CreativeDominant -> RE: Settling disagreements (10/2/2008 12:57:30 PM)
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ORIGINAL: zakkan I recently had a rather big disagreement with a teacher of mine, which he settled by saying "I am the teacher, so listen to me!" It turned out in the end that he was right, but whatever...[:'(] My question is, in any relationship, not just a D/s one, there are bound to be disagreements. Will the doms/dommes be tempted to "play the dom card" and avoid long arguments about who is right? As noted, it depends on the situation. Much like challenging the dominant, there are those submissives who agree to submit and then proceed to argue with you over every single thing you try to command/institute/whatever. In that case, I will just say the following; "Everything you are trying to argue with me about are things that were discussed and agreed to BEFORE you ever agreed to submit to me. The fact that you are arguing about them now, when you've agreed to submit to them previously, tells me that you are not submitting at this time. Is that correct?" That usually slows things down and sometimes leads to an acknowledgement that I am right and sometimes leads to a request on her part to please sit down and discuss these things further. There are instances that have nothing to do with the subject of D/s or BDSM but with other aspects of life in which disagreements come up. I will discuss things up to a certain point but when it is clear that anger is beginning to hold sway or that the argument is being supported by a stubborn need to be right or to have things "their" way, I too will say "That's it...I don't want to hear anymore right now" and then come back to it when heads are cooler.
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