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DavanKael -> "Compromising" Positions (10/6/2008 9:12:06 PM)
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Hi, all----
I was discussing, off-board, with a rather prolific poster on-board the distinction between terms such as Dom, sub, and switch. Related to said identifiers, the individual queried me about an activity I cite in my profile as of particular enjoyment to myself (And, obviously, others). For the sake of condensing, I strongly prefer the s-side of the kneel in my contemplation of relations with men. I also very much enjoy f*cking men with a strap-on. The person with whom I was holding a conversation asserted that by virtue of my stated preference in that regard, I could not possibly be submissive with a Dominant male after such an activity (He also used some terms like Alpha Dom that I think completely 'jump the shark' on this topic and possibly at large but if someone else wants to use them, feel free. One citation he gave was that an Alpha Dom <whatever that particular creature is > could get oral from a male and not have it threaten his orientation but that being f*cked by a woman simply would not happen as it would eclipse his orientation and that which would serve him: I think that's a load of BS and said so). He stated that after 'going there' the other person's Dominance and my submissiveness would be ever-afer compromised and, at best, I am a switch (Which I identify as anyway but in his usage, it didn't seem a positive descriptor or in the spirit of why I use that identifier) and, I suppose, that would relegate the other person to the same negatively toned descriptor as well. I told him that I respectfully but most emphatically disagree with his assertion. I've experienced that which I assert (I have also experienced exerting total control with a male being submissive to me: the experiences, but for the 'nuts and bolts' aspects < no pun intended > are not in any way the same. Very, very different energy, experience, people, everything. Waaaaaaaaay different. Not the same at all; not even vaguely similar, imo. And, no alteration of energy or dynamics thereafter.). So, my ultimate assertion on the conversation was: "I think that it is insanely silly to distinguish being f*cked or sucked as a potential form of service. Service is service no matter where you're putting whatever you're putting."
I'm absolutely and abundantly certain of where I, and anyone of relevance to me, stand on this point but I'm picking the gauntlet the individual tossed in challenge to me to put this up on the boards for folks to toss around.
Davan
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