive, if i can't trust you to be in controll of yourself, i can not trust and relax and submit to my fullest, if i have to worry you'll take things to far

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RE: Slaves - 12/4/2005 1:31:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: aFreak

thank you all, you have givin me much need information that will help me along my learning path into what i will become later down the road.

I have thought about having someone be mentor to me and teach me some that they have learned theirself. I just need to find that mentor.

the suggestions that you got today from your thread called "RE: New master needs to learn" on the board "Ask a Master" still apply.

you got some very good advice there about tuning in to being a dominant and how it is for submissives; i would only add that it would be good to heed that advice. read the books and essays and read the boards, taking heed of the advice and then come back later with perhaps some new questions that come up after doing that.

i think you will do well and find yourself and what you want along the way. reading these boards along with the books suggested to you on the other forum would also prove enlightening. mainly, it's about reading, seeing, talking, and figuring out what things appeal to you, and what ways are yours. after you assimilate all into yourself, i think you will find that what you're looking for will come out naturally.

i wish you well.

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RE: Slaves - 1/21/2006 1:20:10 AM

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It's easy to talk about things a Master does to a sub/slave, or has them do for the Master. The hard part there is as has been said, finding the right things to do.

But no one has mentioned what is to me the most important aspect of a Master, not mearly a Dom, and to me one of the critical differences between them. (i know people will argue its just labels, like sub and slave, but to me Master and Slave, is a far stronger thing and has special definitions - my opinion, your milage may vary)

To me one of the most import aspects of a Master is the emotional strenght and capacity to take the slave wholy within themselves (in an emotional sense) because vulnerability is something that comes part and parcell to deep submisison. In this happy deep submissive state of mind your potential slave will be very open and very vulnerable, to take her in to yourself is to provide a shelter where she is safe from the world outside.

This for me is the only way i can fully be myself. i need to submit to be wholey alive, and to submit i need to be safe in my Masters arms.

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