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PeonForHer -> Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 2:28:35 PM)

I've had lots of nice emails, for which I'm grateful, but a couple that have rung very faint warning bells.  These have come from members who have no pictures, very short profiles and are written in bad English.  One came recently from someone who said she was touring, happened to be in my town, and asked if we could meet - implicitly, within 24 hours.  After I said "yes", all communication from her ceased.  I've read the security advice on this forum as thoroughly as I can - but could anyone tell me, is there anything more that might be a potential worry here?

Thanks in advance,

pforH




sub4hire -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 3:01:31 PM)

Go with your first instinct.  Which sounds as though it is a warning.

Nobody can protect you but yourself.  I can tell you I've never met a person within one day of talking to them online.  Those that I did meet quickly I met at a munch.  We parted ways after it was over.
Some would say it was a red flag and others would say it was ok.  So just go with your instinct.




PeonForHer -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 3:27:52 PM)

Thanks, sub4hire.  I gave out my mobile no., but no more than that.  I don't even know what conceivably could have arisen as a problem.  Just a faint bell, as I say.




sub4hire -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 3:32:48 PM)

No problem with only giving out your cell.  I have relatives who only have that..hehe




faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 3:43:33 PM)

would you prefer if they were quite left?




PeonForHer -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 4:37:21 PM)

Ditto.  I wonder if we have the some of the same relatives? [;)]




hapistan -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 4:51:36 PM)

I've had the touring and in my town twice now!
which quite aside from the fact (which they'd of course not know) that I'm obssessed enough about music that I've usually a reasonable idea of whos on of a night - and its not hard unless you live in a very large city.
but the last time it was about half nine in the evening and bands would be you know, playing a gig, at that time.

one I humoured, expecting it to be a request for money quite soon (my profile says, i'm really not interested in cyber) but i was curious to see how right i was, the request came quickly, i politely declined. i go back online several hours later the person messages me again, I ask if 'she' forgot she's already tried me, and i get a guilt trip about how i've really upset her!

theres been others I've ignored, usually the profile is already dead by the time i see it anyway,  though i did reply to one earlier asking me
"hello there??? care to chat a Miss???? do u have a ym or msn???"
with.
"hi sorry but i dont know what those are, are they some sort of fetishes?"

and funnily enough the reason I was looking here in the first place was I was curious if other people were getting the messages, and further to that is it just those listed as males, or just submissive males?




PeonForHer -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:20:14 PM)

Gotcha. 

Yes, well, I noticed that she purportedly came from a place in the USA, but couldn't spell the name of that place properly. 

Interesting . . .




GreedyTop -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:23:26 PM)

I got one the other day from some guy who wanted me to "make a relation" with him, he listed as living in Alabama, UK  *snort*




slaveboy291 -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:26:18 PM)

I've had these touring messages too.  They always say touring Ontario and leave an e-mail address.  I knew there was  something fishy




slaveboy291 -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:28:03 PM)

and the chat with a miss message too




hapistan -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:34:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CuddlyParrotGirl

quote:

is it just those listed as males, or just submissive males?


Hmmm... I'm a sub female and have never gotten a message of that sort.



we're probably just written down somewhere as a needy bunch.

perhaps if its ok this thread could be somewhere to put, if not the username of the person for fear of unfairly marking someone, just the last line and the location of them? then we can report en masse and they'll be gone soon enough. surely?




hapistan -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:37:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I got one the other day from some guy who wanted me to "make a relation" with him, he listed as living in Alabama, UK  *snort*


so close, if only he'd had an atlas he'd have known its birmingham in the uk, not alabama!
they are at least fair these spamming cashtarts, they are so stupid it'd be difficult to be caught out by them!

what relation did you end up making btw? son or daughter!




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:43:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I got one the other day from some guy who wanted me to "make a relation" with him, he listed as living in Alabama, UK  *snort*


That my brother, he know no shit.....you make relation with me.  I live in Denver, Miami.




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:45:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I've had lots of nice emails, for which I'm grateful, but a couple that have rung very faint warning bells.  These have come from members who have no pictures, very short profiles and are written in bad English.  One came recently from someone who said she was touring, happened to be in my town, and asked if we could meet - implicitly, within 24 hours.  After I said "yes", all communication from her ceased.  I've read the security advice on this forum as thoroughly as I can - but could anyone tell me, is there anything more that might be a potential worry here?

Thanks in advance,

pforH


That my sister.  She say you no send love package.  She married now.  She wait for love package, now she married.




GreedyTop -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:50:55 PM)

LMAO!!!  

I couldnt make a relation with him because I couldnt find my way to Alabama UK *sobs*
Denver, Miami? Hmm..




hapistan -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 5:59:21 PM)

I'm sure you're heartbroken at missing out....
i thought one of you tatoos was something else then, cliked your name to see if he'd made an even bigger error... .noticed you've got in your text something really any sensible person would do had they had the same foresight, namely just blocking anyone who asks for IM straight off, cos thinking about it, even if you were deleting a real person, you'd just be deleting a needlessly impatient one after all.




PeonForHer -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 6:12:52 PM)

Yep, everyone's had the same sorts of "hits", then.  Mine came from "Beverlly Hills" [sic], spoke lots of text-ese, said "I'm here in Bath" but also "we're touring", said twice that I should "add her" (I only worked out what that meant the next day) - but, most oddly of all, said "thank you" at the end.  Don't know why, but that really didn't sit right.  And I've just discovered her profile's gone.

I think she lost interest because I said (truthfully) that I was, in fact, staying in Bristol that night. Maybe I was supposed to go out to some pub, meet her and give her some money.  Who knows?  A new scam born every minute . . .




YourhandMyAss -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/6/2008 9:12:56 PM)

Being in the USA and not being able to spell properly isn't really all that much of an indication of anything, other than illiteracy or lazyness maybe.

hell I can't spell the names of some of the places I've been. Misassippe is one of them.  Now true I could use spell check but I just don't care to bother. And that points to my lazyness, and that the school system didn't do a very good job if I got clear through to twelth grade and can't spell very well lol.
quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Gotcha. 

Yes, well, I noticed that she purportedly came from a place in the USA, but couldn't spell the name of that place properly. 

Interesting . . .





PeonForHer -> RE: Messages from members that don't seem "quite right" (10/7/2008 1:36:52 AM)

I take your point, Yourhand and- I'd hate to think of myself as a "spelling snob".  Some of the smartest of my friends can't spell to save their lives.  But "Beverlly Hills" - and her saying she lived there too? 

"Mississippi" makes me titter as an example, though, because it brings back a fond old memory.  My father taught my brothers and I how to spell that as a sort of rhyme, when we were tiny kids.  We'd all sit in the back of the car going

"M-I-S,
S-I-S,
S-I-P-P-I!"




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